• Little help from the ladies

    Burgen1 [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Captain
    • Posts: 12
    • Joined: 2 Dec 2015

    During the past couple weeks, missus has found climaxing difficult, clit going numb when using bullets and struggling to orgasm, anyone experienced this? Is it psychological? She says the sex is great just it goes numb for some reason, we've tried massages and stuff but it seems we're evolving into more kinky sort of stuff to get her off which she's intiating, anal play, light spanking and things but still struggling to get a decent orgasm for her.

    mysteron [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Field Marshall
    • Posts: 6867
    • Joined: 7 Jan 2014

    My wife had a similar problem . The Wand we has was perhaps too powerful cauisng her to have a numbness sensation . It could be a similar case to what your wifes experiencing. If that is the case you may need to go easy on the toys and perhaps use less poweful ones . If you can narrow it down to one particular toy then you can either replace the batteries with used ones or don't use the toy. With our wand we just don't over charge it and its fine .


    [suspended user]

    suspended user
    • Rank: Field Marshall
    • Posts: 4332
    • Joined: 16 Jan 2015

    I have trouble with that if I use my wand for too long! I just can't pop and yes it feels numb! I use it on low nearly all the time now and it 's great!

    CocoGirl [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Colonel
    • Posts: 132
    • Joined: 27 Sep 2010

    This happens to me when I over use my bullets.
    It completely desensitises my clitorus after a while.

    I usually just take a break from toys and revert back to fingers only, or as Ozz said- use a toy on a very low setting.

    Fun Louise [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Field Marshall
    • Posts: 5472
    • Joined: 30 Mar 2015

    I would recomend this http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=33304 for her. All the patterns and constant vibration are fully adjustable in intensity, so it should be great for her. The lower settings are very gently.

    im still writing my review for it, it's not powerful enough for me really, but great control options. Well worth a try.

    Purring-Pussy [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Field Marshall
    • Posts: 3676
    • Joined: 11 Jun 2012

    It has happened to myself on the odd occasion. I find no sex toys and masterbation for a short period tends to help.

    bex1213 [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Field Marshall
    • Posts: 1115
    • Joined: 26 Jan 2011

    I think this is quite common. Yes it might be the strength of the toy and overstimulation. For me, though, I've gone through this once from a toy and then subsequently because I was stressed out that I couldn't climax. It's not the be all and end all. Massage was a good idea. You might also want to try something like this: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=24569. Helped me out a couple of times. Hope it gets better!x

    myghost [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Field Marshall
    • Posts: 1732
    • Joined: 30 Dec 2012

    May just be a case of over stimulation and too frequent a use of vibrators i have had times where i found using a vibrator every day made reachig the big 'O' progressively harder till i couldn't get there at all taking a break (several days - a week) bought things back to normal

    Housewife182 [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Lieutenant
    • Posts: 19
    • Joined: 22 Sep 2014

    You say you have had to evolve into more kinkyer things. Why not take it back to basics? Teasing and touching no toys. Maybe just have a few 'make out' sessions. Then go for it.

    Also this is a good cliterol stimulant http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=14886
    Really getting the blood pumping.

    I hope your OH finds her orgasum soon. :)

    Friday13 [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: General
    • Posts: 706
    • Joined: 19 Feb 2015

    I get this fairly regularly but then my body does hate me (weird nerve and muscle issues all over my body). I've pretty much given up on clitoral orgasms alone apart from ones from oral sex. Sometimes it is psychological but it may be that the bullets are just too buzzy for her or she's pressing down on the clit too hard. You could try putting something between the bullet and her skin, such as underwear. That sometimes helps stop me getting numb.

    My solution is to focus on the combination of internal and external stimulation, using a dildo internally and just hands externally. I have much more satisfying orgasms that way too.

    Another thing that sometimes helps is throwing some pain into the mix or holding my breath as I get close to orgasm. I find that with buzzy bullets I only have a few minutes before I get numb so I've got to pull out all the stops to beat the clock.

    Burgen1 [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Captain
    • Posts: 12
    • Joined: 2 Dec 2015

    Thank you for all your replies, glad to see its fairly common, wel take back to basics just teasing and building tension I think, il let you know how goes;)

    Laveila [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Field Marshall
    • Posts: 2532
    • Joined: 8 Nov 2010

    I have to agree. Some more powerful toys can do this, but the solution is usually really taking a break or using them on lower settings. Also maybe use non vibrating toys, such as dildos. I admit I do enjoy the glass or steel dildos also for clitoral play and the good news is that it does not cause this issue.

    Good luck, I am sure that it will sort itself after few days off stronger vibrations.

    wildflower [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Field Marshall
    • Posts: 4087
    • Joined: 17 Jul 2013

    Yes , this happens to me especially if I've used my wand too often ! I just have to go back to good old fingers for a while and it sorts itself out after about a week or so :)

    Post a reply to this thread

    Please sign in to post messages to the forum.