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    Ours were segregated from the boys and one girl (in a class of 30) had to stand at the front and put a condom on a plastic stick and that was it!

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    Now I can only go off my training and the information given to me by women I have cared for but as a midwife I believe it is actually surprisingly easy to become pregnant from anal sex, sperm are determined little devil's! 😀

    Sex education in this country is a joke though and so much more important to address with the increasing ease of access to porn. I recently watched a programme regarding teen sex education and the impact of porn. I was shocked at how subdued and quite frankly frightened the girls were discussing sex, whilst the boys believed that girls should give blow jobs as a mark of respect! They all generally believed that rough porn sex was normal in a relationship. The lady presenting was from holland or Belgium and when she tried to introduce the girls to sex toys the parents stopped it. I personally think that teaching young teens to explore and respect their bodies is a good thing.

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    Luscious Libby I couldn't agree with you more.

    Our sex education was also rubbish, basically just covered most types of contraception but didn't talk about masturbation, orgasms, emotional impacts of sex, oral/anal sex etc, all of which I think people should be educated about so that they don't learn it from porn.

    Kirsty, my first orgasm also frightened the hell out of me because I'd never been told what an orgasm was at that stage, of course I soon found out though. I honestly thought something was wrong with me when I started pulsating down there, and I felt so guilty afterwards like I had done something wrong. I think it's really sad that some young people feel that way because they haven't been educated properly, sex shouldn't be something we're ashamed to talk about but it seems like we are in this country.

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    Boogaloo wrote:

    Luscious Libby I couldn't agree with you more.

    Our sex education was also rubbish, basically just covered most types of contraception but didn't talk about masturbation, orgasms, emotional impacts of sex, oral/anal sex etc, all of which I think people should be educated about so that they don't learn it from porn.

    Kirsty, my first orgasm also frightened the hell out of me because I'd never been told what an orgasm was at that stage, of course I soon found out though. I honestly thought something was wrong with me when I started pulsating down there, and I felt so guilty afterwards like I had done something wrong. I think it's really sad that some young people feel that way because they haven't been educated properly, sex shouldn't be something we're ashamed to talk about but it seems like we are in this country.

    I can't see that stus quo changing any time soon if being honest . Lovehoney can't even show images of toys in their adverts until after something like 11pm if I recall correctly . That was discussed in the previous Joy of Sex toys series .

    I watched a programme once . I can vaguely remember it , but a school as an experiment employed a professional sex therapist to organise sex education in their school . All it got was many complaints from the parents !

    I still think your best way is to learn from your parents like we did with our son. It wasn't easy ,I must admit but the message did get accross and he knows he has only to ask if he needs any further advice. I know from the calliber of the guys and gals on this forum that their offspring will get the best advice , probably far better than what a school can offer.

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    I think you're right Mysteron. My parents never gave me the talk as they assumed school would cover it, but I think it's important so we will definitely be talking about sex with our son when he's old enough, or when he starts to ask questions about where babies come from etc.

    Such a shame that parents complain when sex education is done properly, perhaps they're scared it will encourage their kids to have sex sooner but I think it would have the opposite effect actually.

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    The problem is that the school will pay an outside specialist to come in for an hour or two to deliver sex education which is mainly about contraception or periods. The teachers would follow a set structure in delivering a 'relationships' topic, and although in secondary schools we specialise in subjects, sex education isn't one of them and has to be kept professional ie you couldn't tell the students about your ideas on sex and I wouldn't want to put myself in that position either. Unfortunately, there isn't the time in the curriculum to go through different sex techniques which is a shame. The big thing is telling students what loving relationships are about which we already do. The best way I think is for parents to sit down with their kids and talk about sex, which most do but not all. Or have an approachable school nurse (male and female) that isn't just a free condom dispenser.

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    Yeah I see what you all mean, there's certain things though that you have to talk about properly like periods and sex education. I don't think males actually learn fully about periods and girls never learnt about masterbation and erections

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    It was very much just the basics that we learned about at school. Sex was just for making babies when you were married and the missionary position illustration showed us how it was done before the gory birth scene.We did get told about periods but again it was all very basic. We got given a sex education book at home and even nowadays I don't feel comfortable discussing anything sexual with my parents.
    I think nowadays especially sex education should be much more informative as so many youngsters are watching porn at a very early impressionable age and getting unrealistic ideas of what sex is really like and what they are expected to be doing. Some of the things they have access to are really downright disturbing and not what really happens in most real life scenarios at all. Respect, consent, emotions, relationships and boundaries should all be discussed at length at school
    and hopefully at home.
    Masturbation was a very taboo subject back when I was at school and I think that it should be talked about and encouraged as being perfectly normal and a natural thing to do so that people get to know what they like and what gets them off on their own before they have encounters with other people.
    There is one big plus of this modern age and that's the access to knowledge about any sexual subject online which is a great resource to have to answer any questions correctly (when you go on the proper sites) that you could have about sex and relationships.
    Lovehoney and other Internet resources have certainly opened my eyes to new things and experiences over the last few years.

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    People from my school always joked that we got no sex ed because it was only a couple of classes and we were in a Catholic school with nuns and all, but I think we got a good one.

    In primary school, the boys and girls were taken into seperate classrooms for the puberty talk. Girls learned about periods while boys learned about erections and wet dreams, then we were all taught about the hair, body odour etc. We then talked (remarkably maturely) amongst ourselves and learned what the other side would be going through. Of course, I'd started my periods in P5 and so this talk in P7 was old news to me :p

    In secondary school, we had a couple of our form classes dedicated to it which were taken by one of the teachers involved in pastoral care, no outside agencies just one of our teachers. Again, we were seperated. We went over the puberty stuff again (as some hadn't gone through it yet) then proceeded to talk about sex. We were given great, non biased information on all the birth control methods we could use and were taught about all STIs and how each could be passed on. We learned how to apply condoms using a banana and were supplied some (just as we were supplied sanitary products if we needed). We were taught about masturbation and encouraged that it was a positive thing, but it could bring confusing feelings or feelings of guilt. We were even shown a lady finger vibrator and encouraged that sex toys were not wrong. We were taught about various sex acts like oral sex and how to perform them safely as well. Finally, she taught us about emotional connections during sex (and how they could differ between one person and another), we were taught that it was always ok to say no and that it was always important to allow others to say no. We were taught about the pitfalls of linking love to sex when it wasn't always about that and not to expect one to equal the other, but also encouraged to only have sex if we were really ready for it rather than for the sake of it and to always be safe while doing so. We probably leaned other things I've forgotten too but that was the jist of it (it was a busy couple of classes!).

    We also learned the technical side of things in sciene class, covering everything from the female reproductive cycle, how the penis works and obviously how pregnancy happens. No seperation for that one obviously, boys and girls learned about both because go figure, our school realised we all needed to know even if it wasn't happening to our bodies.

    All this happened in 1st/2nd year, can't remember which.

    So yeah. TLDR good sex education which covers both the emotional and physical side of things does exist :)

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    How funny you saw the same video, Popk1n

    Lovebirds: Your sex ed sounds amazing! I'm hoping it is more like that now than what many of us received.

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    Great to read you had such well informed, unjudgemental and open sex education classes at school lovebirds and that all topics were covered not just the basics.

    I'm hoping that my own children will have much more positive sex education classes at school when they reach that age than we did back when it was all very embarassing and awkward for teachers and pupils. We quickly watched the videos, blushed like a beetroot or passed out in some cases and didn't mention it again till high school and even then it was very much biology diagrams and basic mechanics with no indepth discussions about the risk of sti's or all the contraception choices available except the obligatory carrot with the condom demo and still no mention of masturbation, consent, respect, boundaries or emotions.

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    My daughters are now 21 and 23 and received very little sex ed in school. I've always been extremely open with them about sex (as I'm sure you can all imagine). I had the necessary chats with them at what many considered quite an early age but when my eldest daughter started her periods at the age of 10 she new exactly what to expect, no embarrassment, confusion or fear. We've discussed all manner of sexual practices....physical, emotional, anal, masturbation, bisexuality (as I am) and everything else you can think of. They have NEVER been afraid or embarrassed to come to me and ask about anything......and I really treasure that x

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    I forgot all about this post must've been the excitement of sex lol

    Aww that's really good Terri I hope to give the same sorts of education on it if I ever have kids. If they're too embarrassed for me to talk to them maybe I'll write stuff down and tell them any questions to write them for me and hopefully LH will be stronger than ever and I can guide my kids to the forums

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