• When is it time for anal play?

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    mamz [sign in to see picture]
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    I know some members will be able to give me advice on this.

    Sorry if this is too graphic but I don't know how to explain my concern a different way.

    What I mean by "when is it time for anal play" is that I wanna use my plugs and anal toys but I am always feeling uncertain if it's the right time or not regarding my bowel activity and all. For example, I think it's better to restrain from anal if you have diarrhea.

    Would the best be after you've emptied your bowel (completely) a few hours ago, and you feel like you don't need to go poop, etc?

    I guess some could say "who cares, it's part of the game whith anal and if you wanna be sure everything's comes out clean just douche" but I feel like douching would get rid of the bacteria that are supposed to be there and I don't want that. I am ready to deal with things not being all clean but I am wondering what would cause it to be messy sometimes and if I can avoid it.

    Thanks

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    lovingnewtoys [sign in to see picture]
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    Short answer. If I know its on the cards then I just make sure I poop all I can just beforehand. Haven't had any issues yet but would never say never.

    We have wet wipes etc close by should it happen. I think you have to accept it is a possibility. Have never gone ahead if had upset tummy though, could be asking for trouble.

    Xx

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    Throbinhood [sign in to see picture]
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    Always a difficult topic this one for many lol

    Well alot can depends on people diets and bowel movements!

    Nothing wrong with douching and its good for the sytem to have a cleanse once in a while1

    Anal sex is so much nicer if there has been a little preparation in advance

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    The fear of "mess" used to really scare me because I rarely go to the bathroom to well you know! So prepairing in that says not possible. I've tried touching which was unpleasant but only tried once and I suspect it'll be something to do with not having regular movements.

    So I guess the answer in our case is it there's no "movement" that hasn't been dealt with its all good. Never had a bad experience but think it'd put me off for life being a total clean freak! So fingers crossed it doesn't happen!

    Sorry I'm not much help here Mamz, it's not a strong point and wouldn't like to give bad advice so just gave experience.

    Have you had any experience with anal Mamz? Just want to say you really have came so far it makes me super proud to see you flourishing and enjoying doing so 😙 💟xx

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    Accidents do happen so wet wipes at the ready :)

    Helps if you have an undestanding partner as well, saves any embarrasment.

    If unsure Anal in the shower works

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    slinky binky wrote:

    The fear of "mess" used to really scare me because I rarely go to the bathroom to well you know! So prepairing in that says not possible. I've tried touching which was unpleasant but only tried once and I suspect it'll be something to do with not having regular movements.

    So I guess the answer in our case is it there's no "movement" that hasn't been dealt with its all good. Never had a bad experience but think it'd put me off for life being a total clean freak! So fingers crossed it doesn't happen!

    Sorry I'm not much help here Mamz, it's not a strong point and wouldn't like to give bad advice so just gave experience.

    Have you had any experience with anal Mamz? Just want to say you really have came so far it makes me super proud to see you flourishing and enjoying doing so 😙 💟xx

    I understand that, I am so irregular too. I can go three days without even going and after that going three times a day, it really varies. That is why i was wondering in fact. I feel that when i am not going as often there may be more things accumulated up there, or if I wait after I pooped, I feel like things are too "fresh" or there can be some left .When I go thrice, I feel like it could be similar as if I had an upset stomac, or the same as if I don't go often and it just accumulates quicker. Maybe I am over thinking.

    I don't have much experience with anal. It is one of my bf's fantasies but I always felt like he would be the one who gets most of it so i never was really confortable with the idea. We still had some finger play and at first I didn't really like it but my appreciation of it just inscreased to the point I was interesting in getting an anal toy when it was on an offer. I did and it felt amazing and it led me to buy two (three with one for my OH) butt plugs :P I am doing that alone though as with him I tend not to be as relaxed and I tense up.

    I am a clean freek too but I don't really care with my own, I mean I don't find it any different than wiping after I pooped. Of course everything needs to be weel cleaned after (like two three times with different sprays and soap and making sure it is really clean and even sometimes boiling) and I have to shower after and everything and wouldn't reinsert a plug before washing it but Besides that I don,t mind it not being THAT clean.. HAHA

    I never had an accident so to speak but one time I was playing with that toy and it is kinda long ( for what I know) and I insterted it all and when I took it out the tip wasn't really clean and it left an odour. I don't really mind that but if I can avoid that somehow it would be great

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    Haha totally love the last part. Well take some comfort in this you're certainly not alone! I clean them like ten time (maybe a slight exaggeration but not much!) Everytime I go to retrive them I end up cleaning again and again until I'm totally satisfied they're clean 😂 it is a bit annoying too when toys come to mind spontaneously but you can't go there without running to the bathroom armed with a bunch of dildo for washing 😂

    Arr you have the same problem. I can't bring myself to do it after going to the toilet, as I'm always too scared that there's more because like you one trip is never enough 😣 when these instances occur I wait it out and if it's still on the cards the following day or even later depending on movements I'll go for it. Thankfully I've never had an "accident " lol it'd be soo embarrassing and the cleaning Oooh nooo 😣 but yes baby wipes are all over our house, bathroom, living room, bedroom and kitchen simply because im using them 20 times a day on the hands and face! And showers after are crucial!

    I wish there was better advice I could give you. I don't think douching would be recommended with the irregularities as when I did it Arh man it gave me nothing but pain, discomfort and completely off the idea!

    I'm sure there'll be more experienced folk than me who will have great tips (I'll be looking on!)

    That's awesome you want through with it for your ohs fantasy 😄 I'm sooo proud that's awesome as I know you'd of felt "why should I put myself in that position, it's all about the man" in the past.

    I think it's good to do anal solo to get into it properly, it's always harder to relax when it's a partner. When solo you can relax and experiment enjoying things before bringing them to the bedroom. You'll get to the stage where you want to share the experience but there's no rush and enjoying the toys you have alone will help when you feel ready as you'll know how and what you like 😄

    I'm looking at buying a plug that actually stays in lol. If you need any help there a few good ones got recommended on "am I doing something wrong" thread . One with a free roaming ball really is sounding tempting also glass but I'm a bit weary since reading the glass thread 💟xx

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    I totally get you! It seems like we are both germophobes haha, it can be aweful sometimes! I guess I'll go with putting a pack of baby wipes in our bedroom, (I already have antibacterial gel for my hands anyways so why not add some wipes too), my bf just bought way too much wipes as he wanted me to stop being mad at him everytimes he used an entire pack in four days and left me with nothing haha.

    Don't worry for not giving me more advices, it is still great to know that I am not alone with the struggle.

    I must admit though I am not doing this for my bf. I am doing this for myself as I really enjoy it, but it is he who introduced it to me and made me aware that it actually felt good. I still don't know if we'll ever have anal sex but I don't care. I'm still up for some other stuff like having sex with a butt plug in or things like that that I know will turn him on so bad. And I bought a butt plug for him, shaped to stimulate the prostate. I was thinking "god I would like to have a prostate so I could try this toy" so when it came ons ale I decided I'd buy it for him (and still try it myself as it is said to be unisex). I must admit that I am not feeling as good right now so I'm a little less enthousiastic about him having more pleasure (with a putt plug for exemple, where in comparison I don't have a prostate so it surely is better for him). Still, i've made some great steps and keep heading that way.

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    Generally speaking.....if you don't feel as though you need to poop.....then it's extremely unlikely there will be any mess. If you feel as though you might need to go then do so first. I've been playing anally and having anal sex for over 30 years and have never had an accident. x

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    Douching is only going to clean the rectum and perhaps the decending colon, so no benificial bacteria are going to get removed.

    If you are not regular maybe you don't get enough fibre, but why don't you look in to that, you are doing a medical degree. I just talked to my GP and found out I had IBS, now I take fiber jell and mebeverine, and now I'm ok.

    If you go to the toilet, then douche ( but don't over fill yourself, if you use a shower douche system, as it can take sometime for it to come back down to the rectum) short bursts and expell after each one until you are clean.

    I find the toy always has that smell to it after, no matter how much I douche, it's just part of what it is. I just use a toy cleaner, leave it on for a few minutes to work, then rinse off. Glass toys of course, are perfect for anal and even after just a rinse under the hot tap, have no smell. Even the slicone ones don't avoid the smell of where you have just had it.

    I have toys for anal use only I don't find a problem in that, the lower bowel is well used to any bacteria that you produce. I would never share toys, so it's all my own, bacteria.

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    Mamz - it's sooo good knowing that I'm not totally crackers and the only one like this. I'd never of had the guys to start a thread I'm sooo glad that you have and to of managed to add to it 😀
    Also your bf is totally out of order not leaving you any wipes, I'd totally over-react if oh did that. I've got visions of you searching for the wipes and finding an empty packet going somewhere. ....medieval mamz time 😂😂
    That's a good idea, maybe even have separate packets so it's nobody's fault when they're gone. Lol.
    I'd love a prostate too, playing anal is so much fun I can only dream of how much better it would be with a prostate 😄
    It's brilliant though, your boyfriend introduced you to the idea of anal and as much as it was pleasurable your not ready to share yet. That's all good, I think we probably all have stuff for ourselves. Maybe in-time you'll change your mind even if you don't that's all good, it's something for you and you feel good about it which is awesome 😀
    Wearing a butt plug during sex is a great compromise too, it's like you're sharing the experience but also keeping it to yourself (of that makes sense.)
    Can't wait to get a plug that doesn't fly out 😂😂 beads are sooo good, if you've not tried them I highly recommend trying 😙💟xx


    Terri - that's really good to know that anal can be "mess free" I mean, 30 years with no "incident" is a very good sign that it's achievable 😀 💟xx

    Alone4ever - douching is one of the most unpleasant experiences that I've ever experienced. I'll never try it again, sooner get an enemia lol. 💟xx

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