• My wife has never had an orgasm!!! any tips or toy suggestions?

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    Mymy

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    My partner had the same problem just never finished e tried a few of the cheaper toys with no real results in the end we gave in and went for a proper wand (http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=33013) and eventually she got there.

    But i can't stress enough for us anyway it was as much a mental thing as it was a physical thing she just never relaxed properly meaning she could never quite get there so be patient concentrate more on her enjoyment rather than aiming for the finish line

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    Lelo Ina wave if that doesnt give her an orgam i dont know what will xx

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    Got to be a magic wand! If it's more of a metal thing she might be best using it on herself at first until she feels relaxed and comfortable with it. It's a very big bulky looking toy but always gets results. Quite often multiple ones!!

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    I was going to say a wand but then that's a personal choice! It'll depend if she's able to orgasm vaginally or clitorally too! We're not all built the same, but have fun finding out.

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    Thanks for the ideas and tips

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    Eat that pussy! Suck that clit! Durex play o is amazing! I have trouble Cumming but trust me she will get there. Just make sure there is no pressure and everyone is enjoying themself's.

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    The pink clit stimulator on this website is unbelievably pleasurable! You can also use it on other areas of your wife such as on her nipples, ears & neck etc. It has several speed opinions & has never let me down I use it everyday! I would highly recommend this for your wife & also as another bonus get her to use it on you its my fave toy! Best of luck & best wishes to you both. X

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    G spot? Have she found hers. That may be a breakthrough for her.

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    Clitoral stimulation mixed with g spot stimulation. Never failed me.

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    I personally orgasm better from my g spot / blended, took a long time to figure that one out. I agree with the posters above about her mental state. I have a close friend who was in her late 30s before her first orgasm and it was related to mental state / ability to relax and enjoy herself during sex.

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    Key is has she been able to have one on her own, if she hasn't "played" solo and explored herself she cant expect you to know what works and what doesnt.

    Relaxing is also key, orgasms dont happen otherwise.

    She needs to find whats key for her, if clit or gspot is best or the combination.

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    This is exactly the problem that my wife has, she knows it, but she won't do anything about it (yet) because for once she knows that I'm right when I am trying to communicate this to her.
    She's never been into pleasuring herself, she's 22 and she's doesn't masturbate.
    She doesn't relax enough, and when we get close she gets that ''urge to wee' feeling.
    There is nothing I can do really but assist her, but until she learns to relax and identify what works for her, then she will never know the feeling of having an orgasm. The frustrating thing is that when she does have one, I know she will want more and more and it will work wonders for our sex life.

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    Sir Psycho Sexy wrote:

    This is exactly the problem that my wife has, she knows it, but she won't do anything about it (yet) because for once she knows that I'm right when I am trying to communicate this to her.
    She's never been into pleasuring herself, she's 22 and she's doesn't masturbate.
    She doesn't relax enough, and when we get close she gets that ''urge to wee' feeling.
    There is nothing I can do really but assist her, but until she learns to relax and identify what works for her, then she will never know the feeling of having an orgasm. The frustrating thing is that when she does have one, I know she will want more and more and it will work wonders for our sex life.

    How wonderful it is to hear that you are comunicating this with her! Well done you! Can she go to the loo before hand? I do always and after! Could she be confusing the feeling of needing a wee when ideed it could be her about to give her all to you? They can be confused if your body isn't used to giving. Worth a thought at least. She's a lucky girl to have someone so attentive by her side :)

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    Ozz wrote:

    How wonderful it is to hear that you are comunicating this with her! Well done you! Can she go to the loo before hand? I do always and after! Could she be confusing the feeling of needing a wee when ideed it could be her about to give her all to you? They can be confused if your body isn't used to giving. Worth a thought at least. She's a lucky girl to have someone so attentive by her side :)

    She does go to the loo beforehand, and after, always! haha. Yes i believe she is confusing the feeling of needing a wee and 'giving her all to me' unfortunately. I think the key is for her to explore her own body, which i have discussed with her. Its a work in progress and i am sure she will learn to relax and give it a go. I bought her a body wand which we haven't got full use out of yet so hopefully that might be of help to her if she needs 'assistance'. Trouble is she can be very stubborn and like i say, the fact that she knows im talking sense for once, she doesn't like being wrong lol.

    And thankyou :)

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    Sir Psycho Sexy wrote:

    Ozz wrote:

    How wonderful it is to hear that you are comunicating this with her! Well done you! Can she go to the loo before hand? I do always and after! Could she be confusing the feeling of needing a wee when ideed it could be her about to give her all to you? They can be confused if your body isn't used to giving. Worth a thought at least. She's a lucky girl to have someone so attentive by her side :)

    She does go to the loo beforehand, and after, always! haha. Yes i believe she is confusing the feeling of needing a wee and 'giving her all to me' unfortunately. I think the key is for her to explore her own body, which i have discussed with her. Its a work in progress and i am sure she will learn to relax and give it a go. I bought her a body wand which we haven't got full use out of yet so hopefully that might be of help to her if she needs 'assistance'. Trouble is she can be very stubborn and like i say, the fact that she knows im talking sense for once, she doesn't like being wrong lol.

    And thankyou :)

    I see! A good choice with a wand, utter bliss! Commnunication seems to be flowing which is key and you're doing that which is great, keep doing it! lol Hopefully she'll start to feel more comfortable and be able to let go with your guidance.

    You're very welcome :)

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    Honestly.. Some women cannot orgasm off penetration alone and this is more common that people think ..other than my hubbi there was only 1 man that has made me orgasm.. So it won't be ur fault

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    Oral sex, a nice wand or a rabbit with g spot stimulation.

    For penetration, maybe a cock ring that has a clitoral stimulator, though personally I can find these a bit hit-and-miss, so a wand during sex usually haves me shaking!

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    Housewife182 wrote:

    Eat that pussy! Suck that clit! Durex play o is amazing! I have trouble Cumming but trust me she will get there. Just make sure there is no pressure and everyone is enjoying themself's.

    +1 give her a good licking, suck her clit, circle your tongue around her clit hood and finger fuck her, and she'll come like a train!

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    Maybe you could get her this book to help her with ideas and any mental blocks: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=34290

    And it may be worth using a kegel trainer: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=32417

    Here are my absolute favourite toys that are definitely worth a try:

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    Wickedly Tempting Bullet (although silencer seems similar and cheaper): http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30890/http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30215

    Erotic rocket: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=33367

    this amazing glass toy: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=32877

    and the humdinger: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21149

    Click my name if you want to read my reviews on the above. Good luck!

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