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    AsYouWish! [sign in to see picture]
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    I liked the Slube video Jess but I can't believe no-one poured the whole tub over you in a celebrity gunge moment!

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    AsYouWish! wrote:

    I liked the Slube video Jess but I can't believe no-one poured the whole tub over you in a celebrity gunge moment!

    Thanks AYW! 

    I did think about a gunging.... But the cycle into town might have been interesting afterwards! 😜

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    Shame. It would have been a classic!

    Christmas special?

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    Lovehoney - Jess Wilde [sign in to see picture]
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    AsYouWish! wrote:

    Shame. It would have been a classic!

    Christmas special?

    We'll see 😜

    I want us to do a slip and slide session in summer! 

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    AsYouWish! [sign in to see picture]
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    Lovehoney - Jess Wilde wrote:

    AsYouWish! wrote:

    Shame. It would have been a classic!

    Christmas special?

    We'll see 😜

    I want us to do a slip and slide session in summer!

    Is that a test for lubes? Catch with lubed up toys... The more drops means more slippy lube!
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    Hi Jess

    I have recently purchased and am wearing a CB-6000s. My wife and I both new to male chastity but are excited by the idea.

    Given we have started on chasity it may seem a bit odd that we do not have a great deal of experience with other sex toys but we are wondering what toys would be a good place to start to enhance the pleasuring of my wife.

    The one thing she is apprehensive about is missing penetration after oral sexy etc.

    Hope this post makes sense.

    Thanks

    2ndchance

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    RomeoChallenger [sign in to see picture]
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    For what it's worth, we are fairly new to this and we started off initially with a simple bit of holding her hands down above her head so I was in control and then progressed to the Velcro cuffs. Id really recommend these as they're easy, a bit of fun and offer the reassurance that if you want to undo them yourself at any point you can do. Similarly you can actually cuff your hands together yourself quite easy and 'offer' yourself up to him. I liked this when her good lady indoors did it and it actually puts her in charge in that it made it clear this was something she wanted to do (which given your post experiences will be reassuring to your man) and that this was quite a turn on to have woman know what she wanted.

    On a last note, grats on finding a good one. We're not all bad us chaps it just seems there happen to be a lot of bad apples in the cart.

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    Hi everyone, totaly new to all this, I'm 48 and only last week watch my first porn video and have just recieved my first butt plug and rabbit. Getting off on the butt plug can't get enough. Worked my way through the anal trainer plugs in a week.

    im after a plug I can wear around the house, something with a bit of weight in it but haven't got a clue what to start at.

    Any help Pls.

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    Your never too old wrote:

    Hi everyone, totaly new to all this, I'm 48 and only last week watch my first porn video and have just recieved my first butt plug and rabbit. Getting off on the butt plug can't get enough. Worked my way through the anal trainer plugs in a week.

    im after a plug I can wear around the house, something with a bit of weight in it but haven't got a clue what to start at.

    Any help Pls.

    Hi Your never too old

    Welcome to the forum! 

    You've posted in a Bondage and Fetish thread which is only responded to by me.

    If you would like advice on general sex toys from the other forum members, I'd recommend you post in the Sex Toys section of the forum

    Sorry to ping pong you elsewhere! 

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    Lovehoney - Jess Wilde [sign in to see picture]
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    2ndchance wrote:

    Hi Jess

    I have recently purchased and am wearing a CB-6000s. My wife and I both new to male chastity but are excited by the idea.

    Given we have started on chasity it may seem a bit odd that we do not have a great deal of experience with other sex toys but we are wondering what toys would be a good place to start to enhance the pleasuring of my wife.

    The one thing she is apprehensive about is missing penetration after oral sexy etc.

    Hope this post makes sense.

    Thanks

    2ndchance

    Hi 2ndchance

    I'm so soorry for the delay in replying - I must have missed your message!

    If your wife particularly enjoys penetrative pleasure, I'd recommend picking up an insertable vibrator or dildo. That way she can still enjoy internal pleasures whilst you're locked up! 

    Another great choice would be a remote control love egg, which she can insert and you can operate from afar! 

    I hope that gives you some ideas :) 

    Happy experimenting!

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    Hi Jess,

    Thanks for the thread! New in this area but wanted to try some beginner sets with my OH. From your previous responses, beginner sets with blindfold and simple restrains are best to start, but do you have any recommendations of things to do with those on? Might be a silly question, but thanks!

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    I'm not quite sure this is the right place to ask, but here goes.

    I was perusing the fetish clothing and while looking at these gloves I noticed the nipple parties that the model is wearing, black and metal studded! Are these an old item that lovehoney use to sell or simply the models own? Quite interested.

    This is the item I was looking at http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=25178

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    Hi Jess

    I want to restrained and then have the OH edge/ tease and deny me, do you have any suggestions to persuade her to do this to me?

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    Lovehoney - Jess Wilde [sign in to see picture]
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    Raider72 wrote:

    Hi Jess,

    Thanks for the thread! New in this area but wanted to try some beginner sets with my OH. From your previous responses, beginner sets with blindfold and simple restrains are best to start, but do you have any recommendations of things to do with those on? Might be a silly question, but thanks!

    Hi Raider72

    Firstly, no question is a silly question (unless you already know the answer 😜) so please always feel free to ask anything. This particular question is a very common one which I get asked a lot so don't feel you're alone in you're uncertaintly.

    What you do with your partner whilst their restrained and blindfolded really depends on what you already enjoy doing in the bedroom.

    If restraint and blindfold play is new to you, I would recommend keeping all other play pretty much the same just to ease you both into this new territory gently. Bacially, you don't want to introduce "too much new" all at once. 

    So whilst your partner is bound and blindfolded, I'd recommend exploring foreplay as you usually would. Whatever you both enjoy already, continue with this. If you usually explore your partner orally, or with toys or sensual massage - carry on with this until you're both used to the blindfold and cuffs. Not only will it ease you into new play, but it will also offer you/your partner a direct comparison to what play is like without the bondage toys, and show you just what a difference they make. 

    When you're ready to add another new thing to play, I would advise exploring sensory tools. Wearing a blindfold immediately heightens the wearer's response to touch so this is a perfect time to focus a lot of attention on their skin. 

    To give you some ideas:

    Begin with: Feather ticklers, pinwheels, cat claw scratcher, massage candles, silky caresses with a piece of satin, temperature play with ice and warm honey, kissing, biting, scratching, nibbling

    Move onto: Beginner's nipple clamps, clitoral clamps, pussy / nipple pumps, gentle flogger tickling and whipping, light spanking with a beginner's paddle, insertable toys

    Work up to: Advanced spanking with a crop, hot wax play (with a bondage candle), advanced clamp play, e-stim

    I hope that gives you some food for thought! 

    Happy experimenting 😀

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    Fun Louise wrote:

    I'm not quite sure this is the right place to ask, but here goes.

    I was perusing the fetish clothing and while looking at these gloves I noticed the nipple parties that the model is wearing, black and metal studded! Are these an old item that lovehoney use to sell or simply the models own? Quite interested.

    This is the item I was looking at http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=25178

    Hey Fun Louise

    Ah they're lush aren't they?! I don't know that we've ever stocked these ones before and I believe they belong to the model / brand who organised that shoot. 

    You may find some elsewhere by Goggling spiked or studded nipple pasties. 

    If you can't find any like this, you could probably modify these with some studs?

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    loves fun wrote:

    Hi Jess

    I want to restrained and then have the OH edge/ tease and deny me, do you have any suggestions to persuade her to do this to me?

    Hi loves fun

    Have you tried talking to her and explaining what you would like to try? 

    This is really the only way to initiate something new in the bedroom. My biggest advice would be to avoid using words like "pursuade". You should never want to "pursuade" your partner to do anything, especially when it comes to sexual exploration. If she doesn't want to do something with you and is dead set on her decision, then that's it. You have no option but to respect her wishes.

    My top tip would be to speak to her about your interest and how you'd like her to take control and deny you climaxingand why it's a turn on for you. Ask her how she feels about tying you up and playing like this. If this is a tricky subject to bring up, why not browse Lovehoney together? Or watch a naughty film which you now features some bondage play? They can be great ice breakers. 

    She might love the idea and be keen to try it straight away. If she doesn't seem keen, ask her what it is that she doesn't like about it. She may have a concern which you can easily help her overcome by talking about it with her.

    But if she is absolutely not interested and doesn't want to try this, then I'm afraid you need to give up on trying this play with her.

    You never know - having a brief conversaion, even if it seems unsuccessful, maaay plant a seed of thought which she revisits later and if you're lucky she might bring the subject back up at a later date, in which case "yaay!".

    If not, then you need to respect her sexual tastes, and resign to the fact you won't be able to explore this sex play with this partner. 

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    Hi, not sure if this is the right forum, but I couldn't see another that would be helpful.

    Basically I have seen you do ladies pants with the vibrator in, which is great for women, for that naughty public (obviously in an adult place) tease.

    My question is, is there something similar for men? Something we can wear, under our clothes and have the OH tease us? Get us close and then deny us etc. I haven't come across any kind of vibrating rings that would be that powerful to do that without extra stimulation.

    Hope you can help, thanks in advance

    NJ

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    NJCox wrote:

    Hi, not sure if this is the right forum, but I couldn't see another that would be helpful.

    Basically I have seen you do ladies pants with the vibrator in, which is great for women, for that naughty public (obviously in an adult place) tease.

    My question is, is there something similar for men? Something we can wear, under our clothes and have the OH tease us? Get us close and then deny us etc. I haven't come across any kind of vibrating rings that would be that powerful to do that without extra stimulation.

    Hope you can help, thanks in advance

    NJ

    Hi NJ 

    Welcome to the forum! 

    This kind of question is best posted as a new thread in the sex toy section, but as you've posted here I'll see I can point you in the right direction. 

    We do sell remote controlled toys for men, includeing cock rings, butt plugs and prostate massagers. 

    You can see our full collection of remote controlled toys here.

    Here are a few which I think could work for you:

    Lovehoney Wild Thing 10 Function Remote Control Vibrating Cock and Ball Ring

    Lovehoney Booty Shaker 10 Function Remote Control Vibrating Butt Plug

    Maia Ethan Extra Quiet Remote Control Butt Plug Set

    Nexus Ace Small Extra Quiet Remote Control Butt Plug (available in three sizes)

    B-Vibe Remote Control Rimming Butt Plug

    Alternatively, if you fancy trying something totally different to vibrations, e-stim would be perfect for you. 

    It's non-vibrating, non-painful (unless you want it to be!) and silent. All of our sets are operated by a wired controller, but there are remote control versions on the martket, too. 

    If these aren't quite to your liking I'd recommend posting your question again in the Sex Toys Section which I linked you to above. This area is for me to reply only, where as the rest of the forum is open for anyone to give advice. You might find someone with first hand experience can offer you more suggestions :) 

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    Hi Jess

    my wife and I bought the lovehoney beginners strap on harness with the 5in dildo and have enjoyed using it.

    The only issue we have is that the only position we seem to be able to use is me lying flat on my stomach with my wife lying on top of me.

    The penetration she gets is good but because I am lying flat it makes it difficult for me to play with myself.

    Any ideas on how we can improve on positions and any suggestions on larger suitable dildos?

    my wife is a plus size if that makes a difference

    thanks in advance.

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