• Anyone help with or know about E D?

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    luvved up cupple [sign in to see picture]
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    OK, difficult post this so sorry if I ramble. Had a little bit of a shock a few weeks back concerning the little guy if you know what I mean. Now, about a month ago I posted on the rant thread that I'd be out of action for a few weeks due to an infection. Doc seen, cream applied, infection gone, all good. However, not sure if the two are linked but almost as soon as I was clear, I began having a few issues achieving readiness, predominantly on my own.

    Things had been busy thru September so initially put it down to that, my youngest started school so we were both back n forth various times of the day for the first 3 weeks, my wife is now doing extra work while the kids are at school to catch up the time missed. I work full time and, as a result am helping more - I do pull my weight at home & we have a good "schedule" in place of who does what when & obviously that has been changing this last month.

    Yesterday I had a day off. Empty house on my own, first time since July, did some washing, some shopping, sorted the car out, wrote some reviews, checked in here and chilled (not necessarily in that order).

    "Me" time didn't go 100% according to plan even with digital assistance & later in the evening a session with Mrs LUC resulted in my first initial failure to rise to the occasion a little bit of coaxing into action soon bought him back around but if anything felt a little scary.

    I've just turned 40. Life has been hard these last 6 weeks or so with family work etc but as a couple we are closer I think than we ever have been.

    The weekend just gone we were at a friends wedding, party, food, drinks (many) and dancing and even after a belly full of food & drink on the Saturday performance in the early hours of Sunday morning wasn't affected.

    Sorry for the long rambling post just looking for (hoping) some idea of what may be happening, why and or if anyone has had similar and issues and what they did or didn't do to cure it.

    Thanks again in advance.

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    Without trying to cover all bases which would involve a very long post as there could be many causes.

    If you know the proper name of the cream that you was prescribed ,then place it into your internet browser .This should give you everything you would want to know about the cream including any known side affects.

    That would be my first port of call .

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    From the things you say it sounds like it might be stress related. I learnt a bit about sexual dysfunction including ED when I was doing clinical psychology at uni. Most ED in healthy men under 50 is psychology not physiological, and the fact that you could perform fine after a wedding (all that food and drinks and dancing probably acted as a great stress relief) makes me think it's not physiological. All the changes and stress in your life after being ill has probably thrown you off balance a bit, perhaps focus on reducing the stress you feel and try not to focus on the ED, the more you worry about it the more it's likely to happen (I know that's easier said than done).

    If you are concerned you could talk to a doctor about it. However they could just end up prescribing Viagra which I don't think you need. The message sounds like you're stressed and the fact that you could perform after drinking alcohol really makes it seem like it's not physiological as alcohol should lower your blood pressure.

    Hope this is somewhat helpful, and that you're back on form soon :)

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    I doubt anything is to do with the cream use for the problem you had, It's most likely a pschological thing.

    You are wound up with work and family pressures, then you had a problem with the little guy. Now at 20 if you don't come to attention you know that things will be fine tommorw; but once you get older your mind starts to accept that you can't do the things you used to.

    The one thing that guys fear losing as they turn 40 is the ability to perform in bed; you add in the medical problem and your mind starts to work over time. Is this the thing that ends my ability to perform. If your mind is already half way there, all it can take is one failed attempt to get it up and you are thinking this is it.

    So I would try some positive thinking, and try to find a little more me, or us time to give the little guy a work out. Do you do pelvic floor exersizes that can help with getting and maintaining an erection, as can the use of a penis pump, which increases blood flow.

    The main thing is to put any thoughts of a possible link to your medical problem out of your mind, I think this was a sort of trigger for you; it won't be easy, best bet is to get some reasureance from your GP, and tthen let it go, before your mind gets too far down this road of reasoning.

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    Thanks for the advice.

    Looked back at my old posts, reckon it's been a month near as makes no difference since I last used the cream so not sure if that would be the real issue or not but I'll have a Google later.

    Otherwise thanks, that is the sort of thing I was hoping, I didn't want to go to the Dr's again unless the issue becomes more persistent. Hopefully now both kids full time at school and a more normal family pattern has been re-established things will become and get a bit easier.

    The other thing I forgot to mention was that I had had a few issues sleeping (more waking at silly hours dropping back off waking again) and also noticed a lack of the morning wood which I wondered if may be connected.

    Thank you all again.

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    luvved up cupple wrote:

    Thanks for the advice.

    Looked back at my old posts, reckon it's been a month near as makes no difference since I last used the cream so not sure if that would be the real issue or not but I'll have a Google later.

    Otherwise thanks, that is the sort of thing I was hoping, I didn't want to go to the Dr's again unless the issue becomes more persistent. Hopefully now both kids full time at school and a more normal family pattern has been re-established things will become and get a bit easier.

    The other thing I forgot to mention was that I had had a few issues sleeping (more waking at silly hours dropping back off waking again) and also noticed a lack of the morning wood which I wondered if may be connected.

    Thank you all again.

    Interupted sleep is another tell tale sign of stress, so in that way it could be related. Could you try some (non sexual) relaxation excercises before bed to help you sleep better? I like the free headspace app (I never bothered paying for the subscrition to it) to wind down. Anyways, hoping as things clam down everything will settle back to normal for you :)

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    My husband had some problems a while back but we found the solution. We normally eat a healthy diet but when this happened we were cheating quite a lot, which resulted in him taking ranitidine, with a bit of researching I found out that was the cause and since eating healthier he hasn't needed it. What I'm asking is have you changed your diet recently or taking any other medication apart from the cream. Lack of sleep can definitely factor into ED as well which can be stress related which you have definitely been under from the sounds of it. I'm just wondering as well with the regular waking during the night if you could have sleep apnea which again can cause ED. It does sound as though it is stress related but it might be worth getting this checked if it continues. From the sounds of it though considering you were fine after a night of partying and drinking it is just stress as drink can also cause ED. The main thing is try not to worry about it. Most men go through this at some time or another and sadly as you get older the chances become higher but it won't last forever and there are solutions. If you are really worried though go to your doctors but I don't think you need to just yet. 😊

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    Don't know if it's much help to you, but is there any chance you could be diabetic? My husband is type 1 diabetic and had some problems in that department quite recently.

    When he wouldn't rise to the occasion, I blamed myself constantly for it, saying it was my fault, he didn't find me attractive etc and got really upset about it but he assured me it wasn't me at all and we'd get to the bottom of it - cue a trip to the GP. He's type 1 diabetic and further research on my behalf found that it was quite a common problem in men with diabetes, particularly uncontrolled diabetes.

    Our GP prescribed a repeat script of 'sildenafil' which is a generic form of viagra, which depressed me even more as he had to take it 30 mins to an hour before the deed, and I still felt inadequate as it wasn't 'really me'. He still gets a script, but for the past 3 months, he hasn't needed them at all, so hopefully that's the end of it and it's just been 'one of those things'.  Thankfully, we think it's been nothing serious and it's sorted itself out, but the GP did stress to him that it was down to his diabetes.

    Maybe getting checked out for underlying issues to start off with and then go from there.

    I honestly hope you get sorted, as the wife of a sufferer, it's not a pleasant experience for both parties, I know it made my husband more anxious and frustrated, which in turn added to the issure even more.

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    Thanks again for the replies, I'll keep all this advice in mind should the issue persist.

    Thank you all again.

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