age gaps....xx

Have no problem with this so long as it is legal, though if i had a choice i would go for the older woman...lol

more exerienceso can show u a great time isnt it need more ;)x

Well guess the younger ones can provide just as much experience but always had this thing about an older woman 

lolwelshgal - thats quite an age gap but you seem happy enough

 I've got at fantasy about older men, i think i must of watched too much ER as a kid as George Cloony is my ultimate dream fuck, there is something so sexy about older men especially confident ones - they have a twinkle in their eye and you just know if you got into bed with them then you would be in for a treat

xx...trouble...xx wrote:

please dont judge me, ive been called allsorts because of the age gap between me and my partner, so has he. we met when i was 15, we went on a few dates before even disscusing ages when we finally did we found out he was 15 years older than me i expected him to run a mile but he tol me he thought so much of me he didnt care, we didnt sleep together straight away i think wed been dating for ova a month, yes ok i did fall pregnant and yes i was underage but when your ready your ready right, i had my son 7 months after my 16th birthday, and here we are 5 years on we now live together have a wonderfull 3 year old and are hoping for another sometime soon! everyone didnt think we would last his family didnt even give us a year and my family even my mum gave us between 1-2 years so we showed them, we are stronger than ever and love the same things he thinks im georgeous and hes fantastic in bed so who cares about the age gap because i certainly dont!

Hi Trouble

                  I dont think its a problem, you sound quite level headed, the people i know or have met with older or younger partners seem to get on very well, and seem very very happy.

As for being to young at sixteen,  Years ago in my mums time the average age for leaving  school was 14, and people had been at work 3/4 years by the time they were 18.

So if your Happy, then the best of luck to you both!!

Bunny

Just want to say that age doesn't matter at all, my boyfriend is 13 years older than me. Our good friends are 24 and 32 and I know loads more examples. When I was 15 I dated a 22 year old for almost 2 years.

Sometimes you do get funny/weird comments of people but who cares!?

As long as you can both laugh about things like: when I was you're age it's fine :D

I quite like older women really. Oldest was one of my mum's friends. And my mum is fifty! Still, she was a lot better than some girls my age.

Oh yes they know just what they want no meesing lol

There is 6 yrs between my partner and me, when I met him I already had a five yr old child from another relationship. Before we started dating I used to think "I'm too old for him and I have baggage he wouldn't give me a second look" however two years down the line we are stronger than ever and have been living together for over a year now. 

The age gap for me is not an issue but sometimes it is clear to see that we are in different places in our lives. I have started my "family" and want so much to have more children but he is not ready. 

Like http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/members/lubyanka/ said in her previous post age is a sign of the experiences people have had in life so in a sense it does matter to a point. I have lived and done things my partner has not experienced which makes me ready for things in our relationship which he is not. But no matter what we face we love each other to the limit and we would never want to be apart. We just focus on growing together and that way regardless of age we are in the same point in life and ready for the same things.

Nexas wrote:

kinkboyuk wrote:

I quite like older women really. Oldest was one of my mum's friends. And my mum is fifty! Still, she was a lot better than some girls my age.

Now see, that's something I'd be interested in trying...which sounds odd LOL But I'm interested to see what a woman of experience could do...

You should, it's not hard. Most women of that age seem rather sex starved and like the idea of a toy boy with stamina.

What a young girl might class as amazing would only be mediocre to an older woman.  You learn so much, once you're with another young girl you can blow her mind, and she's not to know where you learnt your tricks ;-)

I got ID'd today... Buying scissors.

Back on the topic of age gaps, as long as its not illegal, then I don't see any problems. I personally wouldn't go younger than my current age but that's just personal preference.

Saying that, I have dated men significantly older than myself and have found that it doesn't really work for me either. There's a borderline of age which I've learnt not to cross!

Horses for courses 'n' that.

Isn't there something called "the seven year rule" where you are supposed to half your age and add seven years to find the minimum "acceptable" age for a younger partner e.g. I am 42 so 42/ 2 = 21 +7 =28?

'course, if that's the case, me and babycakes are waaaaay off (he's 19)

 Carly- i frequently get ID'd

Twice recently I have been asked for ID in pubs, which is quite flattering but as a 23 year old pretty embarrassing, i never carry ID 

PPB

X

My Hubs is thirteen years older than me, does it matter, not a tiny bit. But, I think that once the age gap gets to be more than twenty years, the relationship in question is suspicious. I'm thinking about rich guys marrying a girl twenty, thirty or even forty years younger. 

Having had long term relationships with someone 15 years older than me, and someone 6 years younger I can honetly say age can be irrelevent if you love someone. It does make you feel old when you talk about kids tv you watched growing up though haha!

There are only just over 3 years between my OH and me, but I do know couples where the age gap is at least 10 years and they're all extremely happy.

As far as the age of consent thing goes, I think it's a touchy subject. I was 15 when I lost my virginity to my OH and he was 18. Technically it was illegal, but I was in love with him, felt no pressure whatsoever from him and knew my own mind. I don't think anyone should be encouraged to lose it before the legal age, but I think the situation can differ a huge amount from couple to couple. For example, you could have one situation like mine, where both partners are willing and in love, another situation where one partner is not ready but does it because they are pressured into doing it ,and another where one partner is significantly older and should really know better. You can't really pigeonhole it as a topic because it can go so many ways. I drank before I was 18, I smoked before I was 16, I watched porn before I was 18...but now I only drink rarely, I quit smoking over a year ago, and I don't feel I'm a sexual deviant for enjoying porn. It's all down to the individual case.

I don't feel the age limit should be lowered, but neither do I feel that making it higher will solve the problem. I've always said to my OH that if we have a daughter one day and she wants to go on the pill or similar, I would allow it as long as she's over 14 and also has condoms, because I'd rather she did it safely than sneaking around and getting pregnant or an STD. If kids want to have sex, they will have sex, and all you can hope is that they'll be responsible enough to be safe.

I think age gaps matter more when it's the woman that is older than the man.

I got together when I was 22 with a woman 15 years older than me.  The age gap didn't bother me at the time.  We were together for eight years, even lived together for one.

Now I'm 30 and she of course is 45.  We've recently split up.  Age wasn't the only factor, but for me at least it certainly was a big one.  I just couldn't stop myself thinking in five years time she's going to be 50.  When I'm 50 she's going to be 65 and retired!  I'm going be coming home from work and sleeping with a pensioner!

I don't want children right now, and never thought I would.  But as more of my friends start families, the more I wonder if in a few years time I might.  At 45 it's already too late for her really.  If in a few years when I'm say 35 I decide that I do want children ... well I'm absolutely stuffed.  It's way too late for her ... but even if we split up then I might be 40 by the time I've settled down again with someone else and ready to start a family.  And if I'm 40 who's to say a younger girl is even going to look at me twice?

When the age gap is the other way around it takes a lot of the pressure off.

There were several other reasons for the eventual break up but I wont go into them now, they're not relevent to this thread.

The older woman seems so appealing when you're in your twenties.  I'm sure some people make it work long term in lasting relationships, but it didn't work for me in the end.

Wow, will the real Mrs  Robinson please lie down!!!

Age- golden rule is if similar ages and one below legal age of consent then probably will be NFA

BUT if bloke older than girl, a virtual duty of care exists where he is supposed to know how old she is. But it's not a precise art, due to drink or fibbing, mistakes do happen. There is a statutory defence if the guy is under a certain age.

Also if one is in a position of responsibility re the other eg teacher, then the law tends to come down like a ton of bricks.

Best thing if luv rears it's swollen head is to head for the hills and stay schtumm, like the Brit who reckoned he was a North American Indian !!! Archie whatever his name was......

There my potted philosophy on all this.

TB

Nexus,

You're right, I was being sexist. There are plenty of toy-boys out there looking for the mighty $$ just are there bimbos doing the same. My mistake, I'll try to do better next time. (I had an image of High Hefner in my head at the time - not a pleasant experience).

Ooops for Nexus, read Nexas.