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    Still at it at 50 plus [sign in to see picture]
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    Come on guys, get your act together, you've got all these great women and your just not interest, my wife and I have been married for over 30 years and are still at any chase we get ( in between baby sitting duties) we love all kinds of sex, oral both ways, anal wife only, all sorts of positions and we have an a sorted collection of toys, like to play in public with out getting caught of course

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    Thanks everyone xx

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    Dodge25 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi corayln we've been married 19 years this month we still have quickies now and then but as have two teenage sons wife always worried that they may here us even in early hours. Managed a quickie at 4am on patio furniture other day amazing. Would love more sex as she turns me on just looking at her. Says that all women go off sex at her age 43

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    hitachi120 wrote:

    Not happy with my sex life im 31 wife 41. My sex drive is sky high and hers is always low. Very odd time she is interested in it. We together 11 years married just over 1 and she has yet to make first move for sex. She never does oral , i go down on her the odd time. She just wants to lay on her back for sex. Never adventourous quarells with me to do doggy etc. Im very well endowed and when i do get sex she knows she well sorted as she has multiple orgasms and squirts over my ball bag. Im really fed up with it. We have 1 son who is my life whos 10. Some times in bed she pushes out ass for my cock while on her side. 2 minutes later something clicks in her and she pulls away and pulls thong back up and turns to sleep. She knows im very adventourous in bed tongue fingers big cock etc. I bought toys off here last year and she dumped them . They were to try and spice things up . Im really frustrated. Get big erections often and no where to put it. Ive even asked her to give me a hall pass just sex with another woman no love involved i think she unsure what to say incase families find out. I told her other women would be glad of my experience in bed as i can hold cumming for auite some time. Any help welcome or thoughts please.

    I can only think of what I would do different .

    Don't take this the wrong way but are you treating your Mrs as a sex object rather than the woman she is ?

    Why not try a bit of romance and make her feel special by putting her first. . Run her a hot both . Offer to scrub her back for her Get relatives to do some baby sitting and take her out to dinner and talk to each other .Or if you can't take her out make her dinner on a Saturady night. Cuddle and talk to each other . Learn how to love each other again as you did first time around .Put sex on the back burner for a while .

    If you can book a few nights away and leave the kids with relatives..

    The only way you are going to resolve this is to talk to each other and find out what she wants and start treating her perhaps the same way as you did when you first stated dating .

    All of this of course is assuming that there are no medical issues that are interferring with things.

    Perhaps some things to think about.

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    glittergirl [sign in to see picture]
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    My sex life at the moment is incredible not always the case my drive is higher then husbands!
    id have it every chance i can. He goes through periods of not bothering or wanting any for a month at a time sometimes that makes me so frustrated.
    I have spoke to him openly and and told him what i want and need.
    He is actually only to happy to help he is just a man and doesn't make effort so he needs a kick up the arse.
    But i just tell him i need sorting out now lol.
    Things are great when i do .

    yes id like him to make the move more but i see it as i have a choice
    i can sit feeling frustrated or annoyed
    I can ask him to for fill me
    I can satisfie my self
    I could leave him
    I could cheat
    I will never cheat so that's out i do not want to end my marriage .
    So that leave him or myself
    Id always go to him first ,As sex is what i want all people that are unsatisfied feeling annoyed
    Maybe you could ask yours self the same ?
    what it is you want to choose to do?
    think about your oppitions take control of your feelings and how you want to deal with them.
    you cant wait for some one else to bring you happiness or for fillment.
    everyone has dry spells me included .but your feel better if you control what you do from there.
    I am lucky thou my husband is same as me up for trying anything and we always talk about are wants and interest together just other night engaged in our first golden shower both decided we were curious enough to want to try.
    Communication is key .
    it can also create the mood.
    As women we are good at getting annoyed and should put that passion into making our men feel wanted too.
    The more you put in the more you get and if that didn't work go bk a step ask your self what are your options.

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    hitachi120 wrote:

    Not happy with my sex life im 31 wife 41. My sex drive is sky high and hers is always low. Very odd time she is interested in it. We together 11 years married just over 1 and she has yet to make first move for sex. She never does oral , i go down on her the odd time. She just wants to lay on her back for sex. Never adventourous quarells with me to do doggy etc. Im very well endowed and when i do get sex she knows she well sorted as she has multiple orgasms and squirts over my ball bag. Im really fed up with it. We have 1 son who is my life whos 10. Some times in bed she pushes out ass for my cock while on her side. 2 minutes later something clicks in her and she pulls away and pulls thong back up and turns to sleep. She knows im very adventourous in bed tongue fingers big cock etc. I bought toys off here last year and she dumped them . They were to try and spice things up . Im really frustrated. Get big erections often and no where to put it. Ive even asked her to give me a hall pass just sex with another woman no love involved i think she unsure what to say incase families find out. I told her other women would be glad of my experience in bed as i can hold cumming for auite some time. Any help welcome or thoughts please.

    Hey there, You've asked for help and advice so I'll give you my take on things. It might not be what you want to hear but here goes: All relationships have ups and downs. Kids are a huge part of our lives and juggling work, kids and home lives can dramatically affect our sex drives. I know I was absolutely shattered and glad to see my bed at night for a much needed rest when mine were smaller. Sex was the last thing on my mind. Our sex live took a dip and well meant attention from my OH felt like pestering. We eventually talked about how we were both feeling and took it back to basics - kissing, hugs, holding hands, spending quality time together without sex and gradually we re-connected and the spark was there between us again and everything fell back into place. We discovered Lovehoney and chose things we liked the look of together to try. Now our sex life is better than ever. Before kids my OH could go for hours, leaving me sore, a bit chafed and achey for days after. Now we usually have quickies and only rarely have a longer session when the kids are away. I used to hate oral. I don't like the taste of cum and I gag a lot so like to be in control of how far it goes in my mouth. We now use flavoured lube and he knows not to cum in my mouth unless he wants vomit all over him. I worried that I smelt and tasted funny and looked different after childbirth so avoided oral for years but now the flavoured lube boosted my confidence and we regularly have 69's again as foreplay. Size isn't everything. I have no idea what size my OH is but he is more than enough for me. It's all about how loved, wanted and desired he makes me feel during foreplay and sex so really penetration is just a tiny bit of the whole lovely experience. Not the be all and end all. Do you talk to your wife about what she like's to do? If she is getting the orgasms you describe maybe she feels everything is okay and is perfectly happy with the sex she is having. Could she be a bit scared because of your size that other positions will be painful? Does oral due to your size make her gag? Is she maybe too tired for 2 hour sessions? Maybe she feels a bit miffed too if you are suggesting being with others instead of just her. Going elsewhere could just cause further problems in your relationship - breakdown of trust, risk of sti's, possible pregnancy with new person, emotions becoming involved leading to a full blown affair. Instead could you get yourself a stroker or other male masturbatory toys and attend to your own needs when she is not in the mood? If you do buy toys or lingerie it's probably best to choose it together. She might prefer to pick her own lingerie and go for things that are more "romantic" and make her feel good rather than making her feel "cheap" or "tarty" in her eyes. It can be hard to find the balance when you are a mother between still being a sexual being with needs and the prim, proper and respectable, motherly figure that society usually portrays. Initiating is something I still find really hard to do but will do it occasionally but OH knows I struggle with confidence so accepts that I very rarely pounce on him but enjoys it when I do. I hope things improve for both of you and you can reach a compromise. Might be worth getting a blood test at the Gp to check her hormone levels too.
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    Sorry my post did have paragraphs in but has ended up without them when posted.

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    Lmh95 i completely agree with you 100%

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    Sxleksaker [sign in to see picture]
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    I agree with lmh95. If you have a low sex drive and someone is wants to have sex with you all the time it becomes more of a chore. Let her come to you and when she does, give her full attention and be very loving.

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    hitachi120 wrote:

    Lmh95 thanks for your input and thoughts. Maybe u pick me a toy and send it on to me lol. Thanks

    You're very welcome. My personal experience and advice I am very happy to give on here for free in the hope that it can help other people but sorry I won't be sending any toys your way. We just don't have the spare cash so have never gifted and my wishlists are private so that no-one can ever gift me even if they wanted to. Feeling part of this super supportive community among friends is a gift enough for me, I don't need pressies too. Have a look at what you fancy in the male toy section and treat yourself when you have the spare cash. There's plenty of choice and with the no quibble returns you can't go wrong. Good luck :)
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    hitachi120 wrote:

    Lmh95 i was joking il buy my own lol. Was just carrying on.

    Okay. No worries. Enjoy whatever toys you do decide on. Off topic a bit but do you have any hobbies like going to the gym, running, cycling or swimming? If not it might be worth trying one or more to get rid of all that pent up tension, take your mind off of sex for a bit and use up some of that excess energy :)
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    Another lady here with a higher sex drive than her man but he works really long hours so it's ok.
    The quality makes up for the quantity anyway as long as it happens at least once a week I'm happy but there's always my toys and he gives me solo tasks to complete 😜

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    I'm kinda in the middle with my sex life. My sex drive used to be high then I just lost interest. I got no pleasure for it and it became a case of "well if I don't then he will find someone else".


    Now my husbands been relocated we only get to have sex once a week on average although there have been times there has been a month in-between and a while back it was 3 months. It's made me realise its quality over quantity. We have never had a boring session since his relocation, its altering our sex drives so we are on a similar level.


    It may not be ideal for everyone but we know what days we will have sex. We look forward to it. It does take out the spontaneity a little but we are both the happiest we have been in our sex lives.

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    I'm a male with a much higher drive than my wife, I would say our sex life is so so. She can be adventurous some times and we do have fun. The main reason for my dissatisfaction and her annoyance is more in the build up. I like naughty texts pics and taking our time. She prefers a quicky and can't get into a naughty mind set untill we are alone.and she goes hot and cold for a few weeks/months at a time. It's easy to see the differences but not so easy to solve them.
    My current method is to make the most of the good times and try stay happy through the bad as the good is only round the corner

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    It's actually nice to read all of these and realise that I'm not alone.

    I have a high sex drive. If I'm honest, I'd like to have it 2 times a day every day. My partner can go about a week with no interest. However, I am lucky that it is great sex, sometimes mindblowing so I put up with it. I know this sounds weird, but I'm not actually a huge fan of masturbating as it doesn't actually fulfil that need I have for sex. I'm doing my best but it's difficult to explain to a partner who just doesn't have the same kind of physical need that I do.

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