• Kissing with tongues

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    dirtylips [sign in to see picture]
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    OK I have been with my oh for a very long time but he never uses his tongue to kiss me. I find this really odd I have said to use his tongue but he still doesn't, I don't enjoy kissing him. I love him to bits though. I remember when I was a teenager, also a very long time ago being kissed properly and enjoying it.

    Question is it abnormal not to use your tongue to explore or am I abnormal for not enjoying kissing my oh who I have been with for about 25 years.

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    Neither is 'abnormal'. I personally hate that word, as everyone has and is entitled to their personal preferences. The issue isn't about who is 'normal' and who isn't, it's about whether you can find a compromise that will result of both of you enjoying it, so it may be worth discussing with him.

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    No such thing as abnormal in my opinion, we all like different things! I used to hate tongue kissing but then I discovered my partner is a great kisser, unlike the bad kissers that have just stuck their tongue in my mouth in the past. Maybe he's worried about his technique? Or it's possible it is something he just doesn't enjoy.

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    rainbowbaby [sign in to see picture]
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    Does he use his tongue well in other places? My OH can't use his very well, he has tongue-tie which we only recently discovered when our baby was diagnosed. can he stick his tongue out all the way?

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    My man never kisses me with his tongue and I prefer it this way because... he is actually not very good at tongue kissing! >< I have tried to make him improve his technique but it didn't really work and he told me he didn't really like it, so we just kiss without using our tongues...

    I got so used to this (we've been together 10 years) that I actually wonder if I would still be able to kiss with my tongue lol!

    I think you should just talk to him and ask why, it's the best way to find out. Maybe he just doesn't like it, maybe it's something else, he is the only one who can tell you!

    And as the others said, there is no such thing as abnormality

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    There are no rights or wrongs when it comes to kissing. If you are using the tongue then perhaps you need to avoid the woody wood pecker pointed tongue. As I am perhaps a romantic type of guy then kissing is an Impotant part for me/us .We do use tonguess in kissing and we enter twine them and suck each others lips as well .It's very passionate and intense but it forms a very important part In fore play and during the finAl penetrative sex session.

    But everyone can be different.

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    The better half and I love this

    And Mysteron is exactly right in what he says

    In fact "you took the words right out of my mouth" 😀😀😀

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    The better half and I love this

    And Mysteron is exactly right in what he says

    In fact "you took the words right out of my mouth" 😀😀😀

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    Try searching for deep kissing on a porn site, though it will be two women, it may give you something to show him what you mean.

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    mysteron wrote:

    There are no rights or wrongs when it comes to kissing. If you are using the tongue then perhaps you need to avoid the woody wood pecker pointed tongue. As I am perhaps a romantic type of guy then kissing is an Impotant part for me/us .We do use tonguess in kissing and we enter twine them and suck each others lips as well .It's very passionate and intense but it forms a very important part In fore play and during the finAl penetrative sex session.

    But everyone can be different.

    YES YES YES

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    Each to their own I guess. When me and my OH are kissing randomly during the day (I.e. As a greeting or an 'I love you' etc) we don't tend to use tongues. However, when it comes to sex, we tongue kiss all the time. It's one of my biggest turn ons actually!

    Does he say that he doesn't enjoy it, or does he just not naturally do it?

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    dirtylips wrote:

    OK I have been with my oh for a very long time but he never uses his tongue to kiss me. I find this really odd I have said to use his tongue but he still doesn't, I don't enjoy kissing him. I love him to bits though. I remember when I was a teenager, also a very long time ago being kissed properly and enjoying it.

    Question is it abnormal not to use your tongue to explore or am I abnormal for not enjoying kissing my oh who I have been with for about 25 years.

    Ugh! I had a boyfriend like this - it drove me crazy! (and not in the good way).

    I guess each to their own, but I've never understood not even using a little bit of tounge. I don't want to play tonsil tennis, but something that makes it an 'intimate kiss' rather than a regular peck is important to me. 

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    Just Jenson [sign in to see picture]
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    ive always been a fan of tongues, but with an element of etiquette and decorum. That is until I went on a few dates at the end of last year with someone... from the very first kiss she jumped down my throat with her tongue that I was shocked! As the dates went on, the kissing didnt improve and I just couldnt get into it whatsoever

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    I'll do no tongue kissing as a greeting/goodbye but during sex or any time it's passionate, there will be tongue. I've been out with good and bad kissers (or rather people who kiss in a way I don't enjoy) but the bad kissers have to improve for me to stay with them. It's a fundamental part of intimacy for me.

    Neither of you are abnormal, although statistically your OH might be unusual. How "normal" it is really isn't important. The important thing is that you're not enjoying kissing your partner. Have you ever talked to him about tongue kissing? Is it something he is averse to or just something he doesn't do? He may be willing to try if he knew it was something that really mattered to you. Perhaps if you discuss it, you will find there is a compromise.

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    dirtylips wrote:

    OK I have been with my oh for a very long time but he never uses his tongue to kiss me. I find this really odd I have said to use his tongue but he still doesn't, I don't enjoy kissing him. I love him to bits though. I remember when I was a teenager, also a very long time ago being kissed properly and enjoying it.

    Question is it abnormal not to use your tongue to explore or am I abnormal for not enjoying kissing my oh who I have been with for about 25 years.

    Ah the old kissing question! The sexual activity that we indulge in more than everything else put together, and yet we guys get it wrong more often than not. My theory is that that when we are youngsters starting out we want to kiss the girls, but who tells us how and where, are we expected to know by looking at people on TV or at the cinema. Our other big mistake is that we don’t ask or listen to how a girls wants to be kissed, especially as teenagers, and let’s be honest, once we get past the first few kissing sessions our minds and hands are on other things. But as I say, it’s the most sexual thing that we do, almost daily, so why don’t men take more time to learn the skills of kissing?

    As for tongues, do they need to be entwined around another person’s tongue every time you kiss? I don’t think so! We all must learn and get used to using different technics. Wifey loves me to kiss her neck, it’s the quickest way I can get her aroused, but on other occasions I need to be more passionate, I need to hold her head tightly and search deep into her mouth with my tongue, and she also, but then you have to change the speed and return to a more gentle kiss to the lips, back to the neck, up to and a nibble of her ear lobe and then your tongue tickling her ear, and then back again to lips.

    I’m normally a quiet shy person who over the years have become more confident with myself, but with a few long term girlfriends and a very long term wife I put the practice in during my teenage years and have never had any complaints, but then again saying that, wifey still says to me, “that’s a husbands kiss” now do it properly! So guys never let your guard down!

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    dirtylips [sign in to see picture]
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    Sorry when I posted i meant when we are going to have sex. I have said but he is a shy one, we have been together a very long time but he's still very shy about telling me what he likes. He loves it when I kiss his jaw line, well he moans a lot. I just presumed everyone kissed with their tongues it may sound very naive but I have only ever been with him sexually, the kiss I remember was just that a kiss, maybe it is bigger in my head.

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    Like I said before there are no hard and fast rules about kissing. Some like using their tongues aka French kiss,.soime don't .

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    Sometimes you read something and then thak goodness as are couple we are normal.My wife doesnt like lots of kissing and very rare is it tounge kissing.If I kiss her too much she tellsme to stop being sloopy.

    Even on our wedding at the altar it was just a quick peck on the lips.I guess its becuase we are both shy and dont wish to make any scene in public. it doesnt mean we love each other any less.

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    pete_perv wrote:

    Sometimes you read something and then thak goodness as are couple we are normal.My wife doesnt like lots of kissing and very rare is it tounge kissing.If I kiss her too much she tellsme to stop being sloopy.

    Even on our wedding at the altar it was just a quick peck on the lips.I guess its becuase we are both shy and dont wish to make any scene in public. it doesnt mean we love each other any less.

    Yeah its whatever is comfortable between you and your partner. Nobody elses views or methods matter .We are all different and thats why it takes some time in finding the right partner to settle down with.

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    God, I miss kissing with tongues!

    We kiss frequently when we're together, but they're just pecks. OH used to be such a fantastic, passionate kisser when we first got together, but now he doesn't bother. I've tried initiating it, but it rarely happens these days.

    I know this is going to sound odd but he can touch his nose with his tongue and it really turns me on - wish he'd use it on me in any way/shape/form

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