• How many men REALLY use masturbaters, vibrators and how?

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    The Real Mr Grey [sign in to see picture]
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    LH sell quite a varied amount of these but it seems that unless a man is totally comfortable with sex that the possibility of him trying a male toy is doubtful.

    Women for years have enjoyed their clit vibes and rabbits and now us men get to have a bit of "us" time. On the otherhand our OH likes to watch or join in.

    Come on men, stand up (only a slight pun intended) and shout from the rooftops how great these toys are.

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    luvved up cupple [sign in to see picture]
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    Oh yes I have a few, on our reviews page, an LH Intense tickler stroker, a Tracey Cox Stroker, Thrust Eva and a Fleshlight girls Eva (a very welcome tester from LH themselves) a few Tenga eggs a Tenga Polygon plus several others that have been shall we say retired from service.

    My wife has had rabbits, vibes, dildos etc for many years before and on discovering this site (surprise surprise shopping for her) was introduced to the delights of male toys.

    And, yes these are great toys and yes more me time than us time, would rather use her toys with her during a "session" I am a little shy I suppose about using my toys in my wife's presence, I personally don't think me using a toy is sexy, maybe it's just me? But, anyway. Why should the ladies have all the fun!

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    Random_Leo [sign in to see picture]
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    I own two Fleshlights, the STU and the Flight, I'm looking to get a 3rd but I'm not sure which one I'll go for.

    I have masturbated in front of a few ex's and yes I have used the Fleshlights as well, found it erotic and I'd gladly do it again.

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    VioletWolf [sign in to see picture]
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    My OH has a few, it's amazing how far he's come over the last year with how comfortable he is with himself sexually. Think his favourite is the tenga eggs, the heart one especially!

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    Private_member [sign in to see picture]
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    The Real Mr Grey wrote:

    LH sell quite a varied amount of these but it seems that unless a man is totally comfortable with sex that the possibility of him trying a male toy is doubtful.

    Women for years have enjoyed their clit vibes and rabbits and now us men get to have a bit of "us" time. On the otherhand our OH likes to watch or join in.

    Come on men, stand up (only a slight pun intended) and shout from the rooftops how great these toys are.

    Why must a person be 'totally comfortable with sex' to try sex toys?

    I would have thought the change in the way toys can be be bought over the past 20 years might have more to do with it.

    Also as a generalization, give men some oil and it is quite easy to have a strong orgasm pretty much whenever they want without buying toys.

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    The Real Mr Grey [sign in to see picture]
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    True that in this modern age us men enjoy themselves more sexually with toys than we could ever have done back in the day.

    But as with everything else, it depends on what kind of a person you are. Some find male toys to be erotic, and they are an essential part of their life, where others would run a mile if a OH even suggested the thought.

    Being comfortable with sex allows one to explore all the different options open, and takes you away from the "once a week wham bam thank you maam" kind of sex life that particularly English guys were know for years ago.

    The fact that we can now indulge in toy play both on our own and by bringing them into sex play with our partners is fantastic and as you say PM, has a lot to do with the change over the years but also has a lot to do with it being acceptable for men to do this.

    Has the availability of sites like LH got anything to do with it? You bet it has. Plus being able to view porn through the web etc.

    But it still depends on what kind of a person you are (both men and women) as to whether you will buy and use a toy or cringe at the thought.

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    sugarboobies2232 [sign in to see picture]
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    I got my OH a tenga egg for Christmas last year, and it's still in the drawer unopened. He just point blank refuses to try a toy. I wish he would atleast try it.

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    The Real Mr Grey [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi Sugarboobies2232,

    Thats exactly the point i'm making. Is he shy, not comfortable using it, embarressed etc. Perhaps during lovemaking you could offer to use it on him and let him see how it feels.

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    sarahkitty [sign in to see picture]
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    My hubby has a Fleshlight and uses it regularly. He also likes to use my Hitachi on himself and the vibrations make him cum quickly. He has a pretty high sex drive and likes or needs to cum often, probably like a lot of people.

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    Fun Louise [sign in to see picture]
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    My OH has a couple of masterbation sleeves, cock rings and ball stretchers. He doesn't use the sleeves much as I have a much higher sex drive than him, so to be honest he doesn't get much chance.

    I have been the one tha has introduced toys into our sex lives and my OH has no interest in looking at what toys to buy, but when a new toy arrives he is like a kid in a sweet shop, you wouldn't believe how excited he gets. He has taken well to bondage and has found he likes it.

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    Onlywhenisayso [sign in to see picture]
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    I have a variety of anal/prostate toys as well as a wand attachment. The OH has played with her toys while I use mine, but usually they are only used by myself when on my own. They give a different sensation to "regular" sex and I always look forward to a rare bit of "me" time.

    Whilst I am not particularly shy when it comes to talking about my desires/fantasies it did take some time initially to use them in front of her. I did not want her to think that they were meant to replace her, but she assures me that she has no problem with me using them and has even used some of them on me.

    I wish I had a collection like I do now back in the days when I was a single guy. I would probably never have left the house.

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    Throbinhood [sign in to see picture]
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    I need to get a flesh lights, would give my hand a rest :)

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    Terri JJ [sign in to see picture]
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    My oh has a few masturbators......he enjoys butt plugs and prostate massagers too x

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    Tony71 [sign in to see picture]
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    My wife uses her rabbit vibrator on the end of my errect cock which tends to make me cum every time. It feels so good no wonder she loves her rabbit so much. She also likes to control my cock with her vibrator and likes to watch my cock in closeup as my cum shoots from hard cock

    any of you ladies like doing this to your OH ?

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    jimeee [sign in to see picture]
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    I currently have none!

    I have had Fleshlight's (full sized and sex in a can), a fair few strokers (Doc Johnson palm pal etc.), Tenga eggs, a bog standard vibrator and a prostate masager.

    Some felt great, some not so and some were just terrible. These days I prefer some good lubricant and my hands. Clean up is difinitley much easier and it feels as good as any of the toys I've had. Also, I like to watch myself come and many male toys are not so great for that! My favourite lubes are Astroglide and Lovehoney's Release.

    I've never used any of my toys with my wife. She's not as sexually open as I am and has a pretty low libido so it's never really been a realistic possibility. I tried some vibrating cock rings with her and bought her a bullet vibe once, but the bullet never got used and she wasn't all that fussed about the cock rings so they were discarded too.

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    TB149 [sign in to see picture]
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    I have quite a few, including sleeves, cock rings, vibrators and most recently a wand attachment. They get used both on my own and with the Mrs.
    I wouldn't say I use them all the time when I do have 'me' time but I'd say that's only down to circumstances and not having time due to busy family life and work.

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    kc. [sign in to see picture]
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    We've got a big range of sex toys so many in fact that some had to be disposed of since they'd seen better days and had been superseded by better ones. We have various strokers and masturbators which I use solo or sometimes my wife will use on me. I have used or had used on me various anal beads and prostate toys including inflatable anal plugs and standard solid plugs. There are then the vast array of vibrators and dildos that in the main were bought for my wife but I to have used or been subjected to by her,these include some seriously big ones. Things are now serious having bought some strap ons and I'm currently enjoying 10.5 inches in length of vac u loc strap on dildo. The trusty cock ring is always in use. I'm game for most things with my wife.

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    GeekyEleanor [sign in to see picture]
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    My husband does enjoy a variety of toys, from masturbators (both realistic and not) to cockrings and buttplugs (escpecially vibrating ones). He's a big fan of the fleshlight in a can, the one that looks like an oversized beer can. He likes to put it among our beer bottles and cans collection when we have guests and see if people notice something strange too.

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    m4t1n [sign in to see picture]
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    I have a few masturbators and my favorite is the Fleshlight Lisa Ann!

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    polo56 [sign in to see picture]
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    I bought a fleshlight from LH and was really pleased with the result. My OH also enjoys using it on me when she's not in the mood but knows I am.

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