Having a Threesome

 My experiences with three-or-moresomes have always been as a result of the same methods I use to find any date -

1. I socialise,
2. I meet people,
3. I spend more time with the ones I like,
4. I get to know them better,
5. we see if we like each other,
6. we see if we fancy each other,
7. we discuss our personal circumstances,
8. we discuss whether proceeding further is likely to be agreeable to each of us.
9. we try stuff out to see if we enjoy it
10. feelings develop, or not.

Personally, I've never understood why so many people seem to think that finding a partner for erotic activities is any different from finding any other kind of date.  I mean, if you're looking for a sex worker, that's one thing.  But I think that seeking a socially and sexually compatible companion, even if it's solely for sex, can really only be effective if it's done through the usual dating channels.  Socialise and meet people, and/or go on a dating site(s).  What other avenues for this can there possibly be?

I cannot understand why any other approach would be successful for people who are not sex workers.  I know that when I'm approached as if I were an unpaid sex worker (i.e. to solely provide uncompensated sexual services), I tend to disregard those approaches.  When I'm approached as a human being, I'm much more likely to feel positive about that.

So far, I have never successfully found any date via any online dating site.  All of mine have been through social encounters.  I'm sure if I kept trying I would find at least one date that successfully progressed to an erotic encounter from a dating site, but so far my most effective approach has been through face-to-face socialising.

Good luck.  :)

I have had a few 3 sums with all girls thou, and with my partner on me sololey he has been asked if he wants to shag another girl n he says no he is happy for me to be with girls thou

Me and the OH have discused this and we both said the same thing that it would only be the type of thing we would consider if we was both single. I know for sure i would get really insicure and jelous if it was FFM and as he says why would he need anyone else to join us since he gets everything he wants from me in the bedroom and the same for me to him..

So my feelings on it would be that i would need to be single and fully knowing no-one would be left hurt etc at the end of it...

I've had two threesomes, one was on a drunken night out down a back alley in Newcastle with a lass and lad I knew from College. That wasn't particularly amazing!! The other was with my current partner before we got together and tbh thinking back on it does bring a few bad things into my mind and the thought of her with someone else upsets me and she says exactly the same.

I think the way we are we couldn't have a threesome for the thought of either of us getting jealous however if we were single again I'm pretty sure we would definitely be up for it!

If I was single I would definately be up for a threesome, but I couldn't bare to do it now, I would be so insecure and I believe hubby would be too, I have been with women before and I know I would love it-i just dont like sharing my things lol

xxx

only if i were single again don't think i could share what iv'e got now too jealous .off course if it just happened and we were both agreeing on the subject might be different but i don't think i would like the thoughts of it afterwards might just lead to a total breakdown of my 30 odd year relationship with a very sexy wife xx

Had a threesome only once. I was 17 and at a houseparty, the parents were away on holiday. I was on a bed with my girlfriend at the time when a girl I'd never met before stripped off and joined us on the bed. It was fantastic at the time but today as a dad of a 16 yr old, I'd never admit to it. Shocking behaviour of course! I occasionally see the girl to this day. We smile as we pass each other in the street!

Me and my husbadn have had 3somes, some have worked some haven't but it hasn't put us off, it's just finding people who are up for it thta you feel relaxed with and trust.

me and my partner are in two minds if  to do it or not we`ve got a close friend who is willing do it with us but were both rather nervious i case it does feel rite we both always suggest it when we`ve had a drink.

can anyone help are they really worth trying?

mattb_241182 wrote:

me and my partner are in two minds if  to do it or not we`ve got a close friend who is willing do it with us but were both rather nervious i case it does feel rite we both always suggest it when we`ve had a drink.

can anyone help are they really worth trying?

Threesomes are like any sexual experience - it depends on the individual(s) you're with.  Just as every sexual experience is different, every threesome experience is different.  If you think sex is worth trying, then a threesome is worth trying.  

Just like any sexual encounter, with the wrong people a threesome can go pretty badly.

And just like any sexual encounter, with the right people a threesome can be fantastic.

If you're nervous, don't do it, simple as that.

I'm an only child, have issues with sharing to begin with! lol  My (semi)OH really wants this, it's up there on watching girl on girl. And he doesn't seem to have an issue with sharing etc. We differ and this is probably why it's not been done yet. He reckons he'd be more comfy if it was with someone we knew whereas I would rather a stranger. He's coming from the sexual health angle, I'm coming from the 'never want to see you again' angle!

I honestly have no problems with one night of utter abandonement but really would like it to be something between us two. I'm tempted to go down the stranger route and just tell him it's a friend from years ago! (but then where's the honesty?) lol

The devil you don't know sounds better to me. Not someone you have to see socially if it all goes pear shaped after!

MaxPower wrote:

The devil you don't know sounds better to me. Not someone you have to see socially if it all goes pear shaped after!

If that were true then people would only date strangers once before moving on, cos it's not like dating never goes pear shaped.  :p

I've had a mmf both us where striaght and didn't touch each over. But was such a turn to watch the girl.

LIke every other male I would love to be at use of  two women.

rugah wrote:

Happy to  provide the third for anyone on here ;)

rugah you may want to have a little look at the rules hun as saying things like this could be classed as soliciting, and it is against the rules

Oh sorry was supposed to a little tongue in cheek

My apologies to all

rugah wrote:

Oh sorry was supposed to a little tongue in cheek

My apologies to all

its ok i just thought you should know

MzBee wrote:

I'm an only child, have issues with sharing to begin with! lol  My (semi)OH really wants this, it's up there on watching girl on girl. And he doesn't seem to have an issue with sharing etc. We differ and this is probably why it's not been done yet. He reckons he'd be more comfy if it was with someone we knew whereas I would rather a stranger. He's coming from the sexual health angle, I'm coming from the 'never want to see you again' angle!

I honestly have no problems with one night of utter abandonement but really would like it to be something between us two. I'm tempted to go down the stranger route and just tell him it's a friend from years ago! (but then where's the honesty?) lol

I can totally sympathise with this predicament!  I'm having the same arguement in my own head ... part of me really wouldn't want it to be someone I knew as I might get insecure about it but then another part of me starts thinking about the dangers of STDs and also that it might be quite nice if it wasn't just "wham bam thank you m'am"....ARRGGHHHH what to do!

xxKPxx

thanks for your advice we will take that on board and see where it gets us

cheers

One of my fantasys would be 2 blokes at once, but also would try with another girl.

Selfishly I'd love it either way, but also more selfishly I'd hate it if he enjoyed it! I'd be extremely jealous and would only be interested if we were somewhere FAR from home where i know we'd never meet this person again. I'd be jealous during and probably go over it in my mind after, wondering whether he preferred her to me.

For those reasons I have noooo immediate plans for a 3some!