• Book on Female Domminance and/or ideas

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    Alicia4Ever [sign in to see picture]
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    Have you used internet dating; i'm trying it now. After 5 days I had a woman contact me, white British she imediatley asked for my email off the site; she seemed to be overflowing for me. Then I realised that her use of language somtimes seemed odd; Like she said getting your emails make (no s) my day seem more glaring. Like don't you mean brighter. Then alarm bells rang, I reported her profile and it was immediately removed from the site, along with all the e-mail sent on site.

    A little research turned up an article in the news papers that said that a woman had recently met a man on the site and had been talked into giving the guy 1.6 milliom pounds; it was a scam and 2 guys were arrested.

    Then theres the profiles; many go along the line of woman 49years 5' 2" seeks profesional male aged 30 to 40 height min 5' 11", athletic build, attractive.

    wheres a 5' 6" guy like me at 50 going to find some one on a dating site.

    Anyway I'm going off thread so will end this here. try some of the sugestions I made like giving mistress a name; and perhaps give the spanking a rest for now and just play her body servant, let her get used to telling you what she wants along those lines. And settle in for the long haul, you may not get much out of it for you just now but it will pay dividens latter.

    I will keep an eye out for you here if you want to talk more just ask; I would love to help you through this if I can, as I'm feeling pretty useless here, so helping you will make me feel that I have some use in this life. I just don't want to push you too hard, but I do feel that you may be a little scared of denting her confidence to the point where you are no moving forward.

    god luck for now, I would love to know you get along; I feel maybe we could be friends on here.

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    Internet dating wasn't around in my dating days. No it was the old fashioned meet a girl in a pub or club .In those days 80 s and 90 s ,single night in my town was Friday nights in the main.

    Just received today the first 2 titles.Both of them contain chapters on D s life styles which will not be happening in our household.In the Hesitant Mistress book there are some good useful chapters on getting my more assertive ,which I think will help her.

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    Let me know how it goes, and please let me know if you want more input from me, I don't want to just rattle on as I can tend to do, at length; It's living alone it's made me talk too much if anyone so much as offers to listen. That and the joy of helping out another, using my own experiences.

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    Well its early days but she has already made a start.In stead of "Don't forget to check the back door " I got a "Check the back door" ! A bit more like can order!

    As long as it doesn't go to her head .

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    Let it go to her head, thats what you want, only say yes mistress, when she does, so she gets a reminder of the impact of how she speaks, and she may add please darling next time, and it should also make her realise that she is being assertive; I would hope it makes her giggle too, then you will know she is enjoying her new found assertiveness. You just don't want her turning into some of the men I know. I know you will use the right tone of voice to say yes mistress so she does giggle about it.

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    I won't be calling her mistress in normal every day life that is a no no as we have a teenage son. It won't be a big life style change as we have a Co op partnership which works. I just want her to have a bit more say and that's all it will be

    For bedroom that may be different but what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom.

    I also feel that her being more assertive will stop our teenage son from getting his own way with her all the time .

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    I won't be calling her mistress in normal every day life that is a no no as we have a teenage son. It won't be a big life style change as we have a Co op partnership which works. I just want her to have a bit more say and that's all it will be

    For bedroom that may be different but what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom.

    I also feel that her being more assertive will stop our teenage son from getting his own way with her all the time .

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    I knew you wanted it to stay in the bedroom, as far as things getting naughty are concerned, I wouldn't want to be calling a partner mistress all the time either. but I know I couldn't hold up the dominant role in a relationship all the time; I will need a woman who will take control of things as an when the mood takes. This mutualy agreed ebbing and flowing of the dynamics in the relationship for me would keep the statis quo. In fact I would hate to have a domineering wife, as I was involved in a violent relationship as a young man. Being a sub from time to time is my way of asserting my self; strange as it may seem, for me it is about feeling safe to relinquish control to a woman, and knowing that I can put an end to it any time I choose, and even turn the tables knowing that she will only let it go so far.

    Knowing you are unable to stop a woman being violent towards you, and loving her so much you can't walk away, destroys your mind and will; in my case for half my life.

    My intention was to make it playfull in day to day life for awhile to help her be more assertive in day to day life by making it a fun game. And sure it would after be as and when appropriate child wise. you could substitute with yes darling I will check the back door. It's much easier to change the way you feel about behaving in a certain way if it's fun to do. having you son hear here you say you will perform a requested action with respect to your partner may get him to think about his behaviour with his mum, particularlly if you get your partner to to say thank you darling, showing him he can get a verbal reward for for behaving appropriatly; though I don't envey the effort she will have to put in to stop him walking all over her.

    sorry i'm rattling on again.

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    Thats sound advice mate thanks

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    Thanks mate, I'm glad to help and still here as and when, it lifts my heart to know that the crap I have had in my life has some purpose.

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    Videos on porn sites do it for me. Loads to see how, what to like or not to onve you watched them.

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    Did try that trick of calling my Mrs Mistress tonight to gauge her reaction .She smiled a laughed when I brought her a cup of coffee like I normally do. Then the imaginary whip was thrashed in my direction. It was quite funny and maybe sign of things to come.

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    Thats great you just opened the living room door; now you lay the bread crumbs out to the stairs and up to the bed room via the bathroom.

    Next time follow up with would mistress like anything else, then follw this sequence. Does mistress want anything else, (now up the stairs) would mistress like me to prepare her bath. Does mistress want me to prepare her bath. Would mistress like me to undress her for her bath. Does mistress want me to undress her for he bath. Would mistress like me to wash her. Does mistress want me to wash her. (now into the bed room) Would mistress like me to perform any other personal services tonight. Does mistress want me to perform any other personal sevices to night.

    May I be so bold as to ask misress's name, as I'm so new. I do so hate having to perform unusual services for mistress at night, I hope misress isn't preparing any surprise tasks for me on a night time as I hate surprises I'm so new at this you see; I would hate to disapoint mistress by not giving her the best services I can, because mistress surprised me.

    Now she is in the bedroom, and thinking about what it may be like to surprise you there.

    On last thing lets put away the whip for now; a mistress's soul purpose sould not always one of dishing out punisment. A mistress may live out her entire life being happy to simply demand that certain services be performed for her pleasure, when where and how she wants them. Which is exactly what you want for her.

    Now you talk to your Mrs and set boundaries, and hopfully she will now have the confidence to become mistress at will. But when mistress wants to move on to the whip or bondage or what ever; you can talk about it as Mr and Mrs first. Now it's a mutually accepted part of you love life that can come and go as either of you please.

    Don't forget that slave can provoke mistress into appearing if she is absent for too long.

    Have fun because thats what this is all about, and take all the time she needs to lead her to the bedroom, but don't dally ethier, watch for the signs that she is ready to move on, and lay the next crumb.

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    Thanks mate

    I will be stepping it up jokeingly this wekend to see if there is any response. I think its far too early to set boundaries as such .

    Unfortunately she had another bust up with our son again last night and I had to intervene so she has gone back to mouse mode at the moment . This is going to take plenty of time to manage .

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    Just follow the order in which I set out for you to lay the bread crumbs and don't skip a step. As you can see each step has 2 parts would you like, and do you want, so she can get used to the idea of wanting something for her self. I put setting boundaries at the end, from what you have told me I figured that she was going to have to make it to the end of the trail of bread crumbs for that.

    Maybe the humour of you stepping it up will tempt her out of mouse mode, laughter, is a great healer.

    Try being a facilitator between you Mrs and son, rather than stepping in and sorting the matter, I know it solves the issue quickly but it undermines her authority over your son in front of him, so she steps back not up, and he is leaning that it takes you to stop his behavior, which is enpowering him, support her position, make him have to back down through her, with you there to watch him do that. Express disapointment in him, he is seeing you as the dominant male stepping over your Mrs to stop him and emulating you with her; as his male personallity is telling him a man should do. He needs to learn that he is way on the wrong end of being a real man, who helps and supports women to empower them in this male dominated world; and that men who walk all over women just because they can are arse holes not men.

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    I will give it a go .

    As regards the son issue I am going to have to have a fatherly chat with him but being careful as well, as its tough for him at school with the added complication of just started dating a new girl .

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    Great that talk right now may stop him ruining his new relationship, with a misguided idea of what being a man is really about, so many men out there never learn this lesson, and they make it so hard for the men who are next into a womans life, and it is a lesson that women are often forced into learning early in life.

    My issues were the opposite total lack of self confidence which is so unappealing to a woman, but something arse holes are full of. And I let it go on from that bad experience when I was 22 to very recently.

    Sounds like the problems at school may be what is behind his attitude, he may be trying to assert himself there, and practicing on his mum the easy practise target.

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    Could well be . I'll find out more on the Parents Evening next week

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