• New to spanking and bondage - advice please

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    micha2600 [sign in to see picture]
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    My OH and I are keen to develop our spanking and bondage sessions and wondered whether we could get some tips on toys, gear and scenarios.

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    luvved up cupple [sign in to see picture]
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    Jess's page on the blog / YouTube channel probably a good place to start.

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/blog/2016/07/29/how-to-bondage-on-youtube/

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    JJLWB [sign in to see picture]
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    I would recommend a few essentials to start with are some restraints, a tickler and a whip. This will give you a range of options and some great chances at sensory play. I love nothing more than my OH tying me to the bed and running a tickler and whip over my skin to get me excited. He does this for ages before he gives me a few gentle whips and increases this to harder ones. He'll then tease me for ages until I'm really turned on and then either uses a vibe on me or penetrates me. Have fun experimenting.

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    micha2600 [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks Luvved up - great tips from Jess and we look forward to more.

    Thanks also JJ.... I think we'll be trying exactly that...it sounds great and I'm sure you have a great time.

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    Lil_Red_Kinkyboots [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi there,
    You don't actually need specialist equipment particularly when you are beginners. I would suggest having a look around pound land for bits and pieces for example feather duster, wooden spoon, clothes pegs, hairbrush. There are so many common items to be found with a bit of imagination. Then I would recommend purchasing from here flogger,crops,collar,cuffs,rope or bondage tape and definitely a crop oh and nipple clamps.
    Tonight's scenario I was tied by my wrists to the beam from the bedroom ceiling and blindfolded and stood naked except for hold ups. Smacked,flogged and cropped and teased with a bullet whilst wearing kegel balls so every slap and vibration was magnified. Teased and probed with anal toys whilst tied to the bed, still blindfolded.still wearing kegel balls and had clit tongued at same time kept having orgasm after orgasm and begged him to stop,which obviously he ignored. Finally finished with a hard seeing to after giving him a bj.
    The key to enjoying bdsm is trust and always have a safe word, don't drink too much alcohol and it must be safe, sane and consensual. Oh and communicate a lot.

    Hope this has helped a bit and have fun. 😜

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    glittergirl [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi i would second the trust thing sit down before not during talk about what you will promise each other to do not to do how far you will go or not go. Make clear boundaries before as this will allow you to relax enjoy .
    There are plenty of starter kits n here. If getting restraint start with easy Velcro fastens.

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    RosyCheek [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi! We are new to BDSM, I've always secretly enjoyed a wee smack to the bum so myself and my husband decided to take it further.

    We have built up a little kit and everything is beginners level. We have bondage tape, velcro wrist cuffs, Velcro bed restraints, a paddle, flogger and tickler. Our favourite go to items are the bed restraints and paddle.

    As others have said make sure you have a good talk before hand. Put safewords in place, safety is really important.

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    jimbogemini [sign in to see picture]
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    Lil_Red_Kinkyboots wrote:

    Hi there,
    You don't actually need specialist equipment particularly when you are beginners. I would suggest having a look around pound land for bits and pieces for example feather duster, wooden spoon, clothes pegs, hairbrush. There are so many common items to be found with a bit of imagination. Then I would recommend purchasing from here flogger,crops,collar,cuffs,rope or bondage tape and definitely a crop oh and nipple clamps.
    Tonight's scenario I was tied by my wrists to the beam from the bedroom ceiling and blindfolded and stood naked except for hold ups. Smacked,flogged and cropped and teased with a bullet whilst wearing kegel balls so every slap and vibration was magnified. Teased and probed with anal toys whilst tied to the bed, still blindfolded.still wearing kegel balls and had clit tongued at same time kept having orgasm after orgasm and begged him to stop,which obviously he ignored. Finally finished with a hard seeing to after giving him a bj.
    The key to enjoying bdsm is trust and always have a safe word, don't drink too much alcohol and it must be safe, sane and consensual. Oh and communicate a lot.

    Hope this has helped a bit and have fun. 😜

    Yep. Lots of household items you can experiment with for starters. We started with the good old hairbrush. I even made a paddle soon after. Beautifully smooth with a soft padded handle. Still got it and it still makes my bum red. Have quite a collection of stuff now. Not really into restraints as I like to move about but occasionally have rope around wrists raised over a beam. Have fun experimenting, but communicate.

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    Treasure90 [sign in to see picture]
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    Roleplaying is so much fun when experimenting with bdsm! Anything from naughty schoolgirl/teacher to burglar/victim... Actually, getting into characters often makes it easier to experiment... at least it was for me. Just get a blind fold, a gag, some restraints and maybe a flogger, and you'll be ready to play. (Oh, and have a safe word ready!)

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    micha2600 [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks for the advice and we're progressing well. I've surprised myself a little and am enjoying the pain and afterglow - a really lovely feeling when fully clothed and speaking with someone, knowing that your bum cheecks are glowing and they don't know!

    Will keep up the good work - thanks all.

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    Lil_Red_Kinkyboots [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm glad it is going well for you 😀 ah yes the afterglow and red cheeks and shared glances and grins afterwards. You can't beat it

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