• OK - some help is badly needed

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    Laveila [sign in to see picture]
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    Good luck and just relax. I was nervous when using my first vibe too. Just relax and enjoy.

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    rose hip [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm wondering if the cuve of the Tracey Cox Contour vibe might be easier with your elbow difficulties. It works for clit, g-spot and internal.

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=18122

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    sharry [sign in to see picture]
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    You could also try this as it's pretty much hands free once inserted. You get both g spot and clitotal stimulation. I don't like rabbits and for a lot of people they're 'marmite' toys (you either love it or hate it) so if you don't get on with the rabbit it might be work giving the rock chic a go.

    Lube is a must though unless you're really ready!

    Vibrating Groovy Chick G-Spot and Clitoral Vibrator

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    silveroldie [sign in to see picture]
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    Well - an interesting experience

    no insurrmountable problems , but I did have problems because of my arms - and that's hardly surprising.

    Is the Rabbit right for me - umm not sure - time will tell . I think I need a few days yet to really get used to it . The ears certainly work

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    XXXGXSTRINGXXX [sign in to see picture]
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    If your big on clit play you might want to try a bullet the Ro 80mm is a girls best friend there an amazing little piece of kit and soo powerfull and I'm sure I've seen they do a longer version too might help with distance thing.. Or one of the (iconic) massage wands as there quite big and can have more than one use so price wise a good purchase.. Your never too old for toys!! and the more you try the more you find you like hehe good luck xxxx

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    Laveila [sign in to see picture]
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    if you dont enjoy the rabbit after giving it try, I would suggest something like Lady Lustfinger http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=319

    or the waterproof version http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15342

    They are both cheap, take 1 AA and the Lady Lustfinger is powerful for sure. They are not too small. or something like that. Bullets are pretty small, about 3 inches. maybe harder to grip and put into place. Another option is like a normal vibe which you could use clitorally.

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    atlanta [sign in to see picture]
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    Dear Silver we must be about the same age (I'm 65). After much experimenting we found that my partner prefers the Fun Factory toys. She doesn't insert them, but lies on her face with the tip of the vibrator on her clit. The one she uses has an exaggerated ridge about an inch from the end. She finds this delicious because sliding it back and forth over the ridge adds stimulation.

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    Hiya Silver. Reading your description. . .could these possibly help? I have them and have used them on my partners clit a few times and she loved them! They're totally flexible yet have a good rigidity when bent into the shape you need. Maybe a long shot but y
    ou never know! Vibrationally (is that even a word?) They're great! :)
    SG x

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=17698

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    silveroldie [sign in to see picture]
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    Well the deed is done :-)

    Rabbit is being returned and some new toys , hopefully much easier for me are ordered :-

    a tin of Pin Ups Bombshell Balm to help me on my way and hopefully get me to orgasm

    TracyCox Contour Body Curve - the switch should be near enough for me to reach - if not I should be able, as it vibrates and not rotates , to switch it on just before I start to use it either to make my clit bring me to orgasm on it's own or help using my G spot which I never found before

    and for a little extra fun the Basic Love egg since it has a long wire and I could keep the control near me .

    I can't believe I'm doing this . Dammit I'm an old lady who should not be thinking of sexual things at my advanced age , but my body is wanting some action.

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    Well done to you Silver! I'm sure you'll find something that presses the right buttons for you. :^)

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    I think you might do better with the kind of vibrator that has a wire leading to a separate control. There doesn't seem to be a separate category for them, but there are ones made like that in all different shapes.

    Dildo style with wires:

    Bullets and eggs with wires, that are in the bank holiday sale!

    Some other styles with a shape that might work (also in the sale)

    Edit: I see you found the Basic egg. It's really great. I used mine quite a lot before the wires finally gave out. =)

    As for your age, I'm 40, but I intend to stay sexually active till my last breath! =)

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    silveroldie wrote:

    I can't believe I'm doing this . Dammit I'm an old lady who should not be thinking of sexual things at my advanced age , but my body is wanting some action.

    No, no, no! We'll have none of that here :P there's nothing wrong with taking control of your sexual enjoyment no matter what age you are. We only live once - being happy is important and if you feel ready to enjoy yourself sexually then you shouldn't feel bad about that!

    I hope your new purchases suit you a little better.

    Adx

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    Have to say there's lots I would have liked to get - but let's see how these suit me first :-)

    I'm making a ' I'd like to try that ' sort of list for future - sadly money is not unlimited

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    Did you use the Lovehoney wishlist to save the items for you? It's really handy.

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    Alicia D'amore wrote:

    silveroldie wrote:

    I can't believe I'm doing this . Dammit I'm an old lady who should not be thinking of sexual things at my advanced age , but my body is wanting some action.

    No, no, no! We'll have none of that here :P there's nothing wrong with taking control of your sexual enjoyment no matter what age you are. We only live once - being happy is important and if you feel ready to enjoy yourself sexually then you shouldn't feel bad about that!

    I hope your new purchases suit you a little better.

    Adx

    Agreed.Couldn't have said it better myself. =]

    I'd suggest getting this bargain as it's in the sale. It's a rechargeable wand vibrator that is incredibly versatile. It can be used for massages as well as a sex toy. http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=9748 I thought it'd be ideal for mobility issues as well due to the curved style.

    I've just got one myself. I hope you like the toys you have bought. Let us know how you get on with them. I'm a big fan of the basic love egg. It's incredibly cheap for the power it gives. It's one of my favourites. Enjoy!

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    Oh, and you'll want to make sure you always have plenty of batteries on hand to fit all your toys. I keep a box of different sized batteries in my Naughty Drawer.

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    silveroldie [sign in to see picture]
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    @xXx - I did think of that wand vibrator - but was doubtful because of the position of the switch .

    The basic love egg is really intended for 2 purposes for me - one as a vibrator and with its controls being attached by wire it should be ok - I'll be able to pop it in and then switch it on 'effortlessly' . It's second purpose will be as an entry to using Kegel type balls - these are needed as I know my vaginal / pelvic floor muscles are not as good as they should be . Hopefully I'll be able to move to the proper Kegal Balls soon.

    @sliverdrop - batteries - I've about 10 AA batteries and I'm pretty sure there are some AAA ones in the house somewhere . I do like the thought of a Naughty Drawer :-)

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    Glad to see you've ordered the Contour Vibe already. It's not a sharp enough bend to hit the clit while being used internally, but your egg will help with that.

    I tend to use it alone though, moving from clit to entrance and back, staying on one or the other, dipping inside a little, a lot, or inbetween (g-spot mmm), depending on what my body wants. Every time is different. It's probably the most instinctive vibe I've tried and absolutely definitely without question the most versatile.

    My body's natural instinct is to move against the vibe (which is very smooth), so I end up moving my hips more than my hand.

    Re your specific needs: You can definitely turn it on before you begin. Because it's so smooth, it's very easy to insert. If you like girth, you might find it a bit small though. The curve will keep the controls and 'handle' closer to you than with a straight vibe. When it's used on the clit, the controls are facing you. They are some of the least fiddley and easiest to use.

    If your body likes the vibe half as much as mine does, you'll find ways to use it that work for you. I keep finding new tricks with it (really good for tense shoulders and neck, especially since the curve means I don't have to raise the other one up too high). Really should just get on with my review though. %-)

    Good luck, let us know how you get on with your new toys.

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    @ all [ including the lovely guys here ]

    You all - well most of you :-D , keep mentioning the Gspot . I thought that was regarded more as a myth than something that actually exists . I gather it is just inside my vagina on the front wall but , I'm struggling for words here , what does it DO , is it as sensitive as my clit ? and if so, since I can't actually enter myself, whats the best way to help it to help me along ?

    I'm really self taught remember - in the dim and distant late 50s /early 60s , you know - the hasty touches got when you had a little privacy with your boy friend . I never had sex ' properly ' till our honeymoon , and believe me that was quite a shock when I saw his very erect cock and honestly wondered how he would manage to get it in me . Yes I knew that's what you did , but as to how ??? So we learned together - he was gentle and eventually we got to enjoy our sex life.

    This feeling of wanting a sex life has really shaken me now , but I'm going to do my best to enjoy it . It's true , you don't know what you've got till you lose it , and since my 'bits' are prodding me into action - I'm determined to learn how to give myself pleasure .

    OH - rosehip - an idiot's question for you - you said [quote]Glad to see you've ordered the Contour Vibe already. It's not a sharp enough bend to hit the clit while being used internally, but your egg will help with that.[/quote] Do I take it that you think I'll need to have the egg in while I'm using the Contour Vibe for my clit ?

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    rose hip [sign in to see picture]
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    Don't put yourself down, silver. These things are hard to describe and even harder to understand at first. Unless you can figure out some new way to use the Contour vibe (also known affectionately as the giant pink banana) that I haven't found yet, it doesn't do both internal and clit simultaneously. You'd need something like the Rock Chick for that. But an egg inside while you use the Contour on your clit would work well.

    That's just one way of using it. You'll probably find more. I certainly did. :-)

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