• Should certain fantasies remain just that..fantasies?

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    pimpstress [sign in to see picture]
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    I, like many women have often wondered about having a threesome with 2 women, but im just wondering if other LH members think that some fantasies should remain just so or whether you think...hey...you only live once! I have many other fantasies ( don't we all lol ) so im just curious

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    my feelings are you only live once so hopefully no regrets in anything, especially when it comes to sexual fantasies, hi and welcome pimpstress

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    Despina Rose [sign in to see picture]
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    I agree that you only live once, however with some fantasties, they are best to be kept just as that.

    If you haven't got a very very good and open relationship, threesomes can end in break-ups as people can't handle the jealousy.

    A different way to include threesomes is to pay someone to join in, that way you never had to see them again or risk loosing a friendship. Swinging is another way but again can be difficult.

    I find it is best to be completely open about all of your feelings, even the negative ones when you are in a relationship, especially if you are talking about fantasies.

    MM xx

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    Thank you! I agree, & i NEVER regret anything that made me smile & i think others should feel that way too!

    I have so many fantasies as many do, but i think it can be a difficult subject to broach...its not like im into poking badgers with spoons lol but i just wonder how you would bring it up...not everyone is open-minded sadly!

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    i agree MM well put

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    pimpstress [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks MM :) im single so the relationship wouldnt be a prob for me.

    I had never considered paying for it either to be honest but i'll try anything once..twice if i liked it lol!

    I've had several bi experiences but probably prefer women to men (no offence guys!)

    I guess its all about being open but fear of rejection may play a part for me i think, confidence is something that grows though i guess

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    pimpstress wrote:

    Thank you! I agree, & i NEVER regret anything that made me smile & i think others should feel that way too!

    I have so many fantasies as many do, but i think it can be a difficult subject to broach...its not like im into poking badgers with spoons lol but i just wonder how you would bring it up...not everyone is open-minded sadly!

    Perhaps gently bring it up, the OH was very iffy about anal, had never tried it before. I started off by gently putting things every now and then, sewing the seed if you like. Over a series of months I got him more interested in it and then stimulated. He now loves it when he is in the mood.

    Basically, slowly suggest little things of a bigger thing, bombading someone with what you want to do doesn't often work and they usually clamp up.

    You could perhaps, try and find a nice and well done adult movie, doesn't have to be porn. Something that features threesomes or two women (if you are looking for a ffm threesome) or perhaps well written erotica. There are some fantasic books around and some user uploaded stories here and http://www.literotica.com/

    Good luck with it, whatever happens.

    MM xx

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    Hi, if you are single and can get it safely, so you dont risk your health, I would say that you can try it.

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    Ah ok, scrap the last post.

    Maybe have a look online at swingers websites for female couples looking for someone to join in?

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    Laveila wrote:

    Hi, if you are single and can get it safely, so you dont risk your health, I would say that you can try it.

    I agree, safety is definately important if not paramount!

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    Laveila wrote:

    Hi, if you are single and can get it safely, so you dont risk your health, I would say that you can try it.

    Totally agree here. A major problem is the risk of stds as most people don't use dental dams on women. Asking to get a test done or a copy of a recent one is completely fine. After all, if they are serious and careful themselves, health would be a factor for them.

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    MasqueradeMinx wrote:

    Ah ok, scrap the last post.

    Maybe have a look online at swingers websites for female couples looking for someone to join in?

    thanks, its definately something to consider MM :) where theres a will & all that!

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    pimpstress wrote:

    MasqueradeMinx wrote:

    Ah ok, scrap the last post.

    Maybe have a look online at swingers websites for female couples looking for someone to join in?

    thanks, its definately something to consider MM :) where theres a will & all that!

    I have used this website: http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/ found it to have a good selection of people in all age groups.

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    Thanks MM its been noted!

    Anyone used any other ones? Or have any other ideas too?

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    If you're a single chick looking for a M/F couple, you should have your pick of folk! There are always couples looking for a third, usually female. Really, you shoudl be prepared to feel a little used, because they would be seeking someone who is, essentially, a rather inconvenient toy: they want to play with you, and then have you go away again. If you wanted something mroe serious, there's folk out there for that, but as a one-off, just be aware that they will have the after-effect of being in a relationship and all the jealousy and insecurity that come from that. Looking for folk who've done it before, or do so regularly, would be safer if you don't think you'd like that - swinger groups are a good place for folk who are comfy with bringing others into their play - or you might consider two separate individuals so that you can all come in as equals and leave with no concerns.

    Whatever you do, usual advice: tell someone who you're with and where you are, and have a check-in point where you have to call someone by a certain time or they'll be at the police; make sure ye all have recent health checks, preferably being able to show each other proof of DDF; use protection; meet and talk about it before leaping into a hotel room with them, and don't be scared to follow your gut if you get a hinky feeling, even if there's no basis for it; and above all, don't put up with satisfying someone else's fantasy if they're not satisfying yours, you can tap out at any stage for any reason, and you don't owe anyone anything.

    If you go for it, good luck and enjoy!

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    Brilliant advice BB!

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    BashfulBabe wrote:

    If you're a single chick looking for a M/F couple, you should have your pick of folk! There are always couples looking for a third, usually female. Really, you shoudl be prepared to feel a little used, because they would be seeking someone who is, essentially, a rather inconvenient toy: they want to play with you, and then have you go away again. If you wanted something mroe serious, there's folk out there for that, but as a one-off, just be aware that they will have the after-effect of being in a relationship and all the jealousy and insecurity that come from that. Looking for folk who've done it before, or do so regularly, would be safer if you don't think you'd like that - swinger groups are a good place for folk who are comfy with bringing others into their play - or you might consider two separate individuals so that you can all come in as equals and leave with no concerns.

    Whatever you do, usual advice: tell someone who you're with and where you are, and have a check-in point where you have to call someone by a certain time or they'll be at the police; make sure ye all have recent health checks, preferably being able to show each other proof of DDF; use protection; meet and talk about it before leaping into a hotel room with them, and don't be scared to follow your gut if you get a hinky feeling, even if there's no basis for it; and above all, don't put up with satisfying someone else's fantasy if they're not satisfying yours, you can tap out at any stage for any reason, and you don't owe anyone anything.

    If you go for it, good luck and enjoy!

    GREAT advice for everyone!

    i think i would prefer people i didnt know so that there was no awkwardness but that brings many risks.

    2 women who had never done it before would be even better...exploration for them too.

    its been a while since i have enjoyed another womans body so maybe even 1 would do for now lol...wow that sounds desperate lol..but its not..im just thinking out-loud!

    ramble over!

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    MasqueradeMinx wrote:

    Brilliant advice BB!

    Absolutely & well put

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    Great advice so far....

    For me, I think it depends how much of a fantasy it is, as in, is it something you really have to do, if it is, is your partner going to be keen on it, or is it something you have to keep quiet about. If you have to keep quiet about it, is that a deal breaker in a relationship, as in it's so important to you, you know you will have to do it. and if your partner isn't willing, can you live with that for the life of the relationship if that makes sense?

    I used to be in the keep quiet camp with my ex, but as he's now my ex can be much more vocal about it, and make sure I get to do the things I really want to do. It's all about communication, as so many things are, and how it's presented I guess?

    Good luck finding what you want x

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    thanks Miss!

    Im single so thats no problem but definately getting some great advice here...glad i posted!

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