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    sugarplum fairy [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi all i am really bi curious and just wondered if anyone knew how i would go about finding someone in the same boat. Cant ask any of my female friends . Any advice would be great thanks.

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    menyanthe [sign in to see picture]
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    I have such problem, too. I am a bit shy and could not ask people around...

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    plil [sign in to see picture]
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    I have the same problem ? x

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    Ms HKM [sign in to see picture]
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    Join a dating site or somewhere like Fabswingers, Explain you're curious and have some fun!

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    kinkycop [sign in to see picture]
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    Finding someone in the same boat is hard! I would try seeking someone you know thats Bi,les, etc and slowly open up to them of your feelings, they most like help you out. But don't come staight out with it! they may they you taking the mick! take it slow with such community and explain your feeling over time!

    Yes theres always time, I had the similar expereince too! But a friend that is a lesibian she was quite nice to me & understanding of the issues too! because I had gay thoughts but she tells me to take it slow and give it lots of time to think about it!

    I've made my choice! I have friends that are gay etc! its doesn't bother me, I respect everyone I meet!

    but have a faimily that hates gays etc! when my older bother split up with his OH and smashed up their house after a drunken rage, he told me if I become gay he do me in!

    But I am completely different to my brother! I don't drink for starters, and I have friends that are gay, I am a gently, resonable person, and if anyone threated my friend, I tell you now, I be on my motorbike around her house to sort out the problem! if she did even live 4hours away! a quick phone I be round! not sorting the mess on phone for hours!

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    yummy mummy91 [sign in to see picture]
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    This may be a silly question so Im apologising now but how do you know if your bi curious?

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    MissBoo [sign in to see picture]
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    yummy mummy91 wrote:

    This may be a silly question so Im apologising now but how do you know if your bi curious?

    Well I think if you are curious about experimenting with the opposite sex that means you maybe somewhat bi-curious...

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    naughtywildfun90 [sign in to see picture]
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    i never knew i was bi until my best friend kissed me and we slept together, i had curiosities but as i was only 14 i thought i was just confused and it was normal. then as i grew older i realised i loved women aswell as men. I would join a site like fabswingers and have some fun, there are loads of bi-curious females on there. just please please make sure you verify them by cam and phone before arranging anything xx

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    yummy mummy91 [sign in to see picture]
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    I've experimented a little some friends in my teens kissing etc does this make curious

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    dotdashdot [sign in to see picture]
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    Try shybi . com

    you're unlikely to meet anyone to meet up with on there but it's always good to talk to lots of similar minded people and they might be able to give you some advice :)

    Otherwise... could you try going to a gay club? Or getting a little tipsy and chatting up a girl in a regular club.

    I've kissed a few girls (nothing more) and they were all on nights out. Very nice :)

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    Lady.Gasm.X [sign in to see picture]
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    I was in this same position when I was fourteen. Now everyone is different and I would not say for one minute to do what I did because I am a very open person; I don't care what people think about me. I came out straight away, I just announced it in conversation to everyone I spoke to! Word soon got round and I was finally able to be myself. I often worried about people judging me but nobody ever really said anything against it which was lucky. I had a few bad comments about it and initially my parents thought it was 'just a phase' but although I have not had many sexual female partners (I have never been in a relationship with a female), I still feel very attrated to them and can imagine myself being with a woman some day. I am now happily in a relationship with a man. In some cases people mentioned friends in similar situations and hooked me up. I now have lot of friends who are bi and gay, and I once went to a 'gay social group' which was nice. One suggestion I will say could apply to anyone is going to a gay bar. It is a lot easier to relax and mingle in surroundings like a club or bar. I think each and ery girl has the tendencies to be attracted to the similar sex and maybe it IS just a fantasy... but you will never know till you get out there!

    One more thing I will add - don't be in such a rush to label yourself. You are YOU! You don't need a word of description to let everyone know who you are. You may never know yourself.

    Good luck! X

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    2nd Chance T [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi, crickey I should have posted this myself. I too am very curious so i've joined fabswingers and have chatted to some really nice people. The main problem is some are on as couples so i've had alot of offers of threesomes which is not what i'm looking for. However I have had a couple of really nice lady's who would be interested in a solo meet. Come on and join girls it's lots of fun xx

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    LadyGasm and Dotdashdot have already said a lot of the points I was going to bring up.

    I was in totally the same position from the age of 14. I had a couple of "girlfriends", but there was nothing sexual to it. We just felt like we were in love, spent time together and held hands a lot. All of my friends are luckily, extremely supportive and although one of them told me it was just a phase, at the age of 22 I can still appreciate and, yeah, lust after a good looking woman.

    I went through my more sexual phase of exploring with the same sex around 20, 21. I was having trouble with relationships with men and instead of saying 'he's not the right one for me', I thought I was gay because I was still attracted to women and men. Women just tugged my strings more then. I came out to my friends, my Dad, even my Grandparents whose response was 'We thought you might be. Oh well, as long as you're happy."

    In any case, I'd told my close friend and asked her exactly the same thing; where the hell do I go to meet someone? In Bath (where LoveHoney is based!) we had a couple of gay bars. Only one of them is open now, but I went there a couple of times. They had a lesbian night on the first sunday of every month (I went on the second sunday and was sat there like a numpty reading a book!) so I missed out on that, but I went there one night (alone, not advisable, but luckily I saw some people I knew). Some flirting commenced with a girl and we ended up having a bit of a moment, to put it lightly. I was texting her for a while when I met my current partner; a man. I couldn't be happier with him. I don't like to label, but I label myself as straight because I am at the moment and I don't see that ever changing. I still find women attractive, I can still enjoy lesbian porn, but that's not who I am right now.

    As my Dad said when I told him I was gay when it was snowing on the M5 (apart from 'what about my grandchildren?) he said don't rush to say you're gay, or bisexual. I'm lucky enough that he didn't mind what I wanted to be, but I see now that I was really rushing to stick this label on myself and get 'into the scene' as it was.

    At the end of the day, you like who you like and you love who you love. If you want to try out new things; go for it! Why not? Go to your local gay pub with a supportive friend and see how you feel. Go on the sites that other people have mentioned - above all, be careful, safe, and don't rush to label yourself. Be who you want and don't worry what other people think; you can tell them if you want to, you don't have to if you don't want to. It's all up to you.

    Well, that was longer than I was anticipating. :D

    Edit; Before I forget, I just remembered a good piece of advice I found when I was in my exploration moment; don't use out-and-out lesbians as a test to see whether or not you're bisexual, or a lesbian. As with a man, or a woman, some people just want a snog or no strings etc, but be careful because you don't want to (albeit accidentaly) hurt someone's feelings if they're looking for something more. Or they could just get outright offended.

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    sugarplum fairy [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks all for your words of wisdom. I will have a look around but maybe it will come to nothing who knows .

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    dotdashdot [sign in to see picture]
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    truffle wrote:

    I came out to my friends, my Dad, even my Grandparents whose response was 'We thought you might be. Oh well, as long as you're happy."

    Aww that's so cute!! Great advice truffle :) x

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    sugarplum fairy wrote:

    Thanks all for your words of wisdom. I will have a look around but maybe it will come to nothing who knows .

    Maybe it will.. maybe it won't. At least you've got some information and you're really thinking about who you are and who you might be :) x

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