• Help for a daft bint with a work crush ;-)

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    MissTerryCleavage [sign in to see picture]
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    Lol, well the line hasn't changed.....

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    MissTerryCleavage wrote:

    And as far as I know, no-one understands men, certainly not women and possibly not even themselves

    Couldn't agree more!!

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    Hey, hey hey! Can we not tar everyone with the same brush please!

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    Jamba wrote:

    Hey, hey hey! Can we not tar everyone with the same brush please!

    Women for you ey?

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    Any news btw, Terry?

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    Ooh missed this, sorry Jamba & WandA... Obv not all men are the same.... lol

    No real update, just seen him at work, had convo but it wasn't mentioned and as we were alone it could have been so am not bothering now, the offer was made he hasn't taken it, c'est la vie....

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    So I'm back in the running?

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    MissTerryCleavage wrote:

    Ooh missed this, sorry Jamba & WandA... Obv not all men are the same.... lol

    No real update, just seen him at work, had convo but it wasn't mentioned and as we were alone it could have been so am not bothering now, the offer was made he hasn't taken it, c'est la vie....

    with those cheeks he must be blind terry!!!

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    Haha... well I remain single, but my ex, who apparently never realised he was an ex, despite not seeing me for 6months is in the running.... (see rant thread for more info on that, lol)

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    I thought this would be a good place to start as the thread title is bang on topic... I have a bit of a crush on this girl at work. I know she's gay but she's a wild thing in terms of choosing girlfriends and I don't know if I'd be able to have a proper relationship with her. She has dated a straight girl before who cheated on her with her ex-boyfriend, she has dated an escort and she has dated a lot of women basically. She never seems to settle down. How do I approach her and start establishing a better relationship with her without making an idiot of myself or hurting her feelings? (I always have a knack for putting my foot in it.) By the way we are currently friends who get on well. We've only been friends since Christmas though.

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    HappilyExperimenting wrote:

    I thought this would be a good place to start as the thread title is bang on topic... I have a bit of a crush on this girl at work. I know she's gay but she's a wild thing in terms of choosing girlfriends and I don't know if I'd be able to have a proper relationship with her. She has dated a straight girl before who cheated on her with her ex-boyfriend, she has dated an escort and she has dated a lot of women basically. She never seems to settle down. How do I approach her and start establishing a better relationship with her without making an idiot of myself or hurting her feelings? (I always have a knack for putting my foot in it.) By the way we are currently friends who get on well. We've only been friends since Christmas though.

    Good old offer of going for drinks? I wouldn't worry too much about the straight girl cheating thing, some lesbians are over the top about it... but really it's just a case of making sure she knows your trustworthy kind of thing I guess, in saying that... never let anyone treat you like crap on account of their ex being bad to them, been there and it's not pretty.

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    Double post >.<

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    I think you would need to tread carefully and find out if she is the kind of person who can be happy in a stable monogomus relationship. You've not mentioned her cheating on anyone, rather her being cheated on. The number of people a person has slept with shouldn't really matter, and we can't help who we fall for, even if we find out later they are not right for us.

    However the more people a person sleeps with, the more risk they are at for STI transmission, so if the relationship were to get sexual it would be wise for both of you to have safer sex and get tested.

    has she given any indication that she's into you, or would be interested in a relationship? that would be the first step really, and it's at that point that you would need to be honest and state that if a relationship were to happen she would have to calm down a little bit, and you would need to say *how* you would like her to do that. Other than being completley honest there's not much you can really do as it's up to her ultimatley if she wants to settle into a relationship that would suit both of you

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    I feel like a teenager again! :S Nervous and embarrassed!

    Thanks for the tips though guys, I understand that I need to work up to a gf/gf relationship slowly but at the mo I am working on our intimate relationship which means compliments, deep talks and more texting when not at work. One day I'll ask her out for a few drinks, not sure when though! I'll take it slow :)

    Anyone else had a work crush that worked out good before? Or even crashed and burned? I'm curious to hear your experiences!! :)

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    Yes, now happily married and have been for 25 yrs. We were both on the rebound went out for a drink and realized we were right for each other.

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