• Partner gets turned on quickly

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    somegirlinthisworld [sign in to see picture]
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    My new partner is more experianced than I am but he seems to get turned on really quickly. Within 2 minuites of kissing with clothes he already has a semi. I myself get aroused quick too but I chalk that up to lack of experiance.

    With him I do feel a strong emotional connection along with a clear physical one. Could that be why he is acting that way?

    How do I make him slow down getting turned on fast?

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    MK7 [sign in to see picture]
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    Lack of experience indeed. Men just get hard easily. Don't think too much of it.

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    Sum Sub [sign in to see picture]
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    Aye, wouldn't worry about it, all men, like all women, are different, Personally i get a semi just by looking at the OH, let alone kissing...!

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    curious_voyeurs [sign in to see picture]
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    2 mins? ...

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    Alicia4Ever [sign in to see picture]
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    Don't worry about it, as said above. 2 seconds is all it takes. Just don't feel pressured into sex if thats not what you want at any particular moment, usually it's the partner with the lowest sex drive that sets the pace. It's his responsibility to deal with his arousal if you are not in the mood, it's not within your control to change that in him, just because it happen while you are kissing him. Kissing is not the green light for sex, you choose that, intamacy should not mean sex, the two are seperate things.

    Hope that helps, hun.

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    Throbinhood [sign in to see picture]
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    2 mins, I get a semi on in 2 seconds even before the kissing ;)

    We are all different, just go with the flow :)

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    Kinky&Curvy [sign in to see picture]
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    I think you should take it as a compliment 😊 I kissed my OH today and BOOM! Instant hard-on, I love it!
    Makes me feel like I'm sexy in his eyes plus it's fun to tease him with a kiss and leave him with an obvious erection 😝 Obviously I'm not mean enough to do that to him in public haha

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    GollyGotha [sign in to see picture]
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    When I was with my ex, I was pretty much constantly turned on. Just thinking about him or reading a simple good morning text would do it for me.

    As others have said, you shouldn't think about it too much and simply take it as a compliment :-)

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    Lil_Red_Kinkyboots [sign in to see picture]
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    Take it as a compliment as he clearly fancies the pants off of you.

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    loganlogan [sign in to see picture]
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    It's not unusual (queue Tom Jones).I always got turned on during any kissing,whether it was a quick kiss or passionate inappropriate for public kissing 😀 just enjoy it

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    lmh95 [sign in to see picture]
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    Yep. Definitely agree with everyone else that you should take it as a compliment that he finds you so irresistible. It would be a much worse sign if he was struggling to get turned on when he was with you.

    Enjoy the physical and emotional connection that you have but as Alicia says don't feel that your time spent together always has to lead to sex unless you really want it to. Have fun :)

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    Eager-2-Please [sign in to see picture]
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    It's a perfectly natural biological reaction. Kissing is designed to arouse us.

    I've been with my wife 14 years and all it takes sometimes is skin-on-skin contact, a snuggle in bed, a hand on my thigh. Sometimes even a word or a sentence from her is all it takes.

    I'll say to you what I said to her; enjoy it while it lasts!

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    Irie [sign in to see picture]
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    This might be a silly question, why would you want to show this down? Is it that one he's ready he wants to move on from foreplay? Echoing a lot of the previous replies, I get turned on quickly but my OH takes a bit more time.

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    Caliente [sign in to see picture]
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    I've never seen this as a bad thing. :)

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    Terri JJ [sign in to see picture]
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    Caliente wrote:

    I've never seen this as a bad thing. :)

    Me neither ! Take it as a compliment :) xx

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    NatandTom [sign in to see picture]
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    Terri JJ wrote:

    Caliente wrote:

    I've never seen this as a bad thing. :)

    Me neither ! Take it as a compliment :) xx

    +1! He's clearly very attracted to you :) x

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    luvved up cupple [sign in to see picture]
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    I wouldn't worry too much myself. But if he's getting off too quick it may be a problem lol.

    Enjoy it, you are obviously desirable and he feels that.

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    sassykitten;) [sign in to see picture]
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    I take it as a compliment .. he just can't wait.

    My bf got so excited he only lasted few minutes before he couldnt contain himself , unusual but I toke it as a compliment to him being extremely excited.. hed not seen me for a while either.

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    The Real Mr Grey [sign in to see picture]
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    Try getting him to masturbate a short while before you actually make love. It will make him last longer second time round.

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    TheInvisibleTester [sign in to see picture]
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    My boyfriend takes a minute or two too but I don't see it as a bad thing, it'd be nice to have it in even less sometimes! ;)

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