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    Dee_licious333 wrote:

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    Why do women (more so than cheated on men in my experience) always assume it's something they've done/not done? It could well be that he (or she if vice versa) is just a cheating rat.

    But my husband isnt the type to cheat and he isnt a Rat Sharry but there would be a reason why he took to visiting a prostitute. So... like i said, i would have to contemplate why things had got to this stage. Perhaps we arent discussing sex, perhaps i am not being intimate with him, perhaps i dont consider his feelings .. ever etc etc. There are lots of reasons.

    I didn't say he is a rat. I don't know you or your husband so I can't, nor would I, comment on your relationship issues. I was speaking in purely abstract terms.

    If there's a problem in a couple's sex life they do need to talk about it, but it must be BEFORE jumping into bed with someone else. Why do men feel that it's okay to 'act' first and then say "we've got a problem"... this is one point I was making. If the cheater, be it man or woman, doesn't make an attempt to rectify the situation before being unfaithful, then they are a rat!

    I stand by what I said earlier, women, more so than men, tend to think "what have I done wrong" when, invariably, it's just that they're with someone who cannot remain faithful. For some reason they feel that they must be to blame. I'm not saying that this isn't the case sometimes but some men play on a womans insecurity and use it to justify their cheating... I've seen this happen with a friend and family member.

    Your comments back up my argument... words like "am *I* not this" or "am *I* not doing that", why would it automatically be the womans fault? Surely the first question should be "what are WE not doing right?"

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    sw666 most men go to a prostitute because they are actually lonely, I know I did lol I dont see much difference between a hooker and a cam girl to be honest

    insulting!!! a cam girl is blessed with the fact that she does not have to deal with these men- all the lying cheating scum, the druggies, the diseased and the lonely (and of course the normal and polite guys) face to face. I would never allow omebody to pay to have intercourse or anything near with me. Whereas I make a LOT of money 'seducing' men online. But i dont have to do anything i see as degrading, dangerous to myself and my health, illegal or particularly time consuming. There is a LOT of difference between a cam girl and an escort or 'hooker'

    Wecam girls and Escorts are very different but what strikes me about your post is your distaste for your webcam clients, I find that quite upsetting. I am an Escort and have been or many years and I'll tell you now I have never caught an STD so quite where you get that my clients & Escorts like myself are diseased I don't know. BTW I only do safe sex & get tested every six weeks oh and prostitution in my country is LEGAL. But one thing we do have in common is that we both sell sex.

    I know the media love to portray us as skanks but as an independant Escort I have a pretty normal life and the best social life you can ever imagine, I'm pretty picky about who I meet and if they sound disrespectful/drunk or unfriendly in anyway way I don't see them. Most of the men I see are married and whilst they love their wives and would never leave them or have an affair, they have sexual needs and want more sex its that simple! Men want lots of sex and women not so much, thats life.

    My clients are warm friendly normal guys, love to give pleasure, massages and have a laugh its all very light-hearted and not seedy at all, I have a nice apartment, I'm clean friendly and warm. I enjoy the friendship, sex and orgasms and earn a very good living. I much prefer Escorting to webcam & "pretending" to orgasm whislt frigging myself with a dildo, I want the real thing. Different stokes for different folks.

    Now I know people will never understand why I made the choice to be an Escort but I assure you I wouldn't have it any other way.

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    Miss Charlotte Dean wrote:

    Now I know people will never understand why I made the choice to be an Escort but I assure you I wouldn't have it any other way.

    I've met a few "professional" women who quite obviously enjoyed their job and lifestyle. One question if I may charlotte why do they ALL ask if you are married?

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    gunther wrote:

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    Now I know people will never understand why I made the choice to be an Escort but I assure you I wouldn't have it any other way.

    I've met a few "professional" women who quite obviously enjoyed their job and lifestyle. One question if I may charlotte why do they ALL ask if you are married?

    It's not a question I ever ask to be honest, the wedding band usually gives it away ;-)

    Perhaps the ladies are slightly nervous? I'm much more interested in what people do for a living, I'm an engineer by trade which some find a bit surprising to say the least. Conversation is a great ice-breaker but asking someone if they are married I imagine it would go pretty flat?

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    charlotte Ive never used an escort but all prostitutes ask it dunno why. I cant wear a wedding ring it makes my fingers swell up.

    Ive met a lot of female engineers and a couple of project managers which was a little strange, one was a muslim who while being as hard as nails in business insisted on puring the drinks at lunch.

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    gunther wrote:

    Ive met a lot of female engineers and a couple of project managers which was a little strange, one was a muslim who while being as hard as nails in business insisted on puring the drinks at lunch.

    That really made me laugh Gunther! I like it ;-)

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    Miss Charlotte Dean wrote:

    gunther wrote:

    Ive met a lot of female engineers and a couple of project managers which was a little strange, one was a muslim who while being as hard as nails in business insisted on puring the drinks at lunch.

    That really made me laugh Gunther! I like it ;-)

    Lol charlotte both the finance manager and project manager were Malaysian Muslim women it was all very strange and in a way quite intimidating, everyone was scared of saying the wrong thing lol

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    I live fairly close to the red light district and genuinely often wonder how much they charge. I don't have the balls to stop and ask in fear there's a cop nearby.

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    illumine wrote:

    Something else I offer via cam which I would never do in real life (unsure on the health implications here) is scat chat. This means I talk to men about what I would do with their excrement. This could include smearing, eating, putting feet in, etc. These men can only live out that fantasy on cam because unless they find someone very specialist, the average escort is not going to eat their shit (pardon the crudeness). In effect, my work involves creating believable fantasies to pleasure men.

    Illumine that is a shocking post, I didnt quote all of it because it leads to confusion.

    Guys with a thing for young girls should try home educating a hormonal teenage daughter that will fix any fantasy there lol. Much as I love her more than one hour in the company of her and her friends is mind numbing.

    Guys with a thing about toilet games should dislocate their hip and spend 2 months in a body cast being given suppositories having to be helped onto a bed pan then having to ask for their bottom to be wiped, usually in the presence of 2 people.

    Those with a prediliction for water sports should also dislocate their hip and experience involuntary emptying of the bladder in front of a crowd of curious onlookers, if it didnt hurt so much I may have been embarrassed.

    More seriously it worries me the people you describe are living amongst us, wheras I may have questionable morals they only involve regular sex not with kiddies and nothing to do with excrement. During childbirth Mrs G did a number 2 in front of me, she has no recollection and I would never mention it. It was all part of a very difficult delivery, she doesnt know anI I wouldnt humiliate her with it, she nearly died in the delivery it was the very least of our problems.

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    gunther wrote:

    Guys with a thing about toilet games should dislocate their hip and spend 2 months in a body cast being given suppositories having to be helped onto a bed pan then having to ask for their bottom to be wiped, usually in the presence of 2 people.

    Those with a prediliction for water sports should also dislocate their hip and experience involuntary emptying of the bladder in front of a crowd of curious onlookers, if it didnt hurt so much I may have been embarrassed.

    When it comes to fetishes, it's not like people choose what they want to be into. Each to their own when it comes to stuff like that.

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    illumine wrote:

    gunther wrote:

    illumine wrote:

    Something else I offer via cam which I would never do in real life (unsure on the health implications here) is scat chat. This means I talk to men about what I would do with their excrement. This could include smearing, eating, putting feet in, etc. These men can only live out that fantasy on cam because unless they find someone very specialist, the average escort is not going to eat their shit (pardon the crudeness). In effect, my work involves creating believable fantasies to pleasure men.

    or your kink is not my kink. People like different things and we all have to respect that, as long as they are doing nothing wrong (ie NOT molesting children). I myself love watersports, and love to indulge in the occasional golden shower however i can understand that it is not for everyone, just as some things are not for me. Maybe that is why i can manage the job i do. Only tonight i served a man that wanted a breeding fantasy. With an underage minor.

    Illumine

    During a very difficult time in my life I asked a prostitute to dominate me in germany unfortunately my german at the time was not very good she asked me if I liked Nature sect which I thought was natural sex but actually is a golden shower. After scaring the life out of me and doing the deed she completely broke me. I met her a couple of times after but we never did anything sexual. I am sure people who are into the BDSM thing could explain what happened in my head but it doesnt make sense to me. And I would never repeat it. It was nice at the time though.

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    illumine wrote:

    Miss Charlotte Dean wrote:

    illumine wrote:

    gunther wrote:

    sw666 most men go to a prostitute because they are actually lonely, I know I did lol I dont see much difference between a hooker and a cam girl to be honest

    insulting!!! a cam girl is blessed with the fact that she does not have to deal with these men- all the lying cheating scum, the druggies, the diseased and the lonely (and of course the normal and polite guys) face to face. I would never allow omebody to pay to have intercourse or anything near with me. Whereas I make a LOT of money 'seducing' men online. But i dont have to do anything i see as degrading, dangerous to myself and my health, illegal or particularly time consuming. There is a LOT of difference between a cam girl and an escort or 'hooker'

    Wecam girls and Escorts are very different but what strikes me about your post is your distaste for your webcam clients, I find that quite upsetting. I am an Escort and have been or many years and I'll tell you now I have never caught an STD so quite where you get that my clients & Escorts like myself are diseased I don't know. BTW I only do safe sex & get tested every six weeks oh and prostitution in my country is LEGAL. But one thing we do have in common is that we both sell sex.

    I know the media love to portray us as skanks but as an independant Escort I have a pretty normal life and the best social life you can ever imagine, I'm pretty picky about who I meet and if they sound disrespectful/drunk or unfriendly in anyway way I don't see them. Most of the men I see are married and whilst they love their wives and would never leave them or have an affair, they have sexual needs and want more sex its that simple! Men want lots of sex and women not so much, thats life.

    My clients are warm friendly normal guys, love to give pleasure, massages and have a laugh its all very light-hearted and not seedy at all, I have a nice apartment, I'm clean friendly and warm. I enjoy the friendship, sex and orgasms and earn a very good living. I much prefer Escorting to webcam & "pretending" to orgasm whislt frigging myself with a dildo, I want the real thing. Different stokes for different folks.

    Now I know people will never understand why I made the choice to be an Escort but I assure you I wouldn't have it any other way.

    Im sorry but I never said that you or your clients were diseased. Im saying the people I see are often like this. And I deal with a very different company to you, mainly men with obscure fetishes. 70% of men i see on cam fantasise about children in a sexual way.

    about half are men that wait till work or wait till their wife or girlfriend goes to work to see me.

    I am constantly asked if I can watch men taking ketamine, snort coke or use poppers.

    Yes I do voice my distaste for a lot of these men as i do not agree with what they do (ie the drug use) but it is my job. As i said in my original post, I am not the same as a 'hooker' because i do not have to meet my clients face to face. I do not have a problem with prostitution of course and never said I did. However I could never do that myself. One of my best friends is an escort so i know what it involves, and she sees very vanilla guys for very normal proceedings.

    But when a man wants to dress you in a nappy, have you suck a dummy while he 'rapes' you or 'forces' you to take drugs so he can use you as he wishes, well thats when I draw the line. I have been asked to be an escort many times, but while I am ok providing an online service where men can fulfill there fantasies in an interactive sense, I certainly am not ok to do that face to face.

    What many people think I do is different to what I actually do. Most people assume that being a cam girl means fucking myself with a vibrator or doing other sexual acts for money which sometimes I do, but it mostly consists of me talking to my clients via a webcam, telling stories and scenarios in such a way that they feel they are in that scene.

    Something else I offer via cam which I would never do in real life (unsure on the health implications here) is scat chat. This means I talk to men about what I would do with their excrement. This could include smearing, eating, putting feet in, etc. These men can only live out that fantasy on cam because unless they find someone very specialist, the average escort is not going to eat their shit (pardon the crudeness). In effect, my work involves creating believable fantasies to pleasure men.

    Thank you for reply, I really appreciate it and I'm sorry if I took your previous post the wrong way.
    I know there is a huge difference between camming, escorting and phone chat, I actually do phone chat too so I see where your coming from. The stuff I talk about in phone chat I would never do on a real meet, it's all about fantasy and I'm sure most of your clients on webcam would never actually do some of their fantasies in real ife. One particular fantasy springs to mind is when a client on a real meet says "I want to cum on your breasts and then lick it off" then when they do cum they never actually want to lick it off lol.
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    One particular fantasy springs to mind is when a client on a real meet says "I want to cum on your breasts and then lick it off" then when they do cum they never actually want to lick it off lol.

    Thats why most of my fatasies remain just that, its rarely as good as you think it will be.

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    gunther wrote:

    One particular fantasy springs to mind is when a client on a real meet says "I want to cum on your breasts and then lick it off" then when they do cum they never actually want to lick it off lol.

    Thats why most of my fatasies remain just that, its rarely as good as you think it will be.

    Sometimes thats the best way ;-)

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    Miss Charlotte Dean wrote:

    Thats why most of my fantasies remain just that, its rarely as good as you think it will be.

    Sometimes thats the best way ;-)

    with me definitely...some are just wierd lol not violent nasty or particulary pervy just wierd

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    KG how can you have a fantasy if you dont like contact?

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    I would only have a problem with it if I considered it cheating. I generally prefer an open relationship, with an agreement that we are honest about any sexual encounters and use protection. I reserve the right to veto someone I don't like or would upset me. Its mainly the forming of other caring/ loving relationships I view as cheating. If I'm not providing them with something they want/need, I would like to know about it so we can either work on the issue or agree for him to go elsewhere to have those needs met.

    With regards to sex workers, I don't have a problem with them or the men/women that use them providing it's safe and non exploitative. I'm with the majority and would like to see it legalised and regulated. Surely it's got to be better than hooking up with ramdomer on 'shag a stranger tonight' websites where you could be picking up also sorts of nasties!

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    Unless agreed upon when I enter a relationship wether seeing someone else is okay (wether paid for or not) I would be extremely pissed off if my fella was screwing someone else. If we've spoken about it & are in an open relationship then as long as he was safe when with other girls it wouldn't bother me. I guess it's just down to peoples own boundaries & preferences as to wether they mind their partner fucking someone else. I don't think the fact that the girl they're doing it with is getting paid for it should make a difference. If a partner cheats when it's agreed they won't then they should be chucked out the door.

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