• Dinner Party with a Kinky Twist

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    mysteron [sign in to see picture]
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    A bit of a dilemma for me . We have been invited to a birthday dinner bash by the same couple we often go to adult fancy dress parties at various times throughout the year. This time they have upped the stakes slightly by selecting open and broad minded couples and singletons to this dinner party. Dress code is smart casual or fancy dress. So far so good.

    This couple though in on the kinkster scale of 1-20 would be around about 18 . They are a very attactive couple and the only couple I know of who have a St Andrews cross in their bedroom . They have a huge house ( 7 bedrooms IIRC)and I have known the guy since I used to be his investment adviser at the bank I used to work for. He is an area director of a multinational company and she is a supply teacher and both I would say are dominant and therefore would need to be swwitches in the bedroom .

    This year at his party after making a donation to one of his wifes charities they are holding a general knowledge quiz whereby the winner win a magnum of champagne and the losers receive a spanking in front of the other couples as a forfeit. The losing couple will throw a large foam like dice 3 times to see how manky spanks/strokes they would get ,with what imlement and lastly the state of undress ranging from folly clothed all the way through to be completely naked .

    The worst case scenario would be 3 consecutive 6s which would be 6 strokes of the cane in the nude tied to a spanking stool in the middle of their very large downstairs room and led out by one of the hosts with a collar and lead. The tamest would be 3 cosecutive ones which would be 1 hand slap fully clothed but still bent over the spanking stool. No pictures will be allowed as all modile phones have to be surrendered on arrival .

    My problem his my wife isn't body confident at all even with me in the bedroom she prefers to slide under the sheet. She has stated that she is OK with it but I am still not convinced . If we lost and got unlucky with the dice , I think she would be mortified as I would be for sure to be seeing her go through with it . I have to be honest I don't think we will come bottom of the pile as I know my general knowledge is pretty good as is my maths . My wifes strengths ar her soaps so in all we make a well rounded team. Our only weakness would be comtemporary pop music as we both prefer alternative. music.Whilst I don't think we will lose I can't guarantee it and I can even perhaps see the odd peeson wanting to lose on purpose . However its going to be eating me up on the night and as a result , and therefore might not enjoy it as perhaps I should.

    Therefore do you think it would be better to swerve this party and say we will be away because of our wedding anniversery which is just over a weeks time and clashes with this party? Or go through with it and attend and try and enjoy it , after all it is designed for a bit of saucy fun ?

    This would also make a good roleplay scenario as well !

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    I agree it would make a great roleplay but in reality I'd give this a swerve. If it all went pear shaped and your mrs ended up in a situation where she's had get naked I think she would be mortified and embarrassed if she's not body confident .
    Maybe she's saying she's OK with it now but if you're not convinced ( and you know her better than anyone ) it could all be a horribly embarrassing mistake .
    Also ,as you say the evening would probably be less enjoyable than you think if you're both constantly on edge about it .

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    I really don't believe you can second guess someone's preferences based on their job. I've seen you mention before that you're dominant because of the position you hold in your line of work - I don't think this is really relevant. Many people, in high powered, stressful jobs, relish in being submissive, for the very reason that they love to give over all control and the pressure that comes with it. A welcome relief from real life!

    With regards the party. If you feel she would be uncomfortable, and you yourself would be uncomfortable, should you not do as well as expected, then I'd think it better to not put yourselves in that situation to begin with. Also, you're both adults, you could go, and just say no if it comes to something you're not comfortable with!

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    wildflower wrote:

    I agree it would make a great roleplay but in reality I'd give this a swerve. If it all went pear shaped and your mrs ended up in a situation where she's had get naked I think she would be mortified and embarrassed if she's not body confident .
    Maybe she's saying she's OK with it now but if you're not convinced ( and you know her better than anyone ) it could all be a horribly embarrassing mistake .
    Also ,as you say the evening would probably be less enjoyable than you think if you're both constantly on edge about it .

    I agree wholeheartedly with this. I would love every single second of it but even though she says shes ok with it.....I'm not convinced. You clearly aren't either or you wouldn't be asking us xx

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    Terri JJ wrote:

    wildflower wrote:

    I agree it would make a great roleplay but in reality I'd give this a swerve. If it all went pear shaped and your mrs ended up in a situation where she's had get naked I think she would be mortified and embarrassed if she's not body confident .
    Maybe she's saying she's OK with it now but if you're not convinced ( and you know her better than anyone ) it could all be a horribly embarrassing mistake .
    Also ,as you say the evening would probably be less enjoyable than you think if you're both constantly on edge about it .

    I agree wholeheartedly with this. I would love every single second of it but even though she says shes ok with it.....I'm not convinced. You clearly aren't either or you wouldn't be asking us xx

    I think your right. Deep down I really want to go as I do enjoy these adult parties but and its is a big but , I think I could never forgive myself if we did lose .

    Didn't take much to convince me not to go did it ? To save face I will still send a contribution to the charity as if we ere attending but I will book an overnight stop away for our anniversary instead.

    Thanks ladies x

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    I think your mrs will secretly be relieved even if she doesn't say so ! x

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    wildflower wrote:

    I think your mrs will secretly be relieved even if she doesn't say so ! x

    Yeah your probably right x

    I am guessing that she didn't went me to get disappointed by not going as she knows that I am a bit of a party animal .

    I think its something I perhaps need to work on in trying to get her to be more body confident. I think when her diet starts kicking in and she starts seeing her wieght going in the right direction on the scales ,then she will gert a boost to her confidence,

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    Losing weight is a huge confidence boost as I'm sure you are aware. Physically looking nicer makes you feel so much better in yourself but it can take a while for that to sink in so that mentally you start to feel more confident.

    I have a feeling she was probably going along with it to so as not to disappoint you...as you said. I'm sure she'll enjoy spending a night away with you much more. Are you taking the ruler ? ;) lol x

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    Ummmm can I be invited !? Lol sounds random and kinky

    I wouldn't swerve it, your wife does hopefully have a mind of her own and can say no to whatever she's not comfortable with

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    SquirtyPanda wrote:

    Ummmm can I be invited !? Lol sounds random and kinky

    I wouldn't swerve it, your wife does hopefully have a mind of her own and can say no to whatever she's not comfortable with

    🐼x

    I understand were your coming from and I am very dissapointed in not going . But I thnk Terri,Wildflower and Foxxy are right . I can't afford to gamble and I musn't now show that I am dissapointed either otherwise my wife will feel guilty and then perhaps a row brewing .

    I am sure there will be other opportunities like this in the future . They still havn't said no yet to the idea of us house sitting for them when they go away !

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    If your wife is very self conscious of her body in the bedroom has she tried wearing a crotchless body stocking, crotchless knickers or a thong and Nipple pasties?

    The sheerness of the bodystocking means that although your body is on show and you are naked underneath it you feel less self conscious as you have the soft, warm, comfortable feel of the material against your skin.


    The thong and pasties although skimpy give you a little bit of coverage to spare your blushes.

    Masquerade masks are great too for giving you a "disguise" and allowing you to let go a bit more.

    The dinner party scenario sounds great as a roleplay. I think you made the right choice in deciding not to go as the other posters suggested. If you had gone and watched your wife do something that she was obviously uncomfortable with it would have been a horrible situation to be in. Maybe some of the other guests will decline as well because they also feel that it's a step too far for them too. If this did happen maybe next year the hosts could tame things down a bit as I'm sure they wouldn't want their guests to feel uncomfortable and would want everyone to enjoy the evening.

    Enjoy your couples night away together:)

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    mysteron wrote:

    SquirtyPanda wrote:

    Ummmm can I be invited !? Lol sounds random and kinky

    I wouldn't swerve it, your wife does hopefully have a mind of her own and can say no to whatever she's not comfortable with

    🐼x

    I understand were your coming from and I am very dissapointed in not going . But I thnk Terri,Wildflower and Foxxy are right . I can't afford to gamble and I musn't now show that I am dissapointed either otherwise my wife will feel guilty and then perhaps a row brewing .

    I am sure there will be other opportunities like this in the future . They still havn't said no yet to the idea of us house sitting for them when they go away !

    Mysteron, I applaud your decision. I'm like minded and would never subject my OH to a situation she might not be comfortable with, sexual or otherwise. I think, deep down you know when they agree to go along with things just to please you.

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    mysteron wrote:

    SquirtyPanda wrote:

    Ummmm can I be invited !? Lol sounds random and kinky

    I wouldn't swerve it, your wife does hopefully have a mind of her own and can say no to whatever she's not comfortable with

    🐼x

    I understand were your coming from and I am very dissapointed in not going . But I thnk Terri,Wildflower and Foxxy are right . I can't afford to gamble and I musn't now show that I am dissapointed either otherwise my wife will feel guilty and then perhaps a row brewing .

    I am sure there will be other opportunities like this in the future . They still havn't said no yet to the idea of us house sitting for them when they go away !

    Nah it's not worth an argument!

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    Oh my goodness! I was aroused just listening to this! I would love to go!

    I wonder if you could speak to the host and ask to save your wife's blushes and take a worse punishment yourself should the occasion need it?

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    Terri JJ wrote:

    Losing weight is a huge confidence boost as I'm sure you are aware. Physically looking nicer makes you feel so much better in yourself but it can take a while for that to sink in so that mentally you start to feel more confident.

    I have a feeling she was probably going along with it to so as not to disappoint you...as you said. I'm sure she'll enjoy spending a night away with you much more. Are you taking the ruler ? ;) lol x

    No no ruler! lol,

    Incidenmtly the implements used at this party FYI will be Handspanking,paddle( fur),paddle (leather) ,Riding Crop,Leather Tawse and then the cane ( don't know what size as they have a collection! )

    The spanking stool had been specially made . It resembles a bit like a cut down gym horse with restraints attached .Some of the ladies if they are wearing those short coctail dresses will still be exposing their undies whilst bent over this contraption!. My Mrs had already thought of that and was wearing a trouser suit lol.

    One thing I will be missing is seeing this guys wife changing if she wins the toss to administer the strokes into a leather corset fishnets and tight leather skirt. She is drop dead gorgous .

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    Gem276 wrote:

    Oh my goodness! I was aroused just listening to this! I would love to go!

    I wonder if you could speak to the host and ask to save your wife's blushes and take a worse punishment yourself should the occasion need it?

    Everythings all fixed and I don't want then to get the idea that my Mrs is getting cold feet or that I have some reservations . You have to bear in mind that we were specially selected amongst 10 other couples and 4 singletons ( 2 form 2 couples for the quiz) .so I dare say there would be some couples that havn't been selected as the fancy dress parties , there are usually around 40+ people.

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    jimbogemini wrote:

    mysteron wrote:

    SquirtyPanda wrote:

    Ummmm can I be invited !? Lol sounds random and kinky

    I wouldn't swerve it, your wife does hopefully have a mind of her own and can say no to whatever she's not comfortable with

    🐼x

    I understand were your coming from and I am very dissapointed in not going . But I thnk Terri,Wildflower and Foxxy are right . I can't afford to gamble and I musn't now show that I am dissapointed either otherwise my wife will feel guilty and then perhaps a row brewing .

    I am sure there will be other opportunities like this in the future . They still havn't said no yet to the idea of us house sitting for them when they go away !

    Mysteron, I applaud your decision. I'm like minded and would never subject my OH to a situation she might not be comfortable with, sexual or otherwise. I think, deep down you know when they agree to go along with things just to please you.

    lmh95 wrote:

    If your wife is very self conscious of her body in the bedroom has she tried wearing a crotchless body stocking, crotchless knickers or a thong and Nipple pasties?

    The sheerness of the bodystocking means that although your body is on show and you are naked underneath it you feel less self conscious as you have the soft, warm, comfortable feel of the material against your skin.


    The thong and pasties although skimpy give you a little bit of coverage to spare your blushes.

    Masquerade masks are great too for giving you a "disguise" and allowing you to let go a bit more.

    The dinner party scenario sounds great as a roleplay. I think you made the right choice in deciding not to go as the other posters suggested. If you had gone and watched your wife do something that she was obviously uncomfortable with it would have been a horrible situation to be in. Maybe some of the other guests will decline as well because they also feel that it's a step too far for them too. If this did happen maybe next year the hosts could tame things down a bit as I'm sure they wouldn't want their guests to feel uncomfortable and would want everyone to enjoy the evening.

    Enjoy your couples night away together:)

    Thanks guys

    Another thing I wanted to add as well .

    I don't think its that easy undressing completely in front of an l audience albeit a small one, if you havn't done that type of thing before. As you know when you remove that very last item of clothing thats hiding your modestry there will be over 20 eyes looking at you. Then to be led out on a lead and collar and restrained in position in the centre of the room . I think it will take a fair amount of courage if being honest. I havn't done that type of thing before and if being honest I would be nervous and I am quite body confident. I know its all good humoured and for good causes but still could you really go through with that ? I certainly don't think my wife could and its just not worth her getting upset .

    If you decided on the night not to go ahead after going through the dice throwing part and finding your fate , then you will just get rediculed and banter thrown about by the other parties and its not really fair on them either as they entered into the the spirit of the game . So I think its best all round that we pass on this one .

    Many thanks for your support and suggestions on this one . I appreciate is not an easy subject to give oppinions on and i dare say this type of party would fulfill some others fantasies .

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    I havent read the replies, though I am sure they are full of god advice and I may be repeating some of it.

    It appears that neither of you are comfortable for one reason or another - so may as well swerve this one in which ever way you see fit and have a weekend to yourselves.

    Im sure there'll be other invites!

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    It is the right thing to do Mysteron, especially for the sake of your wife, I think I just like the idea of it and my exhusband would have never have thought of me in any circumstances! I am getting used to my new man looking after me and so it's very admirable!

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    Just Jenson wrote:

    I havent read the replies, though I am sure they are full of god advice and I may be repeating some of it.

    It appears that neither of you are comfortable for one reason or another - so may as well swerve this one in which ever way you see fit and have a weekend to yourselves.

    Im sure there'll be other invites!

    Thanks mate .

    I am comfortable with it but I don't think my wife will be . She is putting brave face on . A type of thing you do in the name of love . But I won't be putting or risk putting her through it.

    Yes your right there will be other invites and it will give us chance to reassess the situation when the ocassion arises . But for now I think I have to work on her body confidence with me alone in the bedroom first .Until she can get over that then undressing or potentially undressing in front of others isn't going to happen.

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