• Masterbation whilst there asleep....

    August_A&R [sign in to see picture]
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    I often find myself wide awake at night feeling very horny, but my wife is fast asleep and does not appreciate being woken up.

    Ive not done it yet, but more and more recently I've ponder some self relief. I've discussed this with her and she's said she doesn't care but something is holding me back.

    Anyone else find themselves in a similar place. Have you gone through with it or held back?

    Has anyone been woken/found out later the other person had enjoyed themselves without you. How did it make you feel?

    FirstTimeLovers [sign in to see picture]
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    I have been in this position but not often, normally when if my ex fell asleep watching tv and i was in the mood. I just left it and went to bed (probably in a bit of a sulk) and got 'rewarded' in the morning.

    As for the other way round I can't say its happened, i genuinly can't think of a time with a partner when i haven't obliged when they've been in the mood. I would be a bit miffed that i'd missed out on fun but i suppose it'd depend how they told me if they did and how much detail because it could act as a bit or dirty talk to set the mood. I would prefer to be woke to it though, my ex always wanted to wake me with sex because she knew i'd love it but I'm too light of a sleeper so woke before she got chance.

    Each to there own i suppose though. You could tell her you had one day just to see how she actually reacts if thats your concern.

    Straw [sign in to see picture]
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    Cold shower. *removed by moderator* 

    MissyLoves2Play [sign in to see picture]
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    I often play while my OH is fast asleep, if you are worried about waking her maybe take a shower 😜

    RubyDarling [sign in to see picture]
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    I think I'm like your wife, I wouldn't be mad at my man at all for masturbating instead of waking me up...

    I really value my sleep and it takes me forever to fall asleep so if anyone wakes me up before it's time, it just drives me mad because I know I will not be able to fall back asleep straight away.

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    My wife is like RubyDarling and values sleep (often over sex, in my opinion). I have done this when she is asleep and I cannot.

    I find slowly rubbing the glans, with I wet finger is the best way. I think the challenge of not waking her together with the increased time to cum normally leads to some of the best orgasms I have through masturbation that I have had.

    PS they're not there.

    Laveila [sign in to see picture]
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    I would not mind if the partner masturbated, while I was asleep. Sometimes I get to bed completely drained, if it very demanding at work, or have a headache. And if he needs the release and I need my sleep, it would be completely ok if he got his release and let me sleep.

    We can have time together later on.

    helleven [sign in to see picture]
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    I often play while my partner is asleep, I dont need to be up as early as him in the morning so I'll know he needs his sleep and I'll look after my needs... He does sometimes wake just as I'm finishing though and we'll cuddle.

    Siren40 [sign in to see picture]
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    I play while hubby sleeps and sometimes vice versa. Sex drives dont always match up and thats fine. The other day hubby said to me " did you have a good one last night? " he heard me come in to get my box of toys. He said it turned him on knowing, and although he wanted to join me he was knackered an needed to be up early for a busy day

    Tony71 [sign in to see picture]
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    I often have a wank while in bed when my wife is asleep. We all have busy lives and sometimes we need to masturbate to get rid of stuff. I find if I do not do this my sleep is effected. Basically you can't sleep well as errections occur more often when asleep

    SFTM [sign in to see picture]
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    I do this fairly often. I come two or three times a day and my OH understands my sex drive. I cannot sleep without an orgasm.

    Tiffany925 [sign in to see picture]
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    Yes sometimes , thing is you can't really move your hips or make a noise or have altered breathing incase you disturb him (he is asleep & unaware) so it makes the orgasm amplified somehow

    PaulS [sign in to see picture]
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    I love a good wank at any time. Apart from our sexlife (which is good) I often have a wank when she is awake or asleep. Why wouldn't you ;)

    Straw [sign in to see picture]
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    I honestly believe someone's sex life should be good enough that they do not need to masturbate next to their sleeping partner.

    Sure while they are away, that's fine. But man...*removed by moderator* 

    Quiet ones are worse! [sign in to see picture]
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    As long as you both understand I don't see an issue I wake easily and will often have a bit play also having a good feel of my sleeping wife (she knows and doesn't mind) at the same time, just wish she would play herself sometimes.

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    Have done it beside her while oh slept, just watch the bed bounce as you get close as it may wake her up. Once she did wake up and decided to sit on top and finish the deed together. Sometimes I start on the bed and finish in the ensuite if I feel the bed is moving to much.

    Fun Louise [sign in to see picture]
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    My sex drive is much higher than my OH and I masterbate most days. He knows and is perfectly happy as he knows he will definatley be getting fun when he feels like it. I have been known to do this next to him in bed but most of the time I go to the shower where I can make a bit more noise without waking him. I'm not quiet even when playing solo.

    Generally as long as both parties are not bothered I don't see the problem.

    Caliente [sign in to see picture]
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    I did this on several occasions with my ex. I would have prefered to have sex with him, but if he didn't want to, I would masturbate. He didn't have a problem with this. I wouldn't have wanted him to do it. However, I never refused to have sex with him during our entire relationship, sleep or no sleep!

    sugarboobies2232 [sign in to see picture]
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    It doesn't bother me. But when he starts preferring solo play over sex then there's a problem!
    I've used toys countless times whike hes been sleeping, and he had no idea.

    dan559 [sign in to see picture]
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    Often done this as know when wife needs resting or waking. Do you play when she isn't around and doesn't know? Same thing in essence isn't it?

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