• Modern sex books tips/ self-help/ quides/ factual

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    Recently I've been reading a lot of modern books regarding sex, whether this is sexuality or the act of intercourse and toy play. Most of the books I've read had been written before 1970 and often are for research rather than fun. So I was wondering what modern sex books you have recently read, what have you found helpful, is the writing style easy to read?

    Currently I am reading 'The Big Book Of Sex Toys'- by Tristan Taormino

    I purchased this book as I was tempted by the title, I was slightly hoping for something like 'The Big Book Of Art'. it is more of a buying guide for sex toys with some very well taken photos. There are tips of how to use the toys too. Tristan seems to aim more at the top of the range toys as well. Her writing style is rather interesting and seems to fluctuates but this seems to work. Will update more once finished.

    So anyone reading anything currently?

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    Bought and read Dr Pam Spurrs Sinful Sex... not particularly sinful nor does it really cover anything that unusual. There were a few ideas on techniques that we mean to try but no earth shattering revelations.

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    I have a couple of the mini sex tips books that cosmo and (shame on me) Ann Summers used to sell. They didn't really add anything for me, and I'll be following your thread to see if anyone can suggest anything good and worth a try. Do let us know how what you think of your book in the end!

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    sharry wrote:

    Bought and read Dr Pam Spurrs Sinful Sex... not particularly sinful nor does it really cover anything that unusual. There were a few ideas on techniques that we mean to try but no earth shattering revelations.

    I can understand really, everyone has their own definition on what is sinful. The cover looks appealing comparded to some, but others could find it off putting. If there any areas of the book you really didn't get a long with? and areas that you did actually enjoy, whether they are helpful to you or not?

    MrsP wrote:

    I have a couple of the mini sex tips books that cosmo and (shame on me) Ann Summers used to sell. They didn't really add anything for me, and I'll be following your thread to see if anyone can suggest anything good and worth a try. Do let us know how what you think of your book in the end!

    MrsPx

    I've never read any of the ann summers pieces, but have seen some in the book selection even within Lovehoney. I've been tempted by a few of the cosmo games, but personally never read the mag.

    I'll try and keep you updated though I do get a strange mix of books, some are more factual than fun. I have two new books arrving soon which should be more on the fun side but next month I plan to buy more textbook like books, partly as I should have the funds though.

    I will get back to you all soon regarding my current book though :)

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    I recently read Sex at Dawn which is a book theorizing about the sexual habits of early mankind. I found it a pretty fascinating read. I'm not convinced that the evidence proves anything about pre-civilization humans, but the evidence itself - the sexual habits of various primate species and humans in tribal cultures - was interesting.

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    The Nymphomaniac wrote:

    sharry wrote:

    Bought and read Dr Pam Spurrs Sinful Sex... not particularly sinful nor does it really cover anything that unusual. There were a few ideas on techniques that we mean to try but no earth shattering revelations.

    I can understand really, everyone has their own definition on what is sinful. The cover looks appealing comparded to some, but others could find it off putting. If there any areas of the book you really didn't get a long with? and areas that you did actually enjoy, whether they are helpful to you or not?


    It felt a little basic in parts but I don't know if that was the intention. I felt it strived to be all things to all men (or women) and ended up not really being indepth or exploratory enough. There seemed, to me, to be a heavy emphasis on the emotional/romantic side of the sexual relationship. I didn't buy the book for relationship advice but something to spark ideas and add a little 'pep'. The other thing was that the illustrations were absolutely awful! I think part of a sex books job is to stimulate visually as well as mentally BUT the drawings were so bad that I found them distracting. Have a look at the book on Amazon and you'll see what I mean.

    http://www.amazon.co.uk/Sinful-Sex-Uninhibited-Erotic-Pleasure/dp/1861055463/ref=sr_1_4?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1300897369&sr=1-4

    I wouldn't say it's a bad book as it did have some oral tips and games which we found interesting but to describe itself as 'sinful' was over egging it a little. I got it half price so not too bad a purchase.

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    Eww... those really are awful. Looks like something a sex-ed teacher might quickly sketch on the chalkboard, not something from a professional artist.

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    sharry wrote:

    The Nymphomaniac wrote:

    sharry wrote:

    Bought and read Dr Pam Spurrs Sinful Sex... not particularly sinful nor does it really cover anything that unusual. There were a few ideas on techniques that we mean to try but no earth shattering revelations.

    I can understand really, everyone has their own definition on what is sinful. The cover looks appealing comparded to some, but others could find it off putting. If there any areas of the book you really didn't get a long with? and areas that you did actually enjoy, whether they are helpful to you or not?

    It felt a little basic in parts but I don't know if that was the intention. I felt it strived to be all things to all men (or women) and ended up not really being indepth or exploratory enough. There seemed, to me, to be a heavy emphasis on the emotional/romantic side of the sexual relationship. I didn't buy the book for relationship advice but something to spark ideas and add a little 'pep'. The other thing was that the illustrations were absolutely awful! I think part of a sex books job is to stimulate visually as well as mentally BUT the drawings were so bad that I found them distracting. Have a look at the book on Amazon and you'll see what I mean.

    http://www.amazon.co.uk/Sinful-Sex-Uninhibited-Erotic-Pleasure/dp/1861055463/ref=sr_1_4?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1300897369&sr=1-4

    I wouldn't say it's a bad book as it did have some oral tips and games which we found interesting but to describe itself as 'sinful' was over egging it a little. I got it half price so not too bad a purchase.

    understand a lot of books I've read recently have been like this. I purchase both self-help and textbooks regarding sex and understand the differances, with self help a visual can help as long as it's kept in line with the rest of the book. Not sure if that makes sense, but some books are lighter than others. with a book stating it is sinful you expect something a little visually sinful. Seems like a good book, though I personally may not buy as I have so many on my list to purchase.

    What was your fav tip on oral within the book, did you find it explained it well enough to take it from the pages into real life?

    Sorry I must seem annoying.

    silverdrop wrote:

    I recently read Sex at Dawn which is a book theorizing about the sexual habits of early mankind. I found it a pretty fascinating read. I'm not convinced that the evidence proves anything about pre-civilization humans, but the evidence itself - the sexual habits of various primate species and humans in tribal cultures - was interesting.

    This book seems interesting, was there any parts of evidence that really caught your eye? and some bits that you felt were more filler than fact?

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    silverdrop wrote:

    Eww... those really are awful. Looks like something a sex-ed teacher might quickly sketch on the chalkboard, not something from a professional artist.

    and after viewing the pictures I agree they aren't well done.

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    silverdrop wrote:

    Eww... those really are awful. Looks like something a sex-ed teacher might quickly sketch on the chalkboard, not something from a professional artist.

    and after viewing the pictures I agree they aren't well done.

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    I recently got Sextasy by Tracey Cox, it's a nice hardback, coffee table type thing. The photos are well done, tasteful and natural. Her writing style is quite chatty, more like a magazine article than a book, but there is plenty of info in there.

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    silverdrop wrote:

    I recently read Sex at Dawn which is a book theorizing about the sexual habits of early mankind. I found it a pretty fascinating read. I'm not convinced that the evidence proves anything about pre-civilization humans, but the evidence itself - the sexual habits of various primate species and humans in tribal cultures - was interesting.

    Hmm.... Interesting. Did not know there is such a book. I do study archaeology and I do encourage images often, but did not know someone published something. I may have a look.

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    Laveila wrote:

    silverdrop wrote:

    I recently read Sex at Dawn which is a book theorizing about the sexual habits of early mankind. I found it a pretty fascinating read. I'm not convinced that the evidence proves anything about pre-civilization humans, but the evidence itself - the sexual habits of various primate species and humans in tribal cultures - was interesting.

    Hmm.... Interesting. Did not know there is such a book. I do study archaeology and I do encourage images often, but did not know someone published something. I may have a look.

    Hey Laveila, I have read texts that are similar to this before but often the sections are more of an evolutionists view rather than archaelogy. There was a book apparently about the roman society that had a section on sex, it came out towards the end of last year. I can't remember which one it was though, sorry. A lot of my friends work in book stores so tend to hear about the books that are new/ written in an interesting style.

    I'm too tenpted by this book, maybe we should start a book club...

    I'm sorry about my recent posts btw my new keyboard is playing up :(

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    Postillionager wrote:

    I recently got Sextasy by Tracey Cox, it's a nice hardback, coffee table type thing. The photos are well done, tasteful and natural. Her writing style is quite chatty, more like a magazine article than a book, but there is plenty of info in there.

    I got given some Tracey Cox books when I was 17, I agree they are a bit chatty and more like a magazine. I haven't read her book 'Sextasy', are there any good and bad points you feel worth mentioning?

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    Well, I read sex sections in various publications but mainly dealing with the depiction and some images are very explicit (still finding the 18th or early 19th century cup in shape of erect penis amusing). And I think one of my secondary school teacher was writing about pornography on Greek vases if I remember corrently. But I haven´t really read anything dealing with sex habits or not in particular details. So it may be interesting to see what this book is like.

    Book club sounds great. But how to organise it?

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    Laveila wrote:

    Well, I read sex sections in various publications but mainly dealing with the depiction and some images are very explicit (still finding the 18th or early 19th century cup in shape of erect penis amusing). And I think one of my secondary school teacher was writing about pornography on Greek vases if I remember corrently. But I haven´t really read anything dealing with sex habits or not in particular details. So it may be interesting to see what this book is like.

    Book club sounds great. But how to organise it?

    I have no idea how to organise it. some of the books I have read refer to greek times. Most books I've read are around 1970 to 1700.

    I have no idea how we would pick the books, or whether they would be affordable? Have you any ideas?

    Of course I enjoy a lot of modern sex books, hence this thread. I was thinking of starting another thread with books thgat aren't modern?

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    Maybe would be interesting to compare the non modern to modern. To see if something changed (to be honest I doubt that, just in some periods people did not speak too much about sex )

    Hmmm... The picking up would be tricky. I haven´t sent anything using Royal Mail recently so I have no idea about the costs. Although I saw at some sites cost for posting a book £2.80 (likely including the cost of packaging as well). The major problem would be if the book is not to be given away, but just passed for the reading, as the books which are being given away do appear in the adoption section. So it would likely cost the posting. So the question is would it be worth the postage? Erh. This is hard to figure out.

    But I think just reading about the different available books is great. As they can be found cheaply on some sites to buy, if you are lucky.

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    I was a big fan of the Tracey Cox books when I was 15/16 ish. They're great for starters, or people with slightly less experience.


    Paul Joannides's The Guide to Getting It On is meant to be good too.

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    Jake of Facts and Friction wrote:

    I was a big fan of the Tracey Cox books when I was 15/16 ish. They're great for starters, or people with slightly less experience.


    Paul Joannides's The Guide to Getting It On is meant to be good too.

    Yes I agree when I was 15-17 I was given her books as gifts, her writing wasn't my type and still isn't.

    Have you read Paul Joannides books?

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    The Nymphomaniac wrote:

    Jake of Facts and Friction wrote:

    I was a big fan of the Tracey Cox books when I was 15/16 ish. They're great for starters, or people with slightly less experience.


    Paul Joannides's The Guide to Getting It On is meant to be good too.

    Yes I agree when I was 15-17 I was given her books as gifts, her writing wasn't my type and still isn't.

    Have you read Paul Joannides books?

    No but I've seen it recommended on a few sex/sex ed blogs.

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