• My man thinks fleshlights are weird..

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    Lady.Gasm.X [sign in to see picture]
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    I recently showed my boyfriend some pictures of fleshlights and male sex toys and he basically told me I was weird for even thinking that he would 'put his cock anywhere near that'... Sex toys have always been the norm for me and I really can't get my head around why he is so against sex toys. He's not into bondage or anything like that either and I find it quite hard to believe that he wouldn't even have the slightest interest in anything like this. Has anyone even been in a similar situation..? Or do you think I am being insensitive? I really want to surprise him with a toy but I don't want him to be embarrassed and become distant with me.

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    ShaftMaster [sign in to see picture]
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    I suppose like many things, it's just what we take for granted. As I grew up and learnt about sex etc, 'Sex Toys' were always dildos or vibrators; ie, 'Womens' toys.

    It wasn't until I saw the fleshlight that I even considered there were toys for men, or wondered why there weren't more out there.

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    kusanagi [sign in to see picture]
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    Im not too keen on anything that looks too lifelike to be honest so some of the fleshlights dont appeal in the slightest. The Tenga toys however are amazing, i started off with one off the Egg's and ended up buying the flip hole :)

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    kusanagi wrote:

    Im not too keen on anything that looks too lifelike to be honest so some of the fleshlights dont appeal in the slightest. The Tenga toys however are amazing, i started off with one off the Egg's and ended up buying the flip hole :)

    What is it that puts you off about the realistic looking ones?

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    Nymeria [sign in to see picture]
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    I agree with starting off with something that isn't too realistic, especially if he seems against the fleshlights which are based on the "real thing".

    The Tenga eggs are a great way to introduce some male toys as well as sleeves and strokers. http://search.lovehoney.co.uk/search?w=tenga+egg&view=list

    I'd recommend grabbing this one as deal of the day for a bargain! http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/deal-of-the-day/

    I think just incorporating it as foreplay would be a good start, perhaps blindfold him so he won't be too weirded out by how it looks. Also, don't be surprised if he really does appear to be against it. I'd have it so that the option is there if he begins to open up to the idea. And it is quite "normal" for this situation to occur.

    Good luck and let us know how you get on!

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    Lady.Gasm.X wrote:

    kusanagi wrote:

    Im not too keen on anything that looks too lifelike to be honest so some of the fleshlights dont appeal in the slightest. The Tenga toys however are amazing, i started off with one off the Egg's and ended up buying the flip hole :)

    What is it that puts you off about the realistic looking ones?

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    Im not sure, it just seems a bit odd having a dismembered pussy in a tube lol. I guess i probably overthink it though

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    Lady.Gasm.X [sign in to see picture]
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    Could you tell me more about these Tenga eggs?

    And Kusanagi.. That's why I like them, because they look real :)

    x

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    kusanagi [sign in to see picture]
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    Lady.Gasm.X wrote:

    Could you tell me more about these Tenga eggs?

    And Kusanagi.. That's why I like them, because they look real :)

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    Thats whats great about this sort of thing, people like all kinds of different things so there is plenty of things to try :) ill never say never, just prefer non realistic ones.

    The Tenga eggs and a really stretchy sillicone egg that has little ripples/bumps/lumps inside, you pop the supplied lube in it then put it over the tip of the penis and stretch it down as you stroke, the bumps and ripples move up and down and feel great :) the are listed as one use only but can be easily washed and re used, mine is still going strong after many uses.

    This is the sort of thing :http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15678

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    Kirsty_x [sign in to see picture]
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    My boyfriend would totally recommend the Tenga Eggs. We bought a pack of 6 different textures & he loves them! http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=17114 Like Kusanagi says, they do say they are one use, but i think we've still got 3 unopened as they can be washed and used again! If you buy the 6-pack (or just spend £30 on the Tenga range) you get a free 'egg' of lube too! You get some with each egg anyway, but it's a really nice lube that you can use for other toys too.

    These dont look lifelike at all; they were one of the first toys we bought & he couldn't wait to use them!

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    Love my fleshlight :D

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    I have seen the fleshlights and others they dont appeal at all. If I am not with a woman I prefer to shut my eyes amd imagine that I am...its all in my head looking at a plastic vulva wouldnt do anything.

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    :) I love the fleshlight! but I may get another insert soon! I would recommend trying the egg or the tracy cox superstroaker which is clear and don't look embarring, as to a full on blow-up doll!!!

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    alwayssingle:( wrote:

    :) I love the fleshlight! but I may get another insert soon! I would recommend trying the egg or the tracy cox superstroaker which is clear and don't look embarring, as to a full on blow-up doll!!!

    Thats why i like the Tenga flip hole, it just looks like a random gadget

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    alwayssingle:( wrote:

    :) I love the fleshlight! but I may get another insert soon! I would recommend trying the egg or the tracy cox superstroaker which is clear and don't look embarring, as to a full on blow-up doll!!!

    Thats why i like the Tenga flip hole, it just looks like a random gadget

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    my hubby was exactly the same, i got a vibrating one, first time of usage i blindfolded him and tied him down, warmed the insert under the tap so it wasnt so cold, put some lube in and used it on him, the smile on his face was great as he knew it wasnt me but wasnt sure what it was, only thing i would say its bit bulky bu he enjoys it and i enjoy using it on him, until your man tries it Lgasm he doesnt know what he missing out on

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