• Anal sex! First time ??

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    Stephk06 [sign in to see picture]
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    So I've agreed to try anal sex with my boyfriend. But I am so scared! I get all tense whenever he puts a finger up there. Also he's quite large down there😳 . Any tips? To make it as pleasurable as it could be?? Thanks xx

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    cg22 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi Steph

    RELAX, use lots of lube and enjoy it.. it may not work first time but over time it becomes an intimate part of love making.

    My wife always instigates anal, I never ask its down to her when she feels ready and wants it... but we always use a butt plug first to relax her

    Good luck

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    Delboy1991 [sign in to see picture]
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    morning hun.

    Try this http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-toys/362-anal-sex-for-beginners-any-advice/

    saves double posts. u can search in the bar at the top.

    welcome to the forum, enjoy x

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    NatandTom [sign in to see picture]
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    There are hundreds of posts on this subject. As you can imagine, it's a very popular topic. Please use the search bar before making posts as this stops duplicate threads being created and clogging up the forum. The moderators prefer the conversation to be continued on an already existing thread if possible. I'm sure those threads will cover everything you want to know :) x

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    Gigglesandjiggles [sign in to see picture]
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    I absolutely love anal play but it's not for everyone, my advise would be....

    Relax, lube, go slow, lube, make sure he's warmed you up first with fingers and or a plug, and font forget lube, lube, lube!

    I wouldn't worry too much about thinking tonight's the night, experiment more with anal play and move on when you feel ready.

    Good luck and fingers crossed you relax enough to enjoy it. X

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    Throbinhood [sign in to see picture]
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    id say douche, lube, go slow, enjoy

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    mamz [sign in to see picture]
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    I'd say that it looks like it's coming from him and not from you. If he is the one who want to have anal sex, and you agreed on it to make him happy, then my advice is don't do it.

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    Sxleksaker [sign in to see picture]
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    +1 Mamz

    I had anal sex with an ex boyfriend who continued to ask me until I agreed. It wasn't pleasant and actually put me off anything anal for quite some time.

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    Sum Sub [sign in to see picture]
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    I dunno Mamz/Sxlesaker! If noone instigated things then nothing would never happen.

    What's important is that the OP has agreed it freely and without coercion, and that the BF is respectful of any instruction to stop. Thereby proving that communication is equally as important as relaxation, consent, lube and of course using the search function.

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    Sxleksaker [sign in to see picture]
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    I would just like to add that you should let your OH research the subject too, so he knows how anal sex should be done and how important it is to take it slow and continually listen to how it feels for you so he doesn't hurt you.

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    Sxleksaker wrote:

    I would just like to add that you should let your OH research the subject too, so he knows how anal sex should be done and how important it is to take it slow and continually listen to how it feels for you so he doesn't hurt you.

    +1. It's not something that should ever, ever be rushed into and it's definitely not like in the porn films where there's no prep and it's straight to thrusting! A bad first time could be really painful, cause possible damage and maybe even put you off it for life. Take your time and do your research and preparation with plenty of lube, finger/s, then different sized toys in stages, slowly together over a good few sessions till you are really comfortable, very turned on and very ready. Go slow!!! Stop if it ever feels uncomfortable and if you don't like any of it remember you don't have to do it! It's not something that everyone enjoys. It's a huge step from a finger that you find uncomfortable to a "large" penis so please take your time. There's no need to rush. Good luck :)
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    Hello there :)

    First time is the hardest and most uncomfortable you'll ever feel with it honey. I myself prefer anal at all times and yes you will need sufficent amounts of lube, never enough in my opinion.

    But there has to be some ground work done by your partner that will help things along. He will need to pardon the expression ...but soften you up back there. With your foreplay he will need to get a finger in there with lube and just literally soft up your anal opening for you. Then may I suggest a vibe to size that's comfortable for you and progress from there. There's no right or wrong but groundwork is a must. A good stiff drink too helps too! It should be pleasurable to both parties, so if at any point you feel it's not going to happen you need to feel confident to say stop!!

    It brings me so much pleasure every day, if not with my partner it will be a double vibe! I hope it works out for you if not it's not the end of the world right? x

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    sassykitten;) [sign in to see picture]
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    Although ive nnever managed full anal ive managed build up ... relaxing n lube is key.

    We've dabbled when drunk which is when we are both fuLly rrelaxed etc

    Good idea to get fully turned on n relaxed first

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    SquirtyPanda [sign in to see picture]
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    Also the spoon position is great for anal and especially for beginners. I think this position helps relax the anal canal

    good luck

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    TB149 [sign in to see picture]
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    I know that Mrs TB149 was not initially keen on anal but after a bit of teasing and some slow build up she is now really comfortable with it. It will take time but is worth the effort. Butt plugs are the way to start it off and build things up.

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    m4nn13 [sign in to see picture]
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    Lots of lube and time , especially if it's your first time! I've also had trouble with doing anal as like your OH I'm quite well endowed and it can hurt but eventually it will become easier.

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    m4nn13 [sign in to see picture]
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    TB149 wrote:

    I know that Mrs TB149 was not initially keen on anal but after a bit of teasing and some slow build up she is now really comfortable with it. It will take time but is worth the effort. Butt plugs are the way to start it off and build things up.

    Couldn't agree more!
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    Randy101 [sign in to see picture]
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    Lube, Lube and slow!

    You could always ask to peg him, to turn the tables .

    It's only fair that you only give what you take

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