• GF doesn't feel "sexy" wearing a strapon

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    KennyG [sign in to see picture]
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    mf77 wrote:

    This one looks so hot.

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=31755

    Couple it with something like this

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15644

    And this

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=20940

    To complete the look.

    And she'll look hot as anything.

    Holy crap, seeing this was one of those moments where my jaw dropped to the floor. You are the sex fashionista mf77!

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    mf77 [sign in to see picture]
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    KennyG wrote:

    mf77 wrote:

    This one looks so hot.

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=31755

    Couple it with something like this

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15644

    And this

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=20940

    To complete the look.

    And she'll look hot as anything.

    Holy crap, seeing this was one of those moments where my jaw dropped to the floor. You are the sex fashionista mf77!

    Takes a bow...... "a thank you"
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    KennyG [sign in to see picture]
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    Well last night we talked about it some more and apparently my girl is fine with me buying a strap. She just can't promise me that we're going to use it, which is fair enough. So I ordered a non intimidating starter model. We'll see where things go from here.

    What's confusing me is that she said yes before, then no, yes again and no once more. Gues she just needs time to get used to the idea :)

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    Maybe she trying to accept it because she knows you want it and want to make you happy, but doesn't actually want to do it.
    I'm sorry if I came across harsh at first but I know that when we want something we see only what we want to see. My OH said in the past that he would build up to pegging, but I realised on my own that it was a hard limit for him. I'm worried that you're so eager to have what you want that you're going to push her I to doing something she really doesn't want to do, probably not.intentionally (although the idea of getting her drunk and trying then is truly horrendous and should never be considered unless suggested by her and she can't be too drunk and you can't be too drunk and you have to be even more aware of her tiny ques). She might do it for you, but do you really want her to do it because you want it and not because she wants it? Yes relationships are about compromise, and you have to go to the shop when you don't want to but no body should ever do anything in the bedroom they are not 100% comfortable with just to please their partner :/
    It could end up in disaster if she gives in to your persistence and hates it.
    I understand you want it and when you're desperate for something you just can't stop thinking about it but you've got to see this from her point of view.
    If you want to buy one I would definitely go with that beautiful one suggested, because it comes across as also a gift for her, especially if you buy the matching lingerie AND an alternative matching piece so she can wear the lingerie without the pegging harness.
    And then, and this is the most important bit, after showing her it, just leave it in a draw or your sex toy box/draw/cupboard and stop talking about it. Let her decide when she is ready, not you.
    Also, does she have any toys that are for her? Glass dildos, vibrators?

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    mysteron [sign in to see picture]
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    KennyG wrote:

    Well last night we talked about it some more and apparently my girl is fine with me buying a strap. She just can't promise me that we're going to use it, which is fair enough. So I ordered a non intimidating starter model. We'll see where things go from here.

    What's confusing me is that she said yes before, then no, yes again and no once more. Gues she just needs time to get used to the idea :)

    Sometimes we do things for love to make our partners happy. You will need to gauge this very carefully . Even though she has given you a "yes" she may not inside feel comforatable about it . Therefore don't force it on her.

    My Mrs said yes to a kinky dinner party whereby if we came last in a general knowledge quiz there would have been a chance that she would have had to completely undress in front of others and receive a spanking and I know she isn't body confident .

    The guys on here talked me out of it even though I badly wanted to go .

    So the "yes" your OH may have given may not have been a proper yes . So small steps may be the order of the day to guage reaction.

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    Gyrator53 [sign in to see picture]
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    I think all you can do is encourage her to read some of the threads here on LH about pegging so that she can see for herself that it's not a totally wacky idea and that lot of couples give it a try and many adopt it as part of their regular sex life.

    She will also see that your thinking she looks sexy wearing a strapon is also not unusual - there are many guys that think it's about the hottest thing a girl can wear. For me the look has all the appeal of suspenders but is far sexier.

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