• How to meet adult friends or thirds for threesome.

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    Melodykat0 [sign in to see picture]
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    How do you guys go about meeting hook ups, third persons for a threesome, sex parties etc?

    We're a young very open minded couple trying to experiment with our sex life but we don't really know anyone to give us first hand advice :)

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    Goooner1 [sign in to see picture]
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    Join a swinging site such as swinging heaven.

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    mysteron [sign in to see picture]
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    Swinging and sex parties maybe.

    Threesomes I would think twice . Potentially this arrangment could damage your relationship . You have to think about what happens if this third person starts developing feelings towards either one of you ? What happens if either you are your OH start developing feelings towards this third person ?We are all human at end of the day and not all of us can switch things off like feelings at a touch of a switch .These are some of the things you may need to consider before commiting yourselves to a threesome . Its a bit like playing with fire and can easily get out of control.

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    WillC [sign in to see picture]
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    Saw a story in the paper today regarding a man who paid to attend a swingers event,but failed to provide references,so was banned,he`s trying to sue for a refund,he claims to be 49,but looks at least 69(Hence the lack of a reference?) o this is the risk of meeting these people,they are often not entirely honest,so how do you know they`re free of disease etc?

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    Sex Squid [sign in to see picture]
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    As per mysteron. I've had a threesome when I was single and it was fun; but it's not something I could do in a relationship, I'd be too jealous but each to their own.

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    Purring-Pussy [sign in to see picture]
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    Melodykat0 wrote:

    How do you guys go about meeting hook ups, third persons for a threesome, sex parties etc?

    We're a young very open minded couple trying to experiment with our sex life but we don't really know anyone to give us first hand advice :)

    Social Swinging is the place to be

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    Purring-Pussy [sign in to see picture]
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    WillC wrote:

    Saw a story in the paper today regarding a man who paid to attend a swingers event,but failed to provide references,so was banned,he`s trying to sue for a refund,he claims to be 49,but looks at least 69(Hence the lack of a reference?) o this is the risk of meeting these people,they are often not entirely honest,so how do you know they`re free of disease etc

    It's the risk you take. Play safer with condoms and get checked regularly at the GUM clinic. Been swinging for 4 years and never had a problem

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    linda2008 [sign in to see picture]
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    we been swinging for over 10 years we meet other couples on fabswingers where we have a profile or in clubs

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    Wildcherry [sign in to see picture]
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    Fabswingers it's free and ive been on and off there for 4 years. You can filter who messages you and create your own profile with pictures.

    Slight note though, be careful who you give your number out to I'd suggest actually using KIK and the same for pictures (especially if you're meeting females) make sure they are verified and photo verified. Males are not such a big issue on being real but I often find a lot of the women are fake catfish profiles.
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    LilithR [sign in to see picture]
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    Great suggestion, thank you

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    Purring-Pussy [sign in to see picture]
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    Wildcherry wrote:

    Fabswingers it's free and ive been on and off there for 4 years. You can filter who messages you and create your own profile with pictures.

    Slight note though, be careful who you give your number out to I'd suggest actually using KIK and the same for pictures (especially if you're meeting females) make sure they are verified and photo verified. Males are not such a big issue on being real but I often find a lot of the women are fake catfish profiles.

    I rarely use fab, Social Swinging is much better and no fakes at all. Admin work hard to keep them at bay. Fab is all about wanting money and the members, it's becoming old fashioned and unfriendly.

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    Lovehoney - Leanne [sign in to see picture]
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    Nothing is arranged via this forum as the community is not designed to be used that way. It is part of the Rules.

    There are many other sites that are set up specifically for this as mentioned above :)  

    Good luck and and please be safe laugh

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    LilithR [sign in to see picture]
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    Thank you Ted

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    Lovehoney - Leanne [sign in to see picture]
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    Ted_79 wrote:

    @ Love Honey Leanne, why was my post removed for simply saying 'lovely holiday photo LilithR'?

    It wasn't offensive (LilithR happily said thank you)
    It didn't try and connect with LilithR
    It didn't break house rules

    Is this a forum or not?

    Hi there 

    You should now have an email about some posts we have had to remove 

    Thank you 

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    Lady Ness [sign in to see picture]
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    I'd highly recommend attending a swinging club or holiday like the summer house. It's better to go somewhere that has house rules as I've been to too many ones people have just set-up themselves and generally it's lead to people being abused, not knowing what's going on, and more.

    You can find more information via google, and even fetlife. But try and check-out past reviews, maybe even attend a munch to chat with people who may be regukars at such events. The munch is great as it's just a social gathering with no sexual contact, so you'll at least get a better idea over some friendly conversation.

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    Spaceman69 [sign in to see picture]
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    We have discussed this issue for a long time and still havent come up a answer we both can agree on,we join a club, then how do we trust people? Do we ask a friend or couple,then how can you know it dosnt ruin your relationship/ But we see it works for so many couples,not an easy one here.

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    Lady Ness [sign in to see picture]
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    @spaceman69 generally those who do explore other non binary sexual meetings find that is they are concerned too much about trust issues and the relationship working after it's best not to go there. Chatting can help over time with your partner and testing out role play methods can build trust and see if you could cope with such encounters, however afte exploring a bit and the idea is still interesting to both of you, then chat again and see if you have more or less concerns. As always communication, concent, and confidence is key :-).

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    MondaySixteenth [sign in to see picture]
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    Me and my OH looked into swinging and finding specific large well known clubs is a safe route in I think and then looking at verified members of sites like fabswingers perhaps. Always meet people for a drink or coffee before hand and make sure they know that if you guys aren't happy no sex will be happening.

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    Sams 7.5 [sign in to see picture]
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    Use a verified escort website that you can possibly exchange a couple of notes from your wallet to a woman. That way you'll know that the other person won't have feelings for your OH because you've exchanged notes.

    Me and my OH are planning to do it this way. Does anyone have any thoughts on this??

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