Do you like your naked self?

BashfulBabe wrote:

*cough* spot the link *cough*

Think there was a thread here somewhere about all our scars and so-called imperfections, and the fairly unanimous feeling is that they're awesome.  Plus, chicks dig scars, it's science.

It's science for "He can take that bastarding fluffy woolly mammoth by himself."

Here's the thread about scars and marks

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/orgasm-army/sex-talk/162378-beautiful-scars-whats-your-story/

I dont mind my body, i like watching myself masturbating if that counts

 i don't mind being naked at all. i've slept naked for years now. and i'm actually a nudist too. so i'm used to what i have, as i've seen lots of naked bodies in my time, and you soon see everyone is diffferent.

shauny

AdnaW wrote:

Also wanted to add - LH you are a sexy lady !

Adx

thankyou beautiful, i think we all know that you are very gorgeous and irrisistable!

but, unfortunately all my positive-ness seems to have run away :/ i dont know why but recently ive reverted back to my old ways, perhaps i spent a minute or 2 too long looking in the mirror recently or something, perhaps it was a few pictures that i saw of myself that i wish i hadnt, either way i am seriously feeling crap about myself recently, looking down makes me want to cry, im possibly at the heaviest ive ever been (so darent even go on the scales - and thats saying something i used to be almost obsessive and weigh myself anything up to 8 times a day noting ever pound i lost or gained) i look down and notice ive gone down at least one cup size but judging by some of my bras its more like 2 sizes, my belly is starting to just look podgy and so much fatter than it used to, all my scars seem more apparent and my thighs just look awful. and thats just to point out the main things, i wont dwell on the rest for now :/

i guess my confidence has been knocked even more since seeing some friends recenlty and as i was wearng a little crop top that tied under my boobs one pointed out numerous times that i had put on weight and had a right belly on me and such comments (not meaning to bitch here just getting my point across) and its just made me feel like im absolutely discusting, ive started to sleep in my mans tees or even hoodies so he wont wake up and see me in the night when i dont know :/ i think ive managed to cover well so far by just making out im cold or just 'not getting undressed' like normal :/

i dont exactly know where im heading with this but just thought it was the right thread to get soe bits off my chest im not fishing for compliments or anything like that just needed to get it out i guess :/ x

LH just think - the reason they think it's ok to say that is because you still have a figure to die for - if they genuinly thought you looked bad they wouldn't dare say a thing!

Anyway - little round tummies are so sexy and feminine in my opinion.

Adx

You won Model of the Month for a reason LH!

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/members/loves-huni/photos/

Everyone notices little things they don't like but if you're in a positive mood you'll notice the positive not the negative. I know with Ad she can be the most confident little sex kitten when positive or so turned off when she is having a bad day. Keep your chin up and do something positive to make your self feel positive, have a sexy bath, pounce the fella and let him unleash some frustration or forget about things for a bit anf focus on the good when you're feeling better.

As for the boobs... Well, I noticed the blog image a while ago. I won't ply you with objectifying comments but CORRRR!!!

headsouth wrote:

That doesn't read like digging for complements in the slightest, don't worry about that. I suck big style at advice, but it's got to come back to self respect and confidence as you know. I'm sure you could look at a near clone of you and think they look amazing, but as you know it's you in the mirror it's different regardless of what things you can coldly accept as fact. Thinking about the way society forces image upon people, especially young women, may well be a way to see the things you take as personal attacks as just part of the human condition and not something you should take to heart. I try to be careful when I saw someone looks amazing for all sorts of reasons, not least because it's only natural to pick good photo's to upload here etc, but from your photo's it's patently clear that you have nothing to worry about, with or without a few extra pounds here or there. You might not be *the* model of perfection, but would you want to be??? That sounds like a hell of a lot of hard work and misery to be that good...

I found that a long term partner really helped me come to accept my personal assets more, from the perspective that whatever I think of the way I look, she certainly is happy with me on balance, and has been for almost a decade now, and I had to, at some point, accept that she can't be wrong, and I should stop feeling uncomfortable in my skin. Mind you though, it was never a genuine emotional issue, I just had (have) lowish self esteem from general shcool bullying and the likes.

I thought that was great advice HS, and to be honest you really don't seem the type to say things just to make people feel better so I think LH should appreciate it even more!

I can't say I love my body, but I guess it's ok. Used to be too self conscious but feel much more relaxed about stuff like that lately . I guess I've finally accepted the way I look.

Thankyou headsouth, Ad & WandA your all so great! *big cuddles*

i guess im just going through a rough patch and my weight has always been the one thing im in control of and no longer feel like that :/

maybe i should just take up being super dominant or something?

i went for a long shower after i posted earlier and do feel a bit better now (not about myself, but have a general better mood) so hopefully time will pass and ill get my confidence back

I found that a long term partner really helped me come to accept my personal assets more, from the perspective that whatever I think of the way I look, she certainly is happy with me on balance, and has been for almost a decade now, and I had to, at some point, accept that she can't be wrong, and I should stop feeling uncomfortable in my skin

my man really does try to help with this and most of the time it works, but i guess i just tend to think he only says things because he has to, hes my man and if he doesnt think it or at least pretend to then no one will :/

*sigh*

And Ad i wish that were the case but after a drink or 2 she likes to tell me her real opinions on stuff and it always comes across pretty harsh :/ i guess thats just her though ill just wear a long tee next time.

thanks though guys, means a lot

headsouth wrote:

If you dish out platitudes on demand it will just undermine their value. If someone says I'm an amazingly handsome sexy stud, which no one ever has (*ahem*) then I'd just think they're trying to make me feel better, and not actually mean it... There's nothing wrong with not being super attractive, and I think there's more chance of making someone feel more comfortable if you're honest about their postive aspects rather than ignore them and say whatever sounds nicest.

So true. I'm the type of person that gets annoyed when people try and make me feel better... I shouldn't but I often know the relevant facts and reminding me just to improve my mood is rather tedious and can appear insincere. I don't take compliments well either...

I do try to be honest about such matters and the reason I generally don't comment about such things is I'd rather not compliment someone and feel like the next person then deserves a compliment... but not want to lie.

Hmmm in youth 46 inch chest, 32 inch waist, 24 inch thighs, 15 inch biceps, 7 inch thingy, all has pretty much changed around since, like the swallows- heading south!!! Only thingy keep his end up!!

TB

LH you know how to contact me if you ever need someone to rant too :)

Adx

i love myself naked

Hell to-the-no.

Peachy keen wrote:

Hell to-the-no.

But you're cute and fluffy and... O, wait there.. That's not you is it?

It is me! . I can flipper type.

Nope, unfortunately, I have never liked my naked body from as far back as I can remember. Possibly something to do with growing up with a mum who had eating disorders dispite her efforts to divert the attention to other things and pretend everything was fine. I like my shape sort of, just not naked, I hate my legs mostly but my arms and legs and stomach all remain completely covered whatever the weather. I am a size 14 on the bottom and 12 on top, not big really, I am quite muscular from years of dancing but I also have huge difficulty burning off body fat which I think is a problem for my height (or lack of height) this is to do with a long term medical issue that has damaged my metabolism irrepairablly, I am looking into having surgery to be honest. I am almost 30 and I think It is terribly sad, that in years to come, I will have been through so much of my life without being able to look at the body I am in, and feel content and be able to accept what I see, and believe me I am now far better about my self image than I have ever been before.

WandA wrote:

You won Model of the Month for a reason LH!

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/members/loves-huni/photos/

Ooh, I hadn't seen the photos section before.  WandA, I totally agree Loves Huni is hot!  Sorry, LH, thats not a proper first forum message from a new member!

Anyway, as for me, I've never been happy with my naked body, but I've lost a bit of weight over the last year or so, and I feel its getting better.  I'm now pretty much my ideal weight, I just need to get a bit more toned.  Strangely for someone who doesn't like their body, I've always been happy being naked behind closed doors.  I just hate taking my shirt off in public!  Man-boobs aren't sexy.

More photos of other memebers!

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/photos/

Also a competition to win £100 of LH stuff for uploading pics!

woohoo!  Now I'm not getting ANY work done today