• too many sex partners?

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    someone told me that i have too many sex partners. i wanted to get people's opinions on that

    i am 20 and have had sex with over 200 partners (mostly girls but about 20 guys when i was experimenting). i lost my virginity very early and have had sex most days since 17. i admit i am a bit of a tart and have had lots of threesomes, gangbangs, orgies and sex parties

    how many partners is normal?

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    ShaftMaster [sign in to see picture]
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    I have to admit that 200 surprised me, regardless of your age. Personally I've only slept with one, my current gf, and I know people (mid twenties) who have slept with up to about 20 or so.

    Whilst I would probably describe 200 as excessive, as long as you're taking precautions, and you, and your partners are happy, then really it's a personal choice thing. I'd say as with anything else, there is no 'normal'.

    Hope this helps.

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    i don't ever use condoms since i was in school but i pull out if they aren't protected

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    have you ever thought about diseases or aids, i think your attitude needs to change regarding safe sex.

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    barefun wrote:

    i don't ever use condoms since i was in school but i pull out if they aren't protected

    I may be stating the obvious here but you do know you can get someone pregnant even if you pull out don't you? Plus it seems a little risky to me to have so many partners and not taking any precautions with regards to your sexual health. You may be checked regularly but how do you know they've been checked? Even if their tests are up to date they still could have slept with someone the night before who's sexual history could be compromised. A condom is a small price to pay for the sake of your's and other's health, your life even.

    Sorry if this sounds judgmental but I think you're being very naive.

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    barefun wrote:

    i don't ever use condoms since i was in school but i pull out if they aren't protected

    Just noticed, but regardless of effectiveness, shouldn't it be 'I pull out it WE aren't protected.

    Speaking honestly here, have to agree that naive and/or arrogant are to words I'd use to describe your apparent life style.

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    I don't see that you have had too many partners, more than the normal but as long as you and your partners are happy there isn't a problem.

    What is a problem though is your lack of knowledge on sexual diseases and pregnancy. I would strongly suggest that you visit your local GUM or sexual health clinic to get yourself checked and to find out about contraceptives. You are putting not only yourself but your partners at risk too.

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    i think folk get too worried about STDs. i am circumcised so ot is harder to get most of them if you are cut

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    barefun wrote:

    i think folk get too worried about STDs. i am circumcised so ot is harder to get most of them if you are cut

    Getting STI's has nothing to do with being cut or not - or being 'cleaner'. They don't descriminate on what your penis looks like!

    Your really are putting yourself and any future partners at so much risk of catching something or getting a girl pregnant - Pre-come contains sperm too you know!

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    i must reiterate what others have said. STI's can affect anyone and there can be no symptoms.

    as a younger person you are in a higher risk group anyway.

    and studies on the transmission of sti's and results of circumcision are still not proven completley - it's a "may" not a definate!

    as others have stated there is also a risk of pregnancy by withdrawl method.

    Here's some info from the NHS

    http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/STIs/Pages/STIs-hub.aspx

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    I think your attitude needs some serious adjustment! Not only have u openly stated that you've had over 200 sex partners but u wish to star in porn as well -

    Surely ur risking your own health and well being by being so "Willy Nilly" about who you sleep with and the fact you dont protect yourself either is a serios health risk. You may get tested out regularly but getting tested for STI's doesnt stop you getting them!

    I think for you its more boasting rights than anything else but i must say I am concerned about ur attitude towards sex.

    I apologise in advance if I've got you wrong.

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    I have just read through this thread, either someone is very niave and never learned a lot at school in sex ed, or its all for a bit of attention.. Lets hope for your sake you never have the misfortune of catching something which is impossible to cure, and not to mention a chance of an planned pregnancy. Good luck.

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    I'm calling troll.

    One person being this unaware, sure, that's possible. Unfortunate, but possible.

    More than two hundred people going along with him without a few attempting to educate him? That's pushing probability just a bit too far. IMO something in this story just doesn't add up.

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    rose hip wrote:

    I'm calling troll.

    One person being this unaware, sure, that's possible. Unfortunate, but possible.

    More than two hundred people going along with him without a few attempting to educate him? That's pushing probability just a bit too far. IMO something in this story just doesn't add up.

    You thought me what troll was I love how u call people out x

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    Miss teach&nurse wrote:

    rose hip wrote:

    I'm calling troll.

    One person being this unaware, sure, that's possible. Unfortunate, but possible.

    More than two hundred people going along with him without a few attempting to educate him? That's pushing probability just a bit too far. IMO something in this story just doesn't add up.

    You thought me what troll was I love how u call people out x

    Nice one!! x

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    ^^^^ realised I cant spell

    taught not thought! damn it

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    Next lesson then

    'Calling troll' is someone's opinion. When done responsibly (which I try to do), it's a heads up to others, suggesting that they look at the behaviour and evaluate it for themselves. If the discussion is getting heated emotionally, it can provide a helpful reframing or even just a long enough pause for people to catch their breath.

    It's not a fact, of course. The poster is free to respond to my thoughts and tell me I'm wrong. So don't assume he is a troll just because I suspect it. Keep an open mind, observe what he does, and remember one of the most important guidelines for using the internet - not everyone is as they present themselves.

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    Rose having read the other threads I agree with you,

    either a troll or very stupid arrogant and childish

    xGGx

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    Well, I think it's disgusting!

    you should at least have some self respect, and respect others, you may not care about your body or sexual health but there are lots of others that do, regardless of if you've slept with them unprotected or not. Did they even have a choice? Sounds not to me?!

    You and all the others may've been lucky but a very close friend of mine wasn't. she met a guy who was her bf for a short while, waited until the time was right, and it felt so right for her and she trusted him enough and had sex with him, hasting to add and silly of her, it was unprotected. He trasmitted herpes to her, in case you do not known what this is, it's an incurable std.

    He was her first sexual partner. Aparently he 'didn't know', somehow I feel he did, he must've, she spent days in pain with blisters, I even had to endure a trip with her to the styd clinic, how hard it was seeing my best friend so scared and upset!

    Having been very silly myself and also a friend of mine whom both have had unprotected sex with guys in the past, and her being a good friend of us both, it opened out eyes and shocked us both to how lucky we had been! It's no consolation but at least we went for regular sexual health check ups, to catch anything in time (excuse the pun!), although at least most of the time we were careful.

    It's always sensible to be sensible, although boring I know, and we've all been silly at some point, but 200?! And 20 were men?!

    I think you are careless and inconsiderate and need to grow up more and go back to school or meet those who have had the painful effects of std's or worse, PID, or infertility as a result?! Because you are very naive to think they'd be ok if you 'pulled out' before or it's safe because you are 'cut'. Did your parents not teach you anything?! Least of all not respect for yourself, body and others I assume?!

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    I'm not entirely sure I buy it, either. Sleeping with over 200 people, while unusual, isn't anything to make a fuss over: especially if you're making a habit of threeways/group sex, it's not an unrealistic number. But it would take someone actually making an effort to remain ignorant to crank up such a number and not realise that STDs *are* a risk - circumcised or not - and pregnancy *can* happen even if you pull out.

    You're either trolling, or a very, very silly little boy. Giving you the benefit of the doubt and assuming it's the latter, so go and talk to the folks at the GUM clinic, or otherwise educate yourself on sex beyond playground hearsay, before you hurt tyourself and possibly others.

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