• need your help on turning him on

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    princesslucifer [sign in to see picture]
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    i need your help please, i need to know what to do to turn my bf on and keep him turned on, what do u men like us to do? im not that experinced n ave lost my convenience due to being in a bad relationship , convenience is slowy comming bk tho, any advice would be great ty x

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    ghostgirl [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi, everyone has different turn ons , have you tried talking to him to find out what he likes? It might be a slow process but it helps to build a relationship. And has to be better than starting to do something for him that he hates, think it would be a better way of building your confidence as well.

    xGGx

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    toycar69 [sign in to see picture]
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    I agree with GG, everyone is different, but there are a few general things you could try to spice it up.

    Wearing nice lingerie is usually a winner. I don't know anyone that doesn't find a matched set and maybe stockings very hot

    Making the appropriate noises is good as long as you feel comfortable with it. Let him know you are enjoying what he's doing. Don't force it though, there is nothing worse than fake porn star noises!

    Just generally let him know you are hot for him, and you want him. Good luck, and feel free to go into more detail on here if you feel you want to.

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    Nymeria [sign in to see picture]
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    I think first of all you really need to try and bring your confidence up so that you feel confident in what you're doing and how you come across. So perhaps a girly day out will benefit you. =]

    As for your relationship and your partner I think just exploring together and experimenting can bring you both closer. Try buying things that flatter your body and/or make you feel on top of the world. That exuding confidence can be very sexy for people. Lovehoney has some fantastic lingerie.

    Also, you may want to experiment with toys like this great value starters' couples bumper pack: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15585

    Here is Lovehoney's very own blog that could also help. http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/blog/

    Let us know if there's anything else you would like advice in. More information wil be helpful. Good luck! =]

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    Hi,

    I suffered from low self confidence as well and generally that is one of the hugest turn off if you show it before him. I am not saying don´t talk to him about it, but let him show that you are great person (why would he be with you otherwise?).

    As for turning him on, that is individual. Wearing nice lingerie as mentioned helps, I sometimes also talk slightly dirty to my OH. Or I just am brat so he has to "punish" me, which leads to something more. But you may not be comfortable with that in the beginning. So maybe a massage? Also can be start to something more.

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    princesslucifer [sign in to see picture]
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    ty for ur replys they r very helpfull. ive just done something that ive never done b4 n sent him a number of txts telling him wat i wud like to do to him, but fink its had the opposite effect, dont know wat to do fink i may just give up ;(

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    Laveila wrote:

    Hi,

    I suffered from low self confidence as well and generally that is one of the hugest turn off if you show it before him. I am not saying don´t talk to him about it, but let him show that you are great person (why would he be with you otherwise?).

    As for turning him on, that is individual. Wearing nice lingerie as mentioned helps, I sometimes also talk slightly dirty to my OH. Or I just am brat so he has to "punish" me, which leads to something more. But you may not be comfortable with that in the beginning. So maybe a massage? Also can be start to something more.

    Agree with the lingerie advice as it will boost your self esteem, I know that I always feel better wearing pretty underwear but talking dirty is something that I would be carefull with, not all men like to hear it from their OH. Massages are great and for us they always lead to more but they dont have to, its just another way of exploring how you both like to be touched.

    Communication is the key, talk to each other. If you cant do it face to face my current OH and I spent hours using chat to discuss everything from favourite foods, music and sexual kinks. I know that wont work for everyone but its worth thinking about.

    xGGx

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    Nymeria [sign in to see picture]
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    princesslucifer wrote:

    ty for ur replys they r very helpfull. ive just done something that ive never done b4 n sent him a number of txts telling him wat i wud like to do to him, but fink its had the opposite effect, dont know wat to do fink i may just give up ;(

    If you're unsure of his preferences I think it'll be better in person talking to him.. talking dirty or w/e. You can usually tell by their responses in person if they like it. Also, just communicating and see if you're on the same page with regards to emotional and sexual stuff.

    Just take small steps and keep positive. It's good to be open and build a solid and stable base for a relationship. Good luck! =]

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    princesslucifer wrote:

    ty for ur replys they r very helpfull. ive just done something that ive never done b4 n sent him a number of txts telling him wat i wud like to do to him, but fink its had the opposite effect, dont know wat to do fink i may just give up ;(

    You'll probably find he just didn't expect you to come out with texts like that and doesn't know how to respond. Dont give up!

    Try talking to him and asking if there is anything he'd like to try with you, and tell him if there is anything you'd like to try. Good luck xx

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    princesslucifer [sign in to see picture]
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    ty everyone, yes fink he was a little shocked at me doin that lol, he didnt expect it all, but he liked it, so fingers crossed things will look up from now on xx

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    princesslucifer wrote:

    ty everyone, yes fink he was a little shocked at me doin that lol, he didnt expect it all, but he liked it, so fingers crossed things will look up from now on xx

    its a good starting point and it sounds like you are talking so it should be good from here.

    xGGx

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