• Anal beginer

    weenikki86 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi i have tried anal befor and found it painfull as hubbie is rather large . I was wondering if anyone could recomend any lubs thanks

    NatandTom [sign in to see picture]
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    Lube is essential for anal play in my opinion, regardless of size.

    Here are a couple I like:



    weenikki86 [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks any opionions on desensatising lubs

    NatandTom [sign in to see picture]
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    I wouldn't recommend desensiting products personally, as I think you should always be able to tell if/when there's pain so you can stop or adjust what you're doing

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    B&LReading [sign in to see picture]
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    Could always try these if you don't mind silicone lubes:

    Relaxing but not numbing, as most people will no doubt comment - if there is pain then you want to know about it so you can stop.

    TheInvisibleTester [sign in to see picture]
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    I have purchased the Doc Johnson Rear Entry Desensitising Lube 48ml and it seems to be doing its job pretty well, I'm a beginner too. I also recommend Maximus lube which is specifically for anal or a silicone lube.

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    This one is a relaxing formula, and it works for me I just put some on a small glass dildo, to apply it 30 min before and it works well for me, if I don't want to spend the time on a warm up.

    The main things for you to do is to be relaxed, arroused as much as possible, and to work up with smaller toys, each one getting a bit bigger until you are dilated enough, I call this warm up.

    I would also suggest you use toys alone or with OH on a regular basis even if you don't go for him taking you there at that time, as the more you do it and with no discomfort the easier it will get, and the less warm up you will need. If you leave it too long between you will loose the abillity to relax those muscules, as the internal anus sphincter is under some autonomic control unless you learn to control them like the porn actresses. other wise you would have to conciously control your anus, all day.

    What happens is when the anus feels pain it contracts in spasm, and will remaim so while he is in you, if you get him to pull out at the first sign of pain, and wait you should find the next time a minute latter that you anus goes "oh this again" I better relax in stead. It may take several part penetrations, and with drawals for your body to get the message. At least thats what happens for me. Also If you bare down like you are trying to poo, as you are entered this will help you get a feel for the muscules there and learn to make them open, when you feel pressure against them. when you get the hang of this you will feel yourself push open like a flower bud opening.

    take your time build up with toys for a few weeks, before you try taking him again, and you should enjoy, it is really amazing once you get settled to it, just keep practicing thats the key.

    Gentle giant [sign in to see picture]
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    Lube lube and more lube. Sliquid Silver would be my choice but this is only a part of making anal pleasurable.

    Relaxation is just as important. Taking your time not rushing. A nice bath, massage and even an orgasm of your own. Will all help you to relax especially your sphicture.

    Get hubby to finger you first working in lube inside as we'll as out.

    When your ready not just him. I suggest you take control. Doggy style is best you holding your ass cheeks open wide. Hubby is only aloud to line his penis up to your ass. He must stand still so you can control the depth and speed of penetration. Use the shape of the penis head to ease your sphincter open.. Back of and push on again take your time to open the anus. Its a tough band of muscle that can be stretched but slowly.

    Be ready for the pop as his penis rim of the head goes in. Once past your sphincter your anus opens up into a much bigger void. Keep trying to relax.

    Now a few things to of discussed and be ready for. Is he going to cum in you if so be ready for the warmth of his cum and the post orgasm cum leak.

    Lastly and most important he is not to pull out on his own. You need to push him out as the thick rim of his penis head will engage the internal side of your sphincter. You push out and pull of his penis. Or he stays inserted until soft.

    Do not worry about mess as if hubby wants anal he will not expect there to be none.

    Good luck and I hope this helps

    Banannabelsplit [sign in to see picture]
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    Like the others have said, lube is an absolute must as the anus doesn't self-lubricate. Perhaps buy a small to medium butt plug to build you up and maybe an anal douche if you want to get rid of any self-consciousness about cleanliness.

    weenikki86 [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks everyone think am gonna go shopping before a try anthing and just take my time no rush lol thanks again its fab to have a place i can get info on this sort of rhing xx

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