Asking so much at once..

I think some input from the guys can be quite insightful. It's not about being right or wrong..

I agree with a lot of the things. I think communication is the key part here. My OH is the more adventurous of us both and does sometimes come up with things that I do think is quite "out there" for me, personally. I think it's great to feel that comfortable where we can share our fantasies and potentially explore and experiment together. That being said I do talk about any issues I may have with some of the acts involved.

For example- My OH has also mentioned the "facial" experience and him being curious to try it whereas I have no desire to and I have made that clear. Maybe in the future I may allow it to happen to try it out but the choice is mine to make. Let him know what you're prepared to try and what you're uncomfortable with. Trying new things doesn't mean your sex life is boring now I think it just adds more trust and intimacy in a sense because you allow that person to explore and experiment with you sexually.

Have fun and don't feel pressured into doing something you're not comfortable with. =]

Haywire wrote:

I feel its degrading and revolting. I love using toys and games with him, but with this its different. I am a very proud and strong woman, and detest the idea of becoming just 'something to jizz on'.

When my girlfriend and I first got together, we didn't have sex for a while, so when we were having fun (we still did foreplay, hand jobs, oral etc) I used to come on her breasts pretty much every time (her idea actually) and still do when we don't have intercourse, as he doesn't like it on her face or in her mouth.

I understand it's different for everyone, but where you don't want to be just 'something to jizz on', it seems that after nearly two years, you're well beyond that stage. I'm presuming it's a commited relationship, so he would see you as more than that.

The way my GF saw it was a bit of fun, and also as a compliment. She liked the feeling of the warmth on her skin, and also as a kind of territorial thing, like I was marking her, letting her know that she was mine (but not in a literal 'owning' sense).

Whatever you decide though, hope that helps.