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    sbct [sign in to see picture]
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    Hey all, im curious as to how many kinds of kinks there are, reading through the forums there are so many things people ask and share.

    I am curious (mainly to see if mine is odd or normal) as to what people enjoy. I hope this is not weird and/or banned.

    I see myself as a kind of sub... I like giving over power to my OH and she can have her way for how ever long she please, bondage of course is a must as is BDSM.

    Unfortunately she isint as into it as i am, but still enjoys it everyonce in a while.

    So what are your kinks, or fantasies.

    Best!

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    Your kink is not in any way odd, in fact I think it's pretty common. I also don't think that any kink should be considered 'odd' - as long as it's safe and consensual then I say live and let live.

    You may be interested in FetLife and I'm sure, like me, you'll be amazed to see how many kinks are listed there.

    I, personally, have dozens of kinks and bondage is certainly one of them. Slightly less common things that I enjoy are CMNF (Clothed Male Naked Female, where the man is smartly dressed and the woman wears nothing) and the exact opposite CFNM. My fantasies are, I'm happy to say, slowly becoming realities.

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    Hmm, can you tell me a little about FetLife? i have seen it mentioned a few times

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    Gentleman Dom wrote:

    Your kink is not in any way odd, in fact I think it's pretty common. I also don't think that any kink should be considered 'odd' - as long as it's safe and consensual then I say live and let live.

    You may be interested in FetLife and I'm sure, like me, you'll be amazed to see how many kinks are listed there.

    I, personally, have dozens of kinks and bondage is certainly one of them. Slightly less common things that I enjoy are CMNF (Clothed Male Naked Female, where the man is smartly dressed and the woman wears nothing) and the exact opposite CFNM. My fantasies are, I'm happy to say, slowly becoming realities.

    Well you learn something new every day . I think both of us are perhaps in some way into both of those you listed in your third paragraph. I presume the clothed person is the dominant here as well .

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    mysteron wrote:

    Gentleman Dom wrote:

    Your kink is not in any way odd, in fact I think it's pretty common. I also don't think that any kink should be considered 'odd' - as long as it's safe and consensual then I say live and let live.

    You may be interested in FetLife and I'm sure, like me, you'll be amazed to see how many kinks are listed there.

    I, personally, have dozens of kinks and bondage is certainly one of them. Slightly less common things that I enjoy are CMNF (Clothed Male Naked Female, where the man is smartly dressed and the woman wears nothing) and the exact opposite CFNM. My fantasies are, I'm happy to say, slowly becoming realities.

    Well you learn something new every day . I think both of us are perhaps in some way into both of those you listed in your third paragraph. I presume the clothed person is the dominant here as well .

    Awesome, Thanks Leanne!

    Never tried those from the third paragraph but might look into it :)

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    Yes, the clothed person is dominant, but unlike other forms of D/s the dominance isn't necessarily physical - the situation will be perfectly normal such as having dinner, watching TV etc.

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    Gentleman Dom wrote:

    Yes, the clothed person is dominant, but unlike other forms of D/s the dominance isn't necessarily physical - the situation will be perfectly normal such as having dinner, watching TV etc.

    Thats probably why my Mrs likes me in the role of Butler in the buff whilst she is smartly dresed ordering me about .

    The other situation when it gets warmer is that she will be smartly dressed as a head mistress and I will be the naked student in a role play.

    In one of her little fantasies she wants me to be James Bond and me to relieve her of her dress and underwear except for the stockings quite early on .

    Thanks mate 2 official kinks we never knew we had !

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    Very glad that everyone is sharing :)

    I may have to steal a few ideas with people if thats ok though :P

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    Gentleman Dom, I hope Lovehoney Jess doesn't see your post about clothed male and naked female. She very forcefully had a rant yesterday about this very subject about this being SEXIST.

    Have a look at the post Naked to an event, quite interesting reading.

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    I would be quite open to trying it the other way around tbh...

    Found out recently that i like be submissive, hence this thread :)

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    Your kink isn't odd at all! There's so many different kinds of kinks in the world that even Fetlife won't have them all. I have seen loads of things that are realllllly out there and I barely understand why people are into them - but to each their own in my opinion.

    BDSM is great fun but remember that if your partner doesn't enjoy it like you do, you always have self-bondage you can turn to. Even then, maybe ease your partner into it, find aspects that she does like. It's so broad that I'm almost sure there's something for everyone. Some people are only border-line into kink, whereas others are full blown kinky.

    I couldn't give you an entire list of my kinks, and even my Fetlife list is massive, because there's simply too many of them. I'm finding new things aallll the time. My most recent is penis sleeves, and I have to be honest, putting it on a glass dildo has been a new experience for me and one of the best things I ever felt.

    BDSM and bondage - any kink for that matter - is really a 'to each their own' matter and everyone has different preferences. I recommend you start off small and simple, few restrains, maybe a bit of spanking. Talk to her about what it is she likes and what she's interested in doing. Communication is key.

    I'm also a sub, thought I have dominated someone in the past and I get a lot of pleasure out of it either way, but I'm definitely very submissive so your kink applies to me too. You're not odd at all, you're just finding new things to enjoy - and you can never have too many pleasures in life.

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    KittenFeatures wrote:

    Your kink isn't odd at all! There's so many different kinds of kinks in the world that even Fetlife won't have them all. I have seen loads of things that are realllllly out there and I barely understand why people are into them - but to each their own in my opinion.

    BDSM is great fun but remember that if your partner doesn't enjoy it like you do, you always have self-bondage you can turn to. Even then, maybe ease your partner into it, find aspects that she does like. It's so broad that I'm almost sure there's something for everyone. Some people are only border-line into kink, whereas others are full blown kinky.

    I couldn't give you an entire list of my kinks, and even my Fetlife list is massive, because there's simply too many of them. I'm finding new things aallll the time. My most recent is penis sleeves, and I have to be honest, putting it on a glass dildo has been a new experience for me and one of the best things I ever felt.

    BDSM and bondage - any kink for that matter - is really a 'to each their own' matter and everyone has different preferences. I recommend you start off small and simple, few restrains, maybe a bit of spanking. Talk to her about what it is she likes and what she's interested in doing. Communication is key.

    I'm also a sub, thought I have dominated someone in the past and I get a lot of pleasure out of it either way, but I'm definitely very submissive so your kink applies to me too. You're not odd at all, you're just finding new things to enjoy - and you can never have too many pleasures in life.

    Thanks very much :)

    She enjoys it but not as much as myself, tbh we have got into a bit of a routine up until a few months ago when i discovered this kink of mine.

    Since then things have improved greatly, she seems to like the vanilla more than anything side of it though and is gradually getting more experimental.

    I have also dominated her but she has a very low tolerance to pain, such as nipple clips etc. (though she is more than willing to do it to me lol)

    Glad to of spoken to a like minded submissive :)

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    phil wrote:

    Gentleman Dom, I hope Lovehoney Jess doesn't see your post about clothed male and naked female. She very forcefully had a rant yesterday about this very subject about this being SEXIST.

    Have a look at the post Naked to an event, quite interesting reading.

    I think being totally honest Phil , Jess was mainly concerned about the OP being vulnerable . For some reason she did state that she(OP) was new to all this when it appears , well she came accross to me anyway, as quite experienced at this type of thing but perhaps not this particular theme .. She revealed later on in a response to one of my posts that she did have an OH to escort her , who I am sure will look after her. So for me it was just a missunderstanding with Jess looking out for the OP as I would hope she would do the same for me if she thought I was about to get myself into something I might regret later. Thats just my take on it .

    Any way going back to the topic with this OP(sbct) , yes your desires are quite normal . BDSM is all about finding the level and activities that suit yourself and your partner. Anything other than vanilla sex is classified as a kink . It can be a simple as using a tickling feather.

    As GD as stated its not all about the physical things as well . With my examples I think its the fact that I like to be slightly humilliated and therefore standing attention naked in front of a well dressed perhaps stict lady shouting at me could add to that .

    As long as you diescuss things with your OH first and she is 100% happy then go for it,.at end of the day you are both consenting adults .

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    sbct wrote:

    Thanks very much :)

    She enjoys it but not as much as myself, tbh we have got into a bit of a routine up until a few months ago when i discovered this kink of mine.

    Since then things have improved greatly, she seems to like the vanilla more than anything side of it though and is gradually getting more experimental.

    I have also dominated her but she has a very low tolerance to pain, such as nipple clips etc. (though she is more than willing to do it to me lol)

    Glad to of spoken to a like minded submissive :)

    Can't stand nipple clamps myself, hahah. I had tried to use them with the only Dom I've ever had only my nipples wouldn't get nor stay hard so they just wouldn't stay on. Ended up being a bit of a giggle.

    It's good that you're both on the same page though and even being vanilla isn't so bad every so often. Sometimes we just don't have the energy to bondage things up. There's so many things you can try that are deemed more vanilla than others and you can spice things up so easily - wax play, for one. Are you into any low-tolerance pain play at all? Wax play was one of the first things I tried and I loved it the first time I did. The sensations were all new but all so, so great. Definitely trying it again after buying a few massage candles, so much fun and they're scented too!

    What sort of things have you two tried so far, if you don't mind me asking??

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    phil wrote:

    Gentleman Dom, I hope Lovehoney Jess doesn't see your post about clothed male and naked female. She very forcefully had a rant yesterday about this very subject about this being SEXIST.

    Have a look at the post Naked to an event, quite interesting reading.

    Hi phil

    From this post I'm going to take a guess that you didn't see my replies on that thread or any of the rest of the conversation that ensued? If you had, you would understand where my concerns were and would also see that (as far as I'm aware) that you're the only member who is offended. The OP and I talked it all through and it's my understanding that we reached a satisfactory conclusion, and understood each other well. Maybe I'm wrong? 

    Please bear in mind that this is a forum and therefore all points of view are welcome.... Even mine. 

    I don't appreciate you referring to my concern for another forum member as a "rant". In addition, what is being spoken about on this thread and what was being talked about on the other thread are completely different topics, so I'm not sure why you think it was relelvant to mention it here. 

    It seems to me that you're annoyed with me for having a different opinon to you, and are simply being pedantic to let some steam off. Please, let's just not, eh? We're all adults and this isn't the place to antagonise each other. 

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    mysteron wrote:

    phil wrote:

    Gentleman Dom, I hope Lovehoney Jess doesn't see your post about clothed male and naked female. She very forcefully had a rant yesterday about this very subject about this being SEXIST.

    Have a look at the post Naked to an event, quite interesting reading.

    I think being totally honest Phil , Jess was mainly concerned about the OP being vulnerable . For some reason she did state that she(OP) was new to all this when it appears , well she came accross to me anyway, as quite experienced at this type of thing but perhaps not this particular theme .. She revealed later on in a response to one of my posts that she did have an OH to escort her , who I am sure will look after her. So for me it was just a missunderstanding with Jess looking out for the OP as I would hope she would do the same for me if she thought I was about to get myself into something I might regret later. Thats just my take on it .

    Any way going back to the topic (..)

    +1 to this and I'd also like to point out that Gentleman Dom stated that he liked it the other way around as well so there is nothing sexist going on in his post anyway :)

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    sbct wrote:

    Hey all, im curious as to how many kinds of kinks there are, reading through the forums there are so many things people ask and share.

    I am curious (mainly to see if mine is odd or normal) as to what people enjoy. I hope this is not weird and/or banned.

    I see myself as a kind of sub... I like giving over power to my OH and she can have her way for how ever long she please, bondage of course is a must as is BDSM.

    Unfortunately she isint as into it as i am, but still enjoys it everyonce in a while.

    So what are your kinks, or fantasies.

    Best!

    Something straightforward you could try is blindfold play. Senses, particularly touch are hightened when vision is denied .So just lie naked on the bed with a blindfold on and let your OH try different touches. You can use household items like a slik scarf dragged accross you body , tapped with a wooden spoon , ice . If she likes do the same to her as well. You will open up a big field of skin sesnsual play.

    It wouldn't cost anything to set up either as you can use a scrarf as an improvised blind fold.

    If you find you like this type of thing then perhaps get a better blindfold form Lovehoney and toys and implements you could also bring into play.

    It really is endless in possabilities and with summer just around the corner it should get warmer which does help.

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    Can't stand nipple clamps myself, hahah. I had tried to use them with the only Dom I've ever had only my nipples wouldn't get nor stay hard so they just wouldn't stay on. Ended up being a bit of a giggle.

    It's good that you're both on the same page though and even being vanilla isn't so bad every so often. Sometimes we just don't have the energy to bondage things up. There's so many things you can try that are deemed more vanilla than others and you can spice things up so easily - wax play, for one. Are you into any low-tolerance pain play at all? Wax play was one of the first things I tried and I loved it the first time I did. The sensations were all new but all so, so great. Definitely trying it again after buying a few massage candles, so much fun and they're scented too!

    What sort of things have you two tried so far, if you don't mind me asking??

    I quite like the clamps myself, a little bit of a rush, ive never had a dom myself only my partner trying it out with me.

    Mainly started off as some of my fantasies and has bloomed into a kink/fetish i guess haha.

    I like a little light pain myself, havent tried it on her due to her low pain tolerance and i dont like hurting her. (though she does enjoy spanking). I may have to get a few candles myself hmmm.

    We have tried the following:

    Tying each other up (bondage tape, handcuffs) we even have a few of the bits from LH such as the over the door restraints etc...

    Have toyed with spanking etc and biting, scratching and the such.

    Never tried anything anal which she is completely against.

    If you have any ideas we can try let me know. I am very open so ask anything btw.

    What have you tried if you dont mind me asking?

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    If you are going for candles, make sure you don't outright get the bondage ones. They do pack a punch. You're much better off with massage candles for now as they're less painful to use, and who doesn't love a good cheeky massage with a little play thrown in? We tend to do this for foreplay. You can get some massage oil for this to prepare too, they have quite a few great choices on here and different flavours.

    Bondage tape is great, we have a few unused rolls that we're trying out this saturday, needless to say I am excited about it. Being restrained is one of my biggest turn ons, I love having no control.

    Spanking we do as well, maybe try getting a soft paddle? There's a few on Lovehoney that would be great, like this one as an example.

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=19807

    We've tried a lot so far. We have loads of rope, tape, handcuffs (back to basics, eh?) for restrains. Planning to get under-bed and over-door restraints too and a spreader bar in future.

    As for bondage, my partner is fairly new too so I'm easing him into it at the moment. We're trying to find a cock ring and butt plugs that work for us. Also looking for a good harness for double-penetration (something I can't get enough of!). I want to try more different kinds of candles and maybe later I'm looking at electro play, it interests me. I've tried things like pinwheels but hated them. I can't stand suction, so no suction cups or womansizers here. But different things work for different people, so all up to you on what you like really.

    I have a wand that I love, several dildos that are great fun, vibrators (although a lot of them are too weak so I rarely use them, I need strength to vibrations to get me going). I have a strap on too which we've used and are planning to use even more in the future.

    We've recently received a beginners bondage kit that I got as a freebie from the site which contains this

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=33640

    And I absolutely love it. An interesting way to make it feel sensational is to be blindfolded and have your partner run it all over your body gently. I felt amazing when my partner used it on me for some foreplay to get me going. Definitely soft bondage but brilliant for beginners.

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=33707

    This was the kit we recieved but we haven't used the bondage blindfold and ties yet. They are soooo soft though, I had a feel of them and maybe this weekend we can give them a try. I would recommend picking up a kit like that with soft bondage things in just to get started.

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