• How can I make my fella feel used

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    bananadelight [sign in to see picture]
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    :) That's about it really. He has mentioned a few times that he likes me to sit on his face as it makes him feel used but other than that I don't really have any idea what else I can do and he's not particularly sure/a bit shy to say so any ideas/suggestions? He's not really into aggression and I've watched a few pornos for ideas but nothing has come up that I think will work. I'm not very bossy, much more submissive but it seems he is too!

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    sweetlove666 [sign in to see picture]
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    could you talk dirty to him?

    like " i want to use you like the slutty guy you are" or " you are going to do this for me right now" kind of ordering him around?

    have you thought about light bondage such as ties or blindfolds

    sensory play such as ice and warmth?

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    Diesel [sign in to see picture]
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    naaa us guys love good spanking! no messin with ice n stuff!

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    sweetlove666 [sign in to see picture]
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    Diesel wrote:

    naaa us guys love good spanking! no messin with ice n stuff!

    well the OP said that she is a bit shy, so going traight into a spanking might not be for her, and she has mentioned her OH is not into agresion

    my tips are based on reading the problem and trying to find something suitable.

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    Satoshi [sign in to see picture]
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    Being used doesn't have to mean being physically abused. The feeling of being used can also be induced through emotional means.

    Perhaps you could tie him up then tease him while you pleasure yourself or use parts of his body in ways that excite you. If he begs you to do something for him then ignore his requests. If what you are doing is orientated towards giving him pleasure then stop and do something that pleases you.

    The biggest problem you will face is feeling guilty, you are receiving pleasure so it is only natural that you will want to reciprocate but try to think of him as a human sex toy. When masturbating you don't worry if the vibrator is enjoying it or not, your pleasure is all that matters and using your guy is no different. He wants to be used as your sex object, he is there for your amusement not the other way round.

    Make it absolutely clear that you are in control and that your main priority is to get yourself off. If what you are doing feels a bit cruel and hard-hearted then you are doing the right thing!

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    Despina Rose [sign in to see picture]
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    I would suggest concentrating more on the physical side of things, for example taking parts of his body into account and then concentrating on them.

    Perhaps try paying more attention to his cock, not him as a person. Even talking to his cock and telling him off when he talks by saying "I wasn't talking toy you", or calling him your pleasure tool.

    Hope that helps.

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    bananadelight [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks guys,

    I like the light bondage idea, we actually have under bed restraints but they dont get used apart from occassionally (bit scared of them after being so excited to order them!) on me and am thinking maybe tie to a chair then boss him about a bit. I don't think he'll go for the spanking, I like it on me but don't think I'd feel comfortable doing it to him. Never thought about blindfolds on him either!

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    sweetlove666 [sign in to see picture]
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    bananadelight wrote:

    Thanks guys,

    I like the light bondage idea, we actually have under bed restraints but they dont get used apart from occassionally (bit scared of them after being so excited to order them!) on me and am thinking maybe tie to a chair then boss him about a bit. I don't think he'll go for the spanking, I like it on me but don't think I'd feel comfortable doing it to him. Never thought about blindfolds on him either!

    maybe tie him up and then tell him you are going to use his cock untill you are satisfied and it dosen't matter what he wants?

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    smirnoff09 [sign in to see picture]
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    treat as your personal slave..start with simples tasks such as gettign you things..drink etc then o

    increase to sexual acts where you will use him for your own pleasure

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    bananadelight [sign in to see picture]
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    I could give the dirty talk a go, I always get the giggles though but I thik he'd like it. I like the slave thing but as I say Im quite submissive so maybe boss him about a bit then tie up/blindfold :)

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