• How to feel sexy?!

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    RosyCheek [sign in to see picture]
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    MondaySixteenth you are a beauty 😘 I shall be off down town to buy some tomorrow, unless of course my thighs set fire to my trousers first 😉

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    Confidence. And the sexiest thing anyone can wear is a smile.

    It has taken a long time to learn to love myself and be comfortable in my own skin, and it has been very hard work. Do not wait until you are a certain size/weight as you will never be truly happy. Experiement with different styles and even eras of clothing. I wear alot of 40's/50's style clothing and I rock it.

    Get to know your body shape. I am an hourglass shape as my waist is 10 inches smaller than my hips. I wear tops that nip that in which draws attention to that, rather than my big thighs. If I wear tops that are designed for an apple shape, I look awful.

    Pick a part of your body that you love. For me, I love my shoulders/collarbone. I love wearing gypsy tops and high waisted jeans. Dress and accessorise accoringly.

    Get your hair done regularly, treat yourself to a manicure. Learn how to use makeup to your advantage. Find a signature perfume. Keep a lipstick in your handbag! (This has saved me SO many times)

    Browse around LoveHoney for some lingerie. Try out some baby dolls, body stockings, etc. If you don't like it, send it back. Take some saucy photos and you will soon learn to see yourself as the sexy godess that you are!

    And at the end of the day, talk and treat yourself like you would your best friend. Would you tell them they look awful and fat? NO. You would encourage her and support her; you need to do this for yourself, too.

    EDIT: if you are struggling with chafing, I wear a pair of tights. I have to get mine from Evans as I am 5ft 9 but I like them because they are super light weight and very breathable. No chafing, ever. (I cant get on with the gel)

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    Gem276 [sign in to see picture]
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    I used to wear PJs if it was cooler (I really feel the cold) or cycling shorts underneath maxi dresses if it's hotter! Chaffing thighs is soo painful!!

    I think everyone else has covered it confidence wise though, your AVI is gorgeous! You look hot xx

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    MondaySixteenth wrote:

    immy wrote:

    Okay, so I, like many women, have some self esteem issues.

    I've always been a bit chubby but over the past 3 years the contaceptive injection has jumped my weight up by 2 and a half stone! I'm now on the IUD which is a natural contraceptive and so hopefully my weight will start declining just a little.

    In the mean time though, I would love to hear some thoughts from others on how to feel more confident! In winter I could hide under baggy jumpers but Summer is well and truly on its way and I can't hide any longer!

    I also want to feel more confident for my OH, he loves me and never fails to tell me my body is beautiful, but showing confidence is as sexy as anything and maybe it will make our sex life more fulfilled, like maybe I can finally enjoy the moment more you know?

    I feel sexy in lingerie sometimes, but I bloat a lot and sometimes even the thought of looking like a pig in stockings makes me feel ashamed to even walk out in my pretty things!

    Hello,

    Sorry to hear that you're having some body image problems at the moment.

    I can completely empathise with your contraceptive situation as the injection and implant made me put on several stone but I am now also on the IUD. :)

    Out and about I tend to wear long floaty maxi dresses for comfort and cover up. H and M have some lovely ones in at the moment so it's worth a nose. To avoid the chub rub (pain and rash from thighs rubbing) I use a chaffing cream from boots or if in doubt some vaseline. Be liberal in the application.

    My partner is a larger bloke and we're in a long term relationship so we haven't had much issue accepting each other and he's very supportive when I'm having those "i'm a beached whale" days. Yours sounds just as supportive which is brilliant! :) It's always good having a rock when you feel naff.

    My sexy self esteem issue came at a local event. Me and the OH have both gotten very much into BDSM and goto local events. For one of these events submissives (including myself) were to go in underwear. I was phased by this and looking through the guestlist there were plenty of skinny pretty size 6 people going. But that was on Sunday just gone and let me tell you I have such a good time. Yes the skinny girls were there but some had quite saggy boobs or none at all, some people were young, some old, some much larger than me or smaller than me. There was such a diverse range of people and everyone was so positive. The only person being critical of me was me. I was looking in the floor length mirror in the bathroom wearing just my heels thinking "yeah I'm rocking this!". So here's my confidence advice based on this:

    1/ Don't wait until you're at a certain weight to love yourself. There's no magic confidence weight, it's a mindset rather than a number.

    2/ Wear something YOU feel sexy in! Big heels for me. The make my legs go on for miles but whatever makes you feel rocking is what suits you. People will recommend things to cover problem areas (babydolls for skirts, push up bras for flat chests) but you do you :)

    3/ Be your best self. Now my event gave me little clothing options to feel confident in but I still felt like a heavier Dita von Teese. How? I had my hair all natural curls, on fleek eyes and red lipstick. I had shaved legs, under arms and bikini and buffed every inch of my body with homemade coconut oil sugar scrub. I had this body make up on too that makes your skin look flawless. Clothing/lingerie is only a small part of feeling sexy to me and whilst you don't have to follow my routine do what makes you feel sexy! Painted nails, nice jewelry, etc.

    4/ Start believing the good stuff. At least one person (the person that matters too!) is telling you your sexy. From what I can see in your profile pic I think you look sexy. Get your glad rags on, put on a good tune (Filthy Gorgeous by Scissor Sisters is my personal recommendation) and rock it! I'm sure you'll slay! If you're not confident my general rule, from BDSM clubs to job interviews, is fake it till you make it. If you pretend you're feeling wonderful you'll probably end up feeling like that genuinely.

    Good luck girl! xx

    This is lovely! It's nice that people on here offer so much ore support! I notice in face to face conversations, people skirt around the subject and you never get the real support! Thank you!

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