Got a Problem. Not sure how to go about this one!

 It depends on your area, womens workers are usually funded through charities, although I know some you can get through social services. I found mine through victim support. You should be able to find someone by looking at places that are aimed at you for support, such as addictions services, charities for abused women etc or your local MIND may offer services/be able to refer you in the right direction. X

Well that was hot to read. Sorry nothing constructive here.

 firstly he snhouldnt effective anything between you and your partner if you two are in love nothing else matters or at least he shouldnt

secondly try this when you first see him in town start to walk sharply as if your in a rush then when he gos to talk say "sorry in a rush" ideally before he says hi, i know this sounds harsh but why would you be nice to him

apart from that i dont really know what else to advise

xx

Firstly no one should judge you. None of us know what we would do in the position you were in. We all get driven to levels of extremes we never thought we would reach.
Secondly and just to be sure, are you positive you do not have feelings for this guy? It might sound like a stupid question but in my experience (and this is only my experience) men having this type of control over you tends to me feelings are involved. If not so be it
Thirdly depending on your answer to question 2. I would definately try to stay away from this guy, if you see him in the street say a quick hi and then say got to run have to be somewhere an don't stop to speak. Try not to flirt or he will be encouraged by that.
If this was me I would not tell you boyfriend, I know some people say honesty is the best policy ut really if he has not found out by now why bring it up. It happened so long ago it would only cause a problem in your relationship that really does not need to be there. Now if you had sex with I'm yesterday etc yes tell him and clear the air. But little white lies not only save you but they save the person they are told to from heartache they don't need.
I wish you luck with this guy, he definately sounds a bit creepy and controlling. I certainly wouldn't like to be involved with him.
If he had sex with you while being with your friend what type of guy is that, it stinks. I know it could be said about you as well but to be honest I think desperation led your choices rather than trying to hurt anyone. I've never been homeless thank god but if it ever happened I could not guarantee what choices I would make to survive, and I don't think anyone of us can siton the moral high ground judging you.

it doesn't seem to be an issue about mind games as you write very clearly on how you know he plays you. So clearly you know right from wrong. So it would seem it's an issue of self-control. Sorry to put it bluntly.. but you can't say he tricks you when you know what he is like and he is not holding a gun to your head, to make you do these things. If he was beating you stupid, i'd understand... been there befor.

But as it's your choice to engage in sexual talk with him in the street and do these things... maybe you should be stepping back and asking why you are attracted to such a situation and what is missing in your life. In the cold light of day.... there are bigger issues in peoples life. Is this dangerous game you play (and yes you play it with him... because if you truely wished this over, you would have seen him in the street and walked the other way) well anyway.. is it worth the risk of losing a lover.. a friend.. maybe many friends if your secret got out? 

Thankyou for the advice everyone.

I don't think he is going to be a problem anymore. I know it is difficult, perhaps impossible for some of you to understand exactly what this man is like, especially if you have never come in contact with somebody who is like this. However, I think Lilac_vix got it right on the head.

I'm working on it in the background with everything else I've been having stress and troubles with lately. Not seen him since, so it's not at the forefront of my mind just now.