• How to get him to go with the flow!!!

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    Octaris [sign in to see picture]
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    I need a little advice please...

    I have been with my partner for almost 18 months and we have recently moved in together

    This is my 2nd long term relationship - I was in my first for 6 years. I have in the past enjoyed an open and fairly experimental sex life! The sex in my current relationship is good, in fact very good - I always Orgasm. However, I think that is maybe the problem. He knows how to make me cum so goes for it every time.

    Our sex life has become quite habitual, very early on. We only ever have sex in the missionary position (only twice have we tried a different position) and mutual masturbation is lovely but need something different. I wank him off, make him cum then he returns the favour.

    I have tried talking to him about how I feel a couple of time but he seems a little bit closed off -unable to talk about it. I can not decide whether this is because he thinks I am too 'forward' or whether he feels shy!

    I feel very confident he fancies me and he does seem to have a good sex drive like me - we have sex between 3-5 times per week but always exactly the same!!

    When we have talked about past relationships he has said there have a been a few women but says very little. I have actually wondered if he was in fact a Virgin and too embarrassed to say.

    I love my partner very much and would appreciate any tips anyone can give me to heat things up a little bit

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    cardy boy [sign in to see picture]
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    hi maybe some shopping at lovehoney might help ,you could then leave these around and see what happens

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    Octaris [sign in to see picture]
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    He knows I have a couple of toys in my bedside table - I have a rabbit and a much smaller bullet

    It does not seem to bother him at all that I have them but neither does he seem very interested in him

    I have made a little joke before now suggesting we play with the smaller one and he has seemed quite unresponsive

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    Nymeria [sign in to see picture]
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    I recommend the great value starter pack:- http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=22875

    It has couple friendly toys as well as the necessary lubes and cleaner. There's also a male stroker which you can use on him. I think this bundle is an excellent beginner's choice for starting off with couple toys.

    Take it from there and see how it goes. If he responds positively then the world of experimenting together sexually opens up. It doesn't need to revolve around toys but they help with changing things up which seems to be what you want. I'd also recommend some light bonday play with somethign like this- http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=19289 or http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=22651

    However, I'd go with the safer and cheaper option of the first starter pack. =] Also, I don't think your past sex lives should interfere with how you both are with eachother now. Check out the Lovehoney Blog for some sexpert tips. http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/blog/

    Good luck and let us know how it goes.

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    Amykins [sign in to see picture]
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    maybe sending naughty texts maybe able end up you suggesting sexual fantasies

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