Relying on porn for masturbation...

I cannot remember the last time I reached solo orgasm without watching porn at the same time.

I can orgasm through sex or foreplay without thinking about or watching porn (as long as it's good!) but I have become heavily reliant on porn when masturbating. I have never been able to easily achieve orgasm and have only managed to cum through fingering myself a few times. I LOVE my rabbit vibrator but I just can't orgasm unless I'm watching porn.

I used to be able to get off solely using my imagination or some erotic fiction and I have tried doing it recently but have given up after being at it for way too long and getting bored (45 minutes!) and just finishing myself off quickly with porn.

It's been going on for a couple of years now and now that I no longer have a boyfriend and a the promise of regular sex I'm masturbating more often... therefore watching more porn!

Any tips on how to wean myself off the porn? I don't want to be so reliant on it anymore! Thanks x

try erotic stories instead. It's a step between the porn videos and the 'sing your imagination' thing.

Hmm. Try just going cold turky. No masturbation and no porn for say, a week and a half, or however long feels like a reasonable time without masturbation to you, but not so long that you are twisting your legs in an aisle of a supermarket! Lol!

Then try again with masturbation in your usual way but without the porn. You have watched 2 years worth, so your favourite scenes will be in your head that you can use for mental stimulation.

From porn to reading erotic books is a bit of a leap as erotic books need concentration. Instead try reading your erotic book before any thought of masturbating. Read it just as you would read a regular book, curled up on the sofa, etc. Bookmark your favourite bits while reading it for a quick go to when you next masturbate, rather than reading through the slow and uninteresting bits.

I believe that porn is a very good tool to have either with a partner or solo on occassions, but when it is all the time it can be damaging.

Without the porn, try using different positions with your rabbit. Doggy style, standing up, flat on your front, raised up on pillows on your back etc. If it is waterproof, take it in the shower with you so you are unable to watch porn in there. Finding different positions that enhance your sensations may make you forget about porn.

Also, as you know, porn is a very quick route to an orgasm. So try to get a mind set that a longer session will be more rewarding when you do achieve the big O.

Perhaps some music in the background will help to make you feel more comfortable since you aren't in silence, starving the brain of some background stimulation. I sometimes find music is a great thing to have to try and orgasm to, something with really sexy lyrics/music like Type O Negative, or some Dead Can Dance can make me feel quite sexy, or some kickass bass lines from A Perfect Circle!

I can't think of anything else right now, but hopefully it will give you some things to try, and hopefully manage to lose your dependance on porn.

As to having a mental image, you could try thinking about one of your friends you like to have a twinkly with. tend to find it better then porn, like one lady sit beside me one time at school years ago and she playing with her shoe with her bare feet!

Even one best one was the opening evening for the "Specials" where this lovely "district Officer" we are is a small room she did lean over to get others some applications, and she had the nices ass I ever seen! long cheeks & nice curve to them! she had brown short curly hair done in a small bun, nice brown eyes, she does have some lines showing but thats better to me! she could at least 20years older than me but I don't care she nice! just let you mind go wild!!

I heard a warm bath is one of the best places to have sex, so try a waterproof rabbit! as my mate had sex with the girlfriend, and she sunk her teeth into his arm and which gave her a big explosive orgasm!

Or try sitting in a chair on the edge of the bed, lay on your back and pull you legs back near your chest, and use a rabbit to try and find the G-spot, once you found it, close your eyes thinking of a nice bloke you know, and think of him slipping his penis into your hole and think of him pushing your legs back for more leaverage  and slow rub you G-spot and work up! 

Good news! I haven't had internet for the past few weeks and only just got it back today. So I haven't been able to watch porn! I've managed to reach orgasm through masturbation, sometimes I've had to imagine porn scenes but a couple of times I've been able to purely on the thought of things being done to me.

Also, never used my rabbit in different positions before... best thing EVER!!

Very, very happy!!! Thanks for the advice everyone. Hopefully I've been able to break this porn curse for good :)

 i masturbate for hours every day and always use porn

ukwanker wrote:

 i masturbate for hours every day and always use porn

Hours? How many hours? and what porn do you watch?

dotdashdot wrote:

Good news! I haven't had internet for the past few weeks and only just got it back today. So I haven't been able to watch porn! I've managed to reach orgasm through masturbation, sometimes I've had to imagine porn scenes but a couple of times I've been able to purely on the thought of things being done to me.

Also, never used my rabbit in different positions before... best thing EVER!!

Very, very happy!!! Thanks for the advice everyone. Hopefully I've been able to break this porn curse for good :)

Oh I'm so happy for you!

Yes, using different positions with your rabbit is very rewarding!

Using mental images of porn is fine, in my view. I do it sometimes. Doing anything ALL the time can be damaging though, even drinking too much orange juice can be really bad for you. (I know, a strange thing to say..)

It's really good that you have your brain switched so it is imagining you in the porn scenarios, and your not even doing that all the time!

If you rely on something like this then you find it difficult to break the chain and try something different and new in your solo sessions. You don't really grow or expand your sexual horizon and stay stuck in some sort of metaphorical box. This can also eventually cause difficulties in sexual relationships.

I'm really rather proud of you! Very well done! xx

Thank you :) xx

ToyingAround wrote:

ukwanker wrote:

 i masturbate for hours every day and always use porn

 

Hours? How many hours? and what porn do you watch?

it varies but usually about 8 hours a day. I go through all the YouPorn, XTube etc videos and also have a large magazine collection which I am always adding to

 8 hours!  Wow.

ToyingAround wrote:

 8 hours!  Wow.

It's called edging

ToyingAround wrote:

 8 hours!  Wow.

I agree wow, I would be totally knackered

ukwanker wrote:

ToyingAround wrote:

 8 hours!  Wow.

 

It's called edging

pray tell, what is edging

 Edging is getting yourself close to cumming but then stopping, so when you do finally climax its intense. But 8 hours worth of edging is....

ToyingAround wrote:

 Edging is getting yourself close to cumming but then stopping, so when you do finally climax its intense. But 8 hours worth of edging is....

Not stopping so much as  slowing the stroke slightly. With practice it is possible to masturbate for hours. I have had lots of practice :)

Scotch_mist wrote:

8 hours, I really think your pulling my leg.

I actually prefere to think of fantises or people than watch porn, I end up thinking of them anyway even when watching porn!

Your leg? Nope. I am pulling something but it is attached to me.

8 hours is quite a skill. And really every day??

ShaftMaster wrote:

8 hours is quite a skill. And really every day??

I occasionally go for less or more. I don't set a stop watch and wrap everything up on the 8 hour mark but average would be 8 hours

Scotch_mist wrote:

So you work and spend 8 hour pulling your puddin, aye right I find that hard to believe !

I am a freelance software developer (semi retired) so have plenty of time in which to indulge my needs