• Do you tell your boyfriend or husband when you masturbate?

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    LilMissRachel [sign in to see picture]
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    My boyfriend loves that I masturbate frequently and says it really turns him on to think about me doing it. I have no problem to let him know when I've had an orgasm on my own but my friend says she would be mortifed if her boyfriend knew she was masturbating. Are you happy for him to know what you do alone?

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    Sxleksaker [sign in to see picture]
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    I don't mind him knowing. My sex drive is higher so my toy box has some frequent use and my OH likes to know when I use it.

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    NatandTom [sign in to see picture]
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    Yeah. I don't see why I wouldn't be, masturbating is nothing to be ashamed of.

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    Gem276 [sign in to see picture]
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    Yes, I tell him when I do X

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    Sum Sub [sign in to see picture]
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    I don't have a boyfriend or husband to tell :(

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    sugarboobies2232 [sign in to see picture]
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    He doesn't ever seem bothered tbh. Sometimes I tell him sometimes I dont.

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    mysteron [sign in to see picture]
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    Sum Sub wrote:

    I don't have a boyfriend or husband to tell :(

    You havn't asked me yet

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    Riker [sign in to see picture]
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    My spouse is away from home a lot so I frequently tell him when I get myself off or when I aquire new toys. He enjoys hearing about my solo adventures.

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    Jezebella [sign in to see picture]
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    I often tell my OH but more for practical reasons than sexy ones; we live in a small flat together so it's more about me asking him not to disturb me

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    Ash2345 [sign in to see picture]
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    My bf is away, so yes I do tell him to keep things going.

    But my ex husband no, he wouldn't talk/do anything sexual and it was a dirty secret.

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    Lovinthetoys [sign in to see picture]
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    As another male perspective, i have no issues being told when she does it, if anything its exciting.

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    Sometimes I tell, sometimes I don't. Depends on my mood but I've no shame either way and definitely would never be mortified xxx

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    Gordy 1974 [sign in to see picture]
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    From a males point of view, it's nice to be told by your other half if she has masterbated and what she did to get the desired outcome

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    Sum Sub [sign in to see picture]
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    mysteron wrote:

    Sum Sub wrote:

    I don't have a boyfriend or husband to tell :(

    You havn't asked me yet

    oooh there's an offer!

    TBH, I ask for permission before orgasm, so she'd know anyway. And her self-masturbation is a massive part of our sexual adventures anyway, so yeah I don't mind!

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    Gordy 1974 [sign in to see picture]
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    From a males point of view, it's nice to be told by your other half if she has masterbated and what she did to get the desired outcome

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    wildflower [sign in to see picture]
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    I don't make a point of mentioning it but he often sees various toys left out after use so it's pretty obvious.

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    mysteron [sign in to see picture]
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    For us its something ( I don't know why) we just keep private . Well actually I do know why . I suspect its because whilst my Mrs can talk openly about sex which involves both of us and includes fantasies .However she is embarrased to talk openly about masturbation. In truth it doesn't bother me and respect her wishes.

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    DavidB1986 [sign in to see picture]
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    Yes I tell my husband I masturbate. And he tells me. It's really not a big deal for us. But yeah, I would say it's a turn on when he tells me what he's been up to without me.

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    MissNoir [sign in to see picture]
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    Yeah I tell him & he does the same, it's funny to see who has the most as we both get frustrated easily, he'll tell me whether he watched porn or used photos I've sent him, whereas I always use porn. We'll both do it on Skype occasionally also.

    When I lived in university halls we had a chart in the kitchen so we'd all mark when we'd masturbated & had sex, winner got taken out to dinner ^_^ x

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    LeilaK [sign in to see picture]
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    My OH will sometimes ask me if I've been naughty, and the answer is always yes lol. He knows I have a high sex drive, and it turns him on when I tell him what I have been up too. :)

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