• Gentle Sex

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    Cuddly Hubby [sign in to see picture]
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    I was thinking about this as a contrast to the notion that sex is always better if it's energetic and even rough. I imagine that I'm not the only person who has a warming tale about gentle sex -- hence this thread.

    I vividly recall the spring morning several years ago when my wife fell badly in the street and dislocated her elbow. She was in considerable pain as I rushed her to A&E and, after a mercifully short but still excruciating wait, was administered strong pain killers so that the medics could examine the damage properly without her crying out. It proved necessary to re-set her arm under general anaesthetic, so it was late afternoon by the time that she had recovered enough to return home with her arm in plaster.

    The whole experience was a considerable shock for my wife, and her arm was very tender into the evening, so I soon tucked her up in bed with as much cushioning as I could find to minimise the chances of her arm moving or getting a painful knock. We settled down to sleep as best we could.

    I was aware during the early part of the night that my wife was understandably restless, and I woke just a couple of hours later to hear her sobbing gently. Under normal circumstances, I would have given her a big hug, but even my only-just-awakened brain registered that this wasn't a good idea, so I put an arm softly around her shoulders. I quickly sensed that, after her physical torment earlier, my wife wanted something more by way of physical consolation. But how...?

    I rose from my side of the bed, rummaged quickly in my bedside drawer and then positioned myself at the end of my wife's side of the bed. My wife observed me with a mixture of anticipation and concern. Very slowly and deliberately, I worked my way up the bed without touching her until I was poised over her without touching her, with all of my weight on my hands and knees. I paused for a few moments to apply copious lube to my cock (a tricky manoeuvre without falling over, but I managed it!). We both knew what was going to happen.

    As my wife parted her legs obediently but uncertainly, I positioned myself to enter her. I moved at a snail's pace, pressing the head of my cock against her opening with slowly increasing pressure until I felt it move easily inside. My mind was focussed entirely on gentleness -- on caressing her inside and offering her body some loving compensation for the pain and damage that it had suffered. My thrusts gradually lengthened until I felt that my penis was methodically stroking the entire length of her vagina.

    My wife was clearly enjoying this and so was I. It was clear that neither of us was going to get anywhere near an orgasm in this way, but that didn't matter. After a few minutes of gentle action (by which time my own arms had stared to complain!), we kissed passionately and then I clambered carefully back to my side of the bed. The earlier tension seemed to have evaporated from my wife's body, and she quickly fell into a contented sleep. I followed her soon afterwards.

    Phew! I got a bit carried away describing that experience, but I certainly enjoyed writing it.

    The question that I'm asking in a roundabout way is, do others have experiences in which gentle sex has been amazing?

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    we have it quite a lot usually in the middle of the night...

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    We do too - it's our "making love" sex rather than our "fucking" sex and much as we like it dirty and rough, our gentle, sweet, lovely sex is really important to us. It's more intimate somehow. It's wonderful. I have to say, it does make us come, eventually.

    SS xx

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    Gotta be said - I CERTAINLY enjoyed reading this!! i much, MUCH prefer this amount of work going into new threads than the usual "thread title ...one sentence question" threads i keep seeing.. :)

    This is something I need to work on... Jamba is brilliant with both the rough and the smooth, but i always seem to get too carried away and work myself out of the cuddly, slow, sensual mood...

    pointers, anyone?? how can I *stay* calm when i'm being driven to distraction? ;D

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    niftyb wrote:

    Gotta be said - I CERTAINLY enjoyed reading this!! i much, MUCH prefer this amount of work going into new threads than the usual "thread title ...one sentence question" threads i keep seeing.. :)

    This is something I need to work on... Jamba is brilliant with both the rough and the smooth, but i always seem to get too carried away and work myself out of the cuddly, slow, sensual mood...

    pointers, anyone?? how can I *stay* calm when i'm being driven to distraction? ;D

    Just 'bout think 'bout John Prescott at t' crucial mos.

    W

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    niftyb wrote:

    Gotta be said - I CERTAINLY enjoyed reading this!! i much, MUCH prefer this amount of work going into new threads than the usual "thread title ...one sentence question" threads i keep seeing.. :)

    This is something I need to work on... Jamba is brilliant with both the rough and the smooth, but i always seem to get too carried away and work myself out of the cuddly, slow, sensual mood...

    pointers, anyone?? how can I *stay* calm when i'm being driven to distraction? ;D

    Agreed - nice to see "something" in a thread!!

    We rarely have gentle sex - it's not something I miss really but often wonder why we don't have it. The last time we had gentle sex was because my VCH healing and we were worried about being rough but I got very little out of it and to be honest was doing a service to my OH rather than me - he enjoyed it though!

    I guess it's a reflection on our sex life not 'quite being there' yet but it was lovely to see how thoughtful you were in response to your OH's pain!!

    Angel x

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    I like lazy sunday morning sex. Especially if the kids are on a sleepover and we dont need to get up

    xGGx

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    I like gentle sex, its more really love making and being extremely close to each other, especially if we kiss and caress each other during it. I do like rough sex, I do like being spanked, but still... The slow, gentle sex is for me about closeness and showing emotions to each other. Also if we have rough sex, we often have another, more gentle, which is more about our connection and intimacy. And showing how much we care for each other.

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    It's a good thing that gently sex is so satisfying - when you get to our age it's about all that can be achieve 8-)=

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    Gentle sex is a regular occurance for us.

    As much as I love it rough and kinky, unforunately my body just can't cope with it all of the time. Due to chronic joint pain and painful penetration we have to take things gentle and slow. Luckily for me WandA is amazing at this and that he is so prepared to take things gentle and slow is the ultimate compliment. He is so thoughtful about positioning, careful about listening to my responses and great at subtly engineering increased comfort for me (I hate that my rubbish body is giving up on me and feel guilty if I feel I *have* to force us to stop something)!

    But I do wish we could have more rough sex.

    Adx

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    We have gentle sex on a regualr basis... we find it really sensual and feel really close to each other while doing it. Usually it will involve candle light, soft music, massage oils, sometimes feathers... and lots of stroking, caressing, kissing etc before the actual penetration. We always sleep really well after we have had a night like this.. its very relaxing. Like somoene else already said.. this is our " lovemaking" sex.... the rougher sex is our " fuck me hard" sex lol

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    Woah, it was lovely to read this.

    I enjoy gentle sex, it's really nice to have as a wind down to our usual sex life. It's so intimate and I feel it's much more about showing each other your love for each other. It's also perfect to just cuddle up and sleep after.

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    gentle sex is a very rare occurance for us, but when it does happen it is lovely.

    We quite often start off gentle but it doesn't last, normally it would be at about 4am when the oh's alarm goes off for work and I am more or less still asleep, then it is really nice.

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    Whilst I love rough sex, I prefer slow, gentle love making that lasts a long time. It can be so sensuous and fulfilling.

    Sometimes rough sex is all that is needed, that urge overcomes you and you want it there and then (difficult when you're on a packed commuter train). For me these are the rough sex sessions that sate a desire. But making long slow love to my delicious OH is mindblowing.

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    I've never really done gentle sex.

    Not that i don't/won't like it, just that i have more casual relationships and gentle sex denotes a more emotional and tender side than is wise, at least in the relationships i have had anyway

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    Our sex is pretty much always gentle sex or "making love". I would like to have a good "fuck" every now and then!

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    They both have their merits. I think as we are both so tired and rushed with kids work etc we have more hot and fast sex. Or just oral.

    Often the really memorable stuff is the slow stuff though. Nice music, glass of wine, both showered and fresh and candles and Mrs BP in some bedroom only underwear. Mmmmm

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    We sometimes have gentle sex, passion is very important to me & having sensual sex is always a part of that, just as much as rougher sex is, I think we probably have more gentle sex than rough.

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