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    RosyCheek [sign in to see picture]
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    Hiya JaneO! There are loads of good plus size items here. I think we all go through the stage of not feeling sexy. I'm also plus size which knocks my confidence a little but the big problem with me is my height. I feel like a giant but some of the LoveHoney lingerie has really boosted my confidence! I cannot recommend the crotchless knickers enough!

    We schedule sex. As we don't live together due to his job it keeps our sex life alive. We have a strict no masturbation policy at the moment, he was doing it too often at one point he became so used to it that he became disinterested I'm sex. We both have at several points of our relationship. Between scheduled sex and LoveHoney our sex life hasn't been this good. We have introduced things we never thought we would have. It has helped us discuss our likes and dislikes.

    Keep us posted on your progress!

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    Lingerie is not for everyone so sexy to you may be even a scent via some aromatherapy or a candle, setting a mood with music... just brainstorming here to help you get your sexy back :)

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    lovingnewtoys [sign in to see picture]
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    JaneO wrote:

    lovingnewtoys wrote:

    JaneO wrote:

    Well I mentioned it when he got home, he asked why I was on the site and I said it would be good to get something to play round with in the bedroom (didn't dismiss it). Told him I was placing and order and to have a look and see if anything took his fancy (he hasn't looked yet). He mentioned something about the money but I said look anyway cause we will be getting 20% off ;)

    I will mention it again before placing the order and if that doesn't work i'll show him what I buy when it turns up.

    @Vanessa8 - No I don't dress up or buy anything like that. I am quite large so it's not something that pleases me to try and find to be honest.

    Can I just say on the 'dressing up' side of things I felt the same for years. Hubby then gently ushered me to the LH website and I started to have a really good look through. I started with what I would describe as 'tame' lingerie items and very quickly progressed to much more revealing stuff. The trick I find is to be honest with myself about sizing and not trying to squeeze into something too small just because you prefer the number on the label (although I did recently and it actually paid off). I am now the proud owner of ALOT of different lingerie items and I (and my husband) love them all. I would highly recommend trying some and if you don't like it fir whatever reason there is always the LH returns policy to fall back on. Xxxx
    I have also been thinking about this more and my previous reply. I may have come across selfish as I was not thinking about what he might like to see me in. So I will have a look around and also elsewhere (plus size on here might not be big enough) and see if that might help also 😀

    Oh my goodness - I wasn't in anyway implying you were being selfish, sorry if it came across that way, I was just letting you know my experiences to reassure you that you are by far not the only person to have felt that way.

    I truly hope you find what you are looking for sweetie xxx

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    JaneO [sign in to see picture]
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    RosyCheek wrote:

    Hiya JaneO! There are loads of good plus size items here. I think we all go through the stage of not feeling sexy. I'm also plus size which knocks my confidence a little but the big problem with me is my height. I feel like a giant but some of the LoveHoney lingerie has really boosted my confidence! I cannot recommend the crotchless knickers enough!

    We schedule sex. As we don't live together due to his job it keeps our sex life alive. We have a strict no masturbation policy at the moment, he was doing it too often at one point he became so used to it that he became disinterested I'm sex. We both have at several points of our relationship. Between scheduled sex and LoveHoney our sex life hasn't been this good. We have introduced things we never thought we would have. It has helped us discuss our likes and dislikes.

    Keep us posted on your progress!

    Hey RosyCheek, I think we are the worst at picking faults with ourselves, where others don't see it. I will have a look tonight and see if anything stands out, or maybe even ask him what he might like to see me in.

    I am not too sure if scheduling sex will work for me, but I think it's worth a go. I don't want it to become a chore in either of our eyes.

    My order turns up tomorrow and I am really excited!

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    Vanessa8 wrote:

    Lingerie is not for everyone so sexy to you may be even a scent via some aromatherapy or a candle, setting a mood with music... just brainstorming here to help you get your sexy back :)

    Thanks Vanessa8, I am willing to give anything a go to be honest and you really made me smile with your brainstorming, thank you

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    JaneO [sign in to see picture]
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    lovingnewtoys wrote:

    Oh my goodness - I wasn't in anyway implying you were being selfish, sorry if it came across that way, I was just letting you know my experiences to reassure you that you are by far not the only person to have felt that way.

    I truly hope you find what you are looking for sweetie xxx

    Hey lovingnewtoys - Ohh I know you werent and I took no offence at all in your comment/s, truly. Takes a lot to offend me and you said nothing of the sort. I appreciate all the feedback and ideas. Thank you for taking the time

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    Vanessa8 [sign in to see picture]
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    OK another random thought are there places that are a turn on?

    May sound strange but I have been in sexual ruts and just getting a hotel for the night makes me frisky, or making out in the car like teenagers...

    Also think about what makes you feel sexual... there is movie I remember seeing was I was younger. ... not porn just a regular movie and one scene I remember feeling myself get turned on. Watching it now gets me going.

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    JaneO [sign in to see picture]
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    Hmmm not really been on for outdoor stuff but maybe a little role play, say at a hotel. I will give it some thought.

    I love your random thoughts.

    My order arrived today at work and it's like a form of torture! I was tempted to lock myself away in the loo to test something out 😉 We are out tonight but I am working from home tomorrow so I think it will be an interesting lunch break 😀

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