• When we leave this mortal coil

    The Real Mr Grey [sign in to see picture]
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    I dont want to be morbid, but events which happened in my life earier this year ( i dont want to go into details) got me and my OH thinking.

    If when as the title suggests, it is time for us to leave this earthly plain, what do you think your children and/or your relatives will think when they discover your toy chest/box/bag etc.

    Will they smile and know you enjoyed yourselves (with a glint in their eye) ?

    Will they be amazed at what us adults got up to?

    Will they be shocked.?

    Will they wonder that despite various times when they were younger they heard mummy and daddy talking about rabbits, a furry four legged creature never made an appearance on the garden?

    Or will they not be surprised at all because when they were a little bit older and looking for Christmas presents, they came across your toys then so have known all along.

    Fun Louise [sign in to see picture]
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    I/we don't have any children but my best friend and executed of my will knows about my toys. I do think she might be quite interested to have a good rummage and I bet she would rehome some of the bondage stuff too. We are complete oposits in almost every way but our taste in things is very similar. If anything happened to my best friend and her OH I would be charged with removing their toys without their child knowing.

    Incidentally my mother would be shocked and confused, and definately would not have any comprehension of bondage. I would hope and expect that she would have made her departure before me, although there are no guarentee so in life.

    lovingnewtoys [sign in to see picture]
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    We don't have kids either so the task could fall to nieces/nephews. I am guessing they will be a bit shocked - some more than others - but think shock will very quickly turn into fits of hysterics, which to be honest would be an emotion I would rather they had when thinking of us!!

    We all gotta go sometime!!


    Lil_Red_Kinkyboots [sign in to see picture]
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    I have a close relationship with my adult daughter although she doesn't know everything but I don't think she would be too shocked by it. My sons however would be surprised but I think that they'd have a laugh about it. I have brought them up in an open but secure way where no subject has ever been out of bounds to chat about, although I don't recall talking about kink.

    Vanilla_Kink [sign in to see picture]
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    This is something I have considered in the past. I definitely think there would be shock and embarressment for whoever was unfortunate enough to find the stuff :/

    Haphephobe [sign in to see picture]
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    My selection of items is somewhat limited but as I've been single for so long I doubt anyone would be particularly surprised to find that I had 'alternatives' to assist me in that area. If I was into anything really kinky I suppose that might be different.

    If my best friend found them he'd probably just laugh. If my parents found them they may not even know what the heck they were.

    Straw [sign in to see picture]
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    As I would be dead, I wouldn't care what they thought.

    Friday13 [sign in to see picture]
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    My mum already stumbled upon my toys but my collection has grown considerably since then so I think she'd be shocked by how much stuff I have. I don't think the BDSM gear would surprise her, although I very much doubt she would understand how I can enjoy pain.

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    I'm currently working on a mission impossible style self combusting storage solution, that will self destruct unless a password is entered regularly.

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    I'm currently working on a mission impossible style self combusting storage solution, that will self destruct unless a password is entered regularly.

    luvved up cupple [sign in to see picture]
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    My kids are still young, and as they grow older and start relationships we will give them all the help and answers they want, if that means opening up to them about what we have and use with each other so be it.

    This discovery will be made before we go we very much hope.

    That said my Grandfather died a couple years ago, on clearing out the house we found a prescription for Viagra and a packet with two tablets missing.

    He was 92.

    Gigglesandjiggles [sign in to see picture]
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    I have a pact with my bestie that she will don rubber gloves and a blindfold to clear out the drawer under my bed and will burn anything she finds without looking at it 😂😂😂

    Vanessa8 [sign in to see picture]
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    After reading this thread i am even more convinced of the following:

    1. I need to purge some stuff I know I am not going ot use

    2. my local bestie now knows where my "secret stash" is to dispose

    3. at the end of the day I hope I have many more years to enjoy these things but in between times I must get more oganized so less clean up for anyone on all fronts.

    WillC [sign in to see picture]
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    When we were much younger,my sister found our mom`s stash.My mom is now a widow in her late 70`s,with a picture of Poldark,topless on her fridge,so when the inevitable happens,i will entrust my sister with disposal of whatever mom has! Why should we be shocked? We didn`t enter this world through immaculate conception!

    Stu_hfx [sign in to see picture]
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    I think I have a lot of sexual freedom because I'm very honest with people I am close to. I'm not too worried about what people find.

    As a teenager I cannot even imagine what my mother went through finding some of the things she found in my room; magazines, condoms, tissues, soiled clothes and VHS tapes with softcore porn recorded over whatever was on it before. I was a messy bugger. With guy friends, we openly talk about sex as is, so there's not much really to hide. My friends know I have sex toys and I know probably way too much about them as well.

    If I was to die today or whenever, they'd learn absolutely nothing new about me that they didn't know already. Unless for some reason an old colleague or employer rifled through my stuff. I'd love to see the look on their faces when they uncover a fleshy pink weighted pussy staring them in the face.

    Lovebirds_x [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm sort of glad most of our collection is stuff that will have worn out long before we're old, maybe by that stage we'll only have a small collection to be discovered!

    I say that not under the assumption that we'll be living to old age (though fingers crossed eh), but rather because if we were to pass suddenly in the near future it would likely be my parents clearing out, not my child or anyone else, and they know the score so no surprises there. Well, they would probably be surprised at the level of spanking implements we own, but considering the bullwhip I found in their bedroom I doubt they would judge me! Although should any other relative be the one clearing, I'd say they'd be somewhere along the lines of shocked, affronted and disgusted, like they'd stumbled on a dirty secret that besmirched our character. Masturbation is too extreme for their sensibilities, let alone a bedroom full of toys and bondage gear. Better dead than having to face their reactions, no joke.

    The Real Mr Grey [sign in to see picture]
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    Its funny really how things have changed over the years. The older generation (some of them) do not like talking about sex or anything related whereas these days things are more open.

    tv, the web etc has a lot to do with it and our moral attitude towards our private lives just means that we know we like all the toys etc and we know that the behaviour goes on behind a lot of other closed doors.

    Personally i love the toys both as a giver and receiver, and they are an important part of our sex life.

    I think if our children were to find our stash they would be amused but as they are all in their twenties who knows how much they have spent on this site themselves.

    Penny26 [sign in to see picture]
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    Our children would be amused, they are all in their 2o's so perhaps they are spending their time on here and buying toys aswell. We are very broad minded and talk about everything and anything at the dinner table. Yes, we cook and eat together still!

    Recently we had to replace one of the bedroom floors and my OH had some sound insulation left over and and was laying it under the wall/floor, eldest daughter asked what it was, he told her and she said "get it in there" her sister's room is adjoining!

    Peter Parker [sign in to see picture]
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    What an excellent thread me and my OH talk about this all the time.

    Before going on holiday (and in anticipation of the plane we are on crashing) we've contemplated transferring all our toys to a suitcase labeled do not open (to burn, throw away etc).

    Not sure what my parents in law would make of it all, but as a younger man I discovered some 'items' at my parents house that would likely lead them to believe I got the kinky gene from them.

    The Real Mr Grey [sign in to see picture]
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    Thank you Peter.

    I know its not the nicest of things to talk about but one which needs discussion.

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