• How old are you and is your sex life improving with age?

    SweetHoneyBee [sign in to see picture]
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    ooooo Maccess what a good idea ;0)


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    a nice fruit cocktail..

    Cunning linguistics [sign in to see picture]
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    Our love life gets better all the time


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    yep i agree there it's matured quite well with us too 33 years now and still loving it

    WakkaWakka [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm 24 but only lost my virginity when I was 21.

    Have to say though, we'vve grown a lot together and try new things all the time.
    The more open we've become to things, the more amazing it's been.

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    i'm 20, lost my virginity at 19, me and my bf usually do it in the same positions him on top then doggy rarely do foreplay, i would like to try more things but we're both really tired from work.

    Hopefully it improves.

    OneButtonSuit [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm 33 and I think my sex-life was best when I was about 25. My current OH and I are on a bit of a dry spell. When I was 25, I was dating a para-legal from Farnborough who went like a train. We went to swingers clubs - fucking on the dance floor while everyone watched, adult sauna's, dirty weekends with enormous toys, dogging, Club Liberty - down near Jordan's house, we made naughty videos. God it was good!

    Gaggin4it [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi folks, first post for me but some advice would be great.

    We are both in our 40's, she would go mad if she found out I was posting on any web forum but really desperate now.

    Got really down at some of the posts that say their sex life is better, our sex life was alright at first and has steadily went down hill for the past 24 years.

    I have tried everything I can think of, talking to her for hours before the yawns made me realise she was fed up listening, things would be a little better for a couple of weeks and then go back to the same as before.

    I've spent a fortune over the years on sexy underwear & toys, some were not even used before being dumped, I've explained that I need more than just a quicky every couple of weeks but nothing changes, I honestly feel as if I've wasted 24 years of my life and a good sex life will never happen for me.

    If she didn't keep telling me that she loved me then I thnk it might have been over long ago.

    Any ideas I have for making things better are either shot down in flames right away or never happen, broken promises are a constant thing in our sex life, think she only agrees to them to keep me quiet.

    Before I give everyone the idea that nothing ever happens, she has a rabbit, which she likes but probably only uses once a month, It took me 20 years to convince her to even try it, we have tried some other sex toys but only once and said she prefered the rabbit, which I understand.

    Recently she found out I was on a porn site, It was a site which showed girls masterbating, she went mental at me but after discussing it she said If i wanted to watch someone doing that then she would do it, I'm still waiting for it to happen and when i mention it there is always an excuse.

    I would love to have a great sex life, just to have it three or four times in the one day just to know what it was like, i would love to watch her using her rabbit, I don't think it will ever happen and the older we get the less chance there is of it happening.

    Anyone in the same position that can offer any advice apart from leaving her as I love my wive very much apart for the sex everything is great but it would be good to talk to someone who is in the same kind of situation.

    I look forward to your replies.

    Alicia D'amore [sign in to see picture]
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    Hello there Gaggin4it and welcome to the forums!

    We have a few members in similar situations to you so I suggest you have a read through these two threads



    Very useful information and feel free to contribute to those threads or start your own thread for more specific advice.

    The forums are a great place to talk to like minded people in every situation under the sun. I hope you find something useful here!

    Take a look at the welcome thread and rules here: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/inside-lovehoney/289975-welcome-to-the-lovehoney-forum/ and dive in.

    It sounds like you're at the end of your tether - hopefully you'll find something useful here.


    Gaggin4it [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi Ad

    Thank you for the welcome and the links to other posts, will defo have a look.


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    You're more than welcome G - I hope you find them useful .


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    Hi G4I, I think I know where you are coming from. I'm a little younger (37) but I'm in a similar kind of situation with my wife, who I love very much. I don't think I've ever been satisfied with our sex life since we first got together. I was her first lover, and I'd always hoped that as our relationship progressed, then so would the sex.

    There always seems to be a reason for it, whether its stress, work, baby, or just general tiredness. We get ebbs and flows, and sometimes I think its getting better, but like you its usually short lived. A long time ago I got to the point of not trying to initiate sex with her, because as you probably know, rejection hurts, and trying not to get your hopes up just seems safer.

    I've heard about some women going into sexual overdrive in their 30s and 40s, so I'm always hopeful that at some point in the future, something will "click" in her head, and she'll want more.

    At the moment, I'm going through a slow period. We can blame having a 1 year old baby, or other family stresses we've been going through this year, but it doesn't really matter. It was the same with the stress leading up to our wedding, the only difference this time is that looking after a kiddy is physically tiring for us both, as we no longer have any free time to at least try and be intimate.

    I've found myself sometimes going in a sex-life self destruct mode, getting some perverse pleasure out of how long its been this time, and wondering whether it will beat the last long wait. I think my current record is 8 weeks, but that doesn't include when she was pregnant.

    So, the end of a very depressing and rambling post is that I don't have any answers for you, but maybe a bit of brotherly solidarity will help. We aren't alone.


    PS, sorry if I depress anyone!

    dirk diggler69 [sign in to see picture]
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    hiya all

    in response I have to say that I am as horny now as I ever was. My erections are rock hard, I last longer and come harder than ever. Don't know whether its down to healthy diet, correct supplementation or moderate exercise but my partner can't cope with the intensity of my orgasms.

    Am so looking forward to trying one of the prostate perineum vibrators and the fleshlight stamina training device. My partner won't know what's hit her

    And for your information I turned 48 in October 2010, so lots of life left in this old dog!!

    Have a very sexy christmas and new year and be good to each other

    dirk diggler69


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    Dirk you ol dog glad to hear your still flexing the pink oboe and your sex life is like mine still on the up .i'm a bit older then you but can still raise more then a smile ..happy yuletide and and good stuffing too

    happy one [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm 49 and i have to tell you just recently divorced my sex lif is better than it's ever been

    boobaloo [sign in to see picture]
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    we are both 31 and our sex life is better than it has ever been, we do it more than we did in our 20's even with a baby and a 10yr old we still try and make time for it as much as we can.

    easy_tiger [sign in to see picture]
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    My sex life is out of this world i am 49, i just get hornier and hornier with age and it helps that i have got a fantastic and very very horny wife. p

    sweetlove666 [sign in to see picture]
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    it's hard to say for me. I first had penatrative sex when i was 18 and i'm only nearly 21. I'm also single so i don't get sex that often.

    I have had 2 "full" sexual partners and one who was foreplay so i have gained experience, just not much. I do think that sex gets better with age if you are in a relationship. but to be honest im more or less at the same level of experience as i was when i started

    Vohaman [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm 25 and my sex life has skyrocketed after breaking out of a stale 6 year relationship. Its definitiely getting better with age and as I am only young I'm expecting great things in a few years =)

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    My OH is 54 and I'm 41,and yes I turned 40 lost a load weight ( 7 stone) and our sex life went from being good to being limitless,there are no real rules and we have and will try anything once and then probably a bunch more after.I used to get laid when I wanted now I get laid at least twice a day.I know it's me that has changed and my OH has responded in kind and very enthusiastcally to the new world we are exploring

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