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    Couple looking to spice things up [sign in to see picture]
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    My advice, run for the hills 🏃x

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    ladylou321 wrote:

    Thank.you everyone I really do appreciate your.honesty and comments.
    I have asked him not to contact me again.
    Thank you x

    Well done . I think you have saved yourself a lot of potential trouble.

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    j&lxxxx wrote:

    This sounds like a scam to me, pay him nothing, and dump him fast.

    A very typical type of scam, I dare to say

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    Jeez now subject to a barrage of abuse cos I've told him no.
    Why so I get myself in these messes.
    Ah well another dom will come along one day and then hopefully.it will be right x

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    ladylou321 wrote:

    Jeez now subject to a barrage of abuse cos I've told him no.
    Why so I get myself in these messes.
    Ah well another dom will come along one day and then hopefully.it will be right x

    Sounds like to me he wanted to dominate you in more than one way Ie control of your money as well as your body .

    I think you have had a lucky escape .

    I am, sure you will find someone better .

    Take care x

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    beautifulrainfall [sign in to see picture]
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    I know that you have already sorted this out and told him to get list which was 100% the right thing to do but I wanted to say something I think is important and not everyone realises.

    The submissive needs to be in as much control as the dominant and have as much say, just in a different way.

    First thing ever discussed should be safewords and limits on both halves (tops have limits too)!

    My Sir always checks in on me and even when he is punishing me, I know that deep down I can always put a stop to it and he won't ever hold it against me.

    He also pays for as much as I do, gives amazing cuddles and massages and makes my food for me as I'm a disaster in the kitchen. He's a gentleman everywhere but the bedroom at which point I decide to give control over to him up to the agreed limit.

    If at any time you don't feel appreciated, respected or cared for.. Leave! You should be their priority because if they don't care about you, they can really cause you damage both emotionally and physically!

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