• How much sex are we really having?

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    Bemmy I think you both need to talk but dont make it a threatening "more sex or I'm leaving" scenario

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    If I try and start a converstation it comes down to me being demanding again. She knows I wont leave as we have 2 kids aged 6 and 8. She know I dont like confrontation and If i started to say about making love more often then it would blow up and back to square one. Even when we do make out, she says eomatic things like, are you going to put it in. Not exactly sexy etc, tends to be more delating.

    But as my father says, Its my bed so I will just have to lie in it.

    But thanks for the advice

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    bemmyscot wrote:

    If Smoothballs82 mrs has a low sex drive, then my wifes is non existent. If im lucky its 3 or 4 times a year but only If I instigate it. It has dropped this low as theer is only so many times that you can take that she is too tired or I have cum to bed too late etc. I know its swings and roundabouts and that there are women whos hubbys etc have a low sex drive, but I dont thin im asking too much for 12 times a year, Or am I?

    Bemmy, I was very much like your wife a few years ago and I know how hard it is to be patient but there must be a reason for it, there certainly was for me. It's all about communication and I know everyone says that but it's true. You need to tell her exactly how you feel and that you need more intimacy and find out why she dosen't want to. It all has to be done calmly, if you start to get frustrated or cross it will never work. My ex used to sulk and moan instead of trying to understand and that just made me want to sleep with him less. Good luck x

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    Ever give her a massage on the understanding it wouldnt lead to sex?

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    Bemmy, can I ask how old you both are?

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    She has a low Thyriod but she has been taking medication for that for alost a year, but we have been like this i think since before my son was born, maybe before that. I wonder sometime if all she wanted me for was my cum, to make kids. Now that we have kids, my cock and my cum are now just not needed anymore, therefore We have sex etc just to appease me a few times a year.

    Thanks for ur advice

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    Im 52 so is Mrs G living together 29 yrs

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    Oh and when you do make love try a lubricant...they work wonders, in later life mrs g was put off because she got sore very very quickly

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    Poor you bemmyscot. I'd find that very hard to cope with! Do you know why she has such a low sex drive?

    I certainly don't think it is just a "common thing with women" as I have a much higher sex drive than my husband, and have done with previous partners as well. I also know quite a few women similar to me.

    Sex used to be very routine with us and was only instigated if we noticed it had "been a while"!
    I get very offended (due to my self esteem) when I have suggested sex to my husband in the past and been turned down. I wasn't really satisfied with my sex life any more so I decided to do something about it.

    So I joined Love Honey :) and I can proudly say I have had more sex since finding this site than I had in months.

    I've found my husband seems to be more like a woman(!) in the way that he needs more attention than what I thought and I've learnt not to give up if he's not erect by the time I've said 'sex'...
    He needs to think he's in control when in fact he's being cleverly manipulated :-P

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    gunther wrote:

    Im 52 so is Mrs G living together 29 yrs

    That's wonderful, and you still seem very happy x

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    2nd Chance T wrote:

    gunther wrote:

    Im 52 so is Mrs G living together 29 yrs

    That's wonderful, and you still seem very happy x

    ty we are overall but not at the moment coz in 90 mins time ill be checking in for my flight ...silver wedding was last year lol

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    i have quite a high sex drive but i do find it peeks around ovulation at that time of the month i dont just want my hubby but i NEED him 24/7 for around 5 days lol

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    In answer to all those that asked me questions.

    Gunther yes I have given my wife massages without expecting anything in return. I enjoy doing that.

    2nd Chance T I am 45 and my wife is 37.

    Miss Boo- I think it has to do with her under active thyriod, at least I hope so.

    Thanks for all the advice etc

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    I feel for you.

    I believe, as others have said, communication is a massive part of a healthy sex life. Sometimes if you knew how your actions were making someone feel you'd be willing to give change a try.

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    But it needs 2 to tango as they say, If i raise the subject it will be im too tired or what do you want to talk about that for, or I am being demanding. So unless anything chances then it will be my right hand and my imagination until I pop this mortal coil, just like being a shy kid again really but without the porn mags. Can use the internet now. Got to laugh about otherwise you will end up crying

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    Prehaps if she knew how YOU felt? As she is making her feelings pretty clear. Talking about it doesn't mean you are demanding it there and then, but telling her how pushed away you feel might soften the mood. You have needs too and that shouldn't go unnoticed.

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    isnt that what my right hand is for. Sorry Ive just got cynical about the whole thing.

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    MissBoo wrote:

    I feel for you.

    I believe, as others have said, communication is a massive part of a healthy sex life. Sometimes if you knew how your actions were making someone feel you'd be willing to give change a try.

    I feel for you too. 45 is way to young to not be having a healthy sex life, having said that I know the pressures of young kids, job, house etc...... sex can become another thing on the to do list x

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    Personally none :( Perils of being single....

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    this weekend I was the energiser bunny

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