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    Frankie21 [sign in to see picture]
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    We'd tried spanking on and off in the past - enjoyed it but never pursued it. Hubby likes to spank me with his hand whilst I'm riding him. He enjoys it, I don't mind it.

    But the other day we had a major paddle session. It was mind-blowing. For him, it made him immediately very hard (and he was only giving) and brought him very close to climax.
    For me, it wasn't a completely sexual thing. it was more like i was being de-constructed, stripped right back. By the end I was drooling - unaware of little else other than the pain, the heat on my buttocks and the feeling of that heat as it crept slowly and inexorably towards my clit.

    Whilst we enjoyed it previously it had never been like that before for either of us. Everybody changes. Exposure to porn, hearing stories of what turns other people on, watching other people experience pleasurable pain can all alter the ways we view a sexual stimulant.

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    wildflower [sign in to see picture]
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    I love being spanked, apart from the pain/pleasure aspect I think its the feeling of being physically at the mercy of someone else.
    I think I get more out of it than my husband does and would like to do it more often but as we never have the house to ourselves and spanking creates a fair bit of noise we don't get to do it that much :-(

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    slinx [sign in to see picture]
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    Until recentley i didnt understand the spanking thing at all ,never wanted anyone to slap me and then a few weeks ago during my oh playing with me using my glass wand he caressed my arse cheak with his hand and then gave it a good hard slap. The sensation was amazing and left a huge handprint on my arse :)

    He felt really bad that he had left a mark on me but I loved it and am quite happy for him to do it again at the right moment. I think its the combination of gentle caress and then the sound and sting that does it and it really heightened my pleasure. I was quite surpised! TBH I think he was too.

    Oh and Gg I love my little bit of arse wobble ;)

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    Sexyback69 [sign in to see picture]
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    I was exactly the same didn't understand it but now I love it while I'm getting fucked, a little spanking highlights the sensation and sends thrills through my body

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    Treacletoes [sign in to see picture]
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    I must admit at first I thought it was just a good excuse for the oh to have some fun, but now it really turns me on but I must admit if I am not in thre right frame of mind it does not happen.

    Which is why we always have a talk before we have that sort of session which I know sounds a bit oh god its all planned but from experience I have learnt that it is better for my own experience and enjoyment to discuss before.

    We now have a varied selection of whips, canes etc but if you had told me that two years ago I would have laughed my head off saying thats definately not for me. Gosh how our lives change.

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    Mr. Swank [sign in to see picture]
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    They certainly do, and of course pain play as always been the back of our minds. It is the enticement of the "animal" in us. Rough, carnal, wild with no inhibitions.

    The redness of it all is very compelling indeed.

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    Dota [sign in to see picture]
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    It was a taboo for me. I hated it. My OH tried to slap my bum once (and couple times after) with hand and that was it - it turned me off completely.
    As much as i hated it before i love it now, but not with a hand (it's still a no-no) it must be a paddle.

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    ShaftMaster wrote:

    georgie69 wrote:

    ShaftMaster wrote:

    georgie69 wrote:

    Tomcatter wrote:

    georgie69 wrote:

    Tomcatter wrote:

    My Fiancee is into the spanking despite being in an abusive relationship before, not sure how it works but hey :) im enjoying it

    My husband is just the same...he can't understant it but does it for me

    Are you into the tying down side too?

    A bit yes

    Same with my gf. She was previously in an overpowering relationship, but now loves being spanked, tied down me being 'her man'.

    Hubby is struggling to understand how I can enjoy it,are you ok with it? with her past? Xx

    More curious than struggling. I don't take things as far as she probably wants me too just incase I go too far, but I know she trusts me that I'm only doing it as foreplay, and she'd let me know when to stop if it did get too far.

    It does have a certain psychology too it; a liberation from the fear of the past because the trust that is in the present. Taking a past negative and turning it into a positive is a mental victory adn thus very empowering. Also, if you find the right threshold it releases lots of feel good drugs in the brain - everyone loves that!

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    pinkanimal [sign in to see picture]
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    slapping my ass with his hand does nothing for me but i want to try paddles and floggers

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    Seaside Secret [sign in to see picture]
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    We recently got a flogger, have done some spanking in the past but I always worry in case I spank her too hard. I want it too hurt, not make her cry haha.

    The flogger was an experience! So amazing as I didn't have to moderate how much force I put into it (well not as much) and she absoloutly loved it. Has become a firm favourite!

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    Dota [sign in to see picture]
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    I really love the FSOG spanking paddle. Because it has padded satin side and faux leather side, so it gives plenty to play with - from soft and silky sliding to sharp and stingy slaps.

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    pinkanimal [sign in to see picture]
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    Dota wrote:

    I really love the FSOG spanking paddle. Because it has padded satin side and faux leather side, so it gives plenty to play with - from soft and silky sliding to sharp and stingy slaps.

    I have ordered this as part of the 3 for £30 and a flogger and crop and now i have the restraints kit coming too im all set!

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    I've occasionally spanked the OH while she is riding me and this went well (and vice versa). What would be the best intro hitty thing to build on this? Also is spanking better when done on it's own, or during intercourse? We're just trying to take little steps into this rather than going straight for the torture implements and dungeon.

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    pinkanimal [sign in to see picture]
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    StHubbins wrote:

    I've occasionally spanked the OH while she is riding me and this went well (and vice versa). What would be the best intro hitty thing to build on this? Also is spanking better when done on it's own, or during intercourse? We're just trying to take little steps into this rather than going straight for the torture implements and dungeon.

    we are total beginners and just bought these

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21802

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15815

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=26079

    3 for £30 good deal imo and i got the 25% off too!

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    StHubbins [sign in to see picture]
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    pinkanimal wrote:

    StHubbins wrote:

    I've occasionally spanked the OH while she is riding me and this went well (and vice versa). What would be the best intro hitty thing to build on this? Also is spanking better when done on it's own, or during intercourse? We're just trying to take little steps into this rather than going straight for the torture implements and dungeon.

    we are total beginners and just bought these

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21802

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15815

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=26079

    3 for £30 good deal imo and i got the 25% off too!

    If I bought three things straight away I think she'd run for the hills, but would be interested to know how it goes.

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    pinkanimal [sign in to see picture]
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    StHubbins wrote:

    pinkanimal wrote:

    StHubbins wrote:

    I've occasionally spanked the OH while she is riding me and this went well (and vice versa). What would be the best intro hitty thing to build on this? Also is spanking better when done on it's own, or during intercourse? We're just trying to take little steps into this rather than going straight for the torture implements and dungeon.

    we are total beginners and just bought these

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21802

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15815

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=26079

    3 for £30 good deal imo and i got the 25% off too!

    If I bought three things straight away I think she'd run for the hills, but would be interested to know how it goes.

    erm yeah i dunno how well hubby will take it pmsl.

    ill let him loose on me first i guess.

    its a good trust exercise I guess.

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    wavey68 [sign in to see picture]
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    I love spanking and being spanked........... shame the Misses doesn't!

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    Sometimes I prefer spanking to sex. I don't need to tell anyone here how blissful the afterglow of orgasm is but being subjected to a lengthy spanking brings me a peace I can't find anywhere else. I can't really describe it. The closest thing I can compare it to is being seduced with under sedation. I love the feeling of being relaxed yet wired, high yet calm.

    But the punishment spank - that's a different animal altogether but if I said I didn't enjoy it I'd be a liar. Sometimes I earn myself one on purpose and I always feel a little smugness mixed in with my contrition afterwards. The OH knows this and he gets off on it, though when he eventually finds my pain threshold I'll probably change my tune!

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    For my boyfriend and I, it is EXTREMELY sexual play with the over his lap position being the most intimate. There are of course clinical explanations of why spanking in such position would be arousing. The slaps causing a rush of blood to the area and and because of the proximity to the genitals, resulting in swelling of tissues and all.. the friction of squirming stimulating the labia and clit. Sure this is true. But, I think it goes way beyond that to why it is so erotic for me.

    I crave a dominant, controlling, confident man. I feel this greatly when I am over his lap feeling his muscular thighs beneath me, his strong hand holding me in place. There is pain to the spanking sure, especially when he uses toys.. but it is a stingy heat that goes thru my body like electricity causing much more noises and feelings of pleasure that overshadow any pain. In this position, this kind of play, his masculinity is overpowering and I LOVE it.

    This pictures what I am trying to describe with being in that position.


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    This is the eroticism I mean... without the ritualisms of punishment/discipline. Unless, of course, it is some part of a role play which is a lot of fun to do occasionally. I love being a bad, dirty girl and that easily fits into a scenario of the naughty schoolgirl, maid, secretary, etc. But, even then it's all in fun.

    I have cum from spanking alone many many times and while those orgasms are great, they are nothing compared to those during the sex after spanking (which can include more spanking). Those are positively nuclear.

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    mysteron [sign in to see picture]
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    There are other apects of spnking apart from the pain, controlling attributes that can arous people in different ways such as the humiliation aspect , which can include corner time and the prospect of being forced naked below the waist etc.

    There are other forms of spanking that are nothing to do with pain at all such as erotic spanking which is all to do with touch rather than pain which gets the other person aroused.

    In all its quite a big and varied field centred all around one activity .

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