• anal beads for wife and I

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    kevwards7788 [sign in to see picture]
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    hey guys. i got some anal beads for my wife on her birthday and today we are about to use them. she was scared of them at first even though they are not at all intimidating, but she has never had anything up her anus before so i guess its a normal reaction. I told her she doesnt have to try anything that i wouldnt do myself. i am also open to purchasing a set for myself for prostate stimulation. my question is this. i eventually want to have anal sex with my wife but i need her to relax and stop worrying about the possible pain. I would just like some advice on how to give her pleasure if she is nervous about trying them. she really does want to but i would like to give her a good experience like she gave me from a pegging a while back

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    poppycat [sign in to see picture]
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    If she's worried maybe try with your little finger lubed and build up from there. Once she feels more confident it will be easier for her to relax and try more anal play

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    So many good advice on here already on this topic! Please use the search bar on top of the forum pages and you'll find lots of advice!

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    Scorpius12 [sign in to see picture]
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    The most important thing is to is to take things slowly and stop immediately if anything hurts or is uncomfortable. Make sure you use lots of lube - this is essential – I use either Sliquid Sassy or Maximus - but there are lots of anal lubes on LH to choose from:

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=11373

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=13084

    As for anal sex, it may take several sessions before you are able to penetrate her fully - just take as long as you need and build up very slowly. Just get used to playing with your fingers for a couple of sessions and enjoy those sensations before you try again - you can try to build up to 2 fingers then 3 fingers.

    Also, have a read through this LH guide which may be useful :) xx

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex/better-anal-sex/buyers-guide/first-time-anal-sex-guide/

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    Terri JJ [sign in to see picture]
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    Scorpius12 wrote:

    The most important thing is to is to take things slowly and stop immediately if anything hurts or is uncomfortable. Make sure you use lots of lube - this is essential – I use either Sliquid Sassy or Maximus - but there are lots of anal lubes on LH to choose from:

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=11373

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=13084

    As for anal sex, it may take several sessions before you are able to penetrate her fully - just take as long as you need and build up very slowly. Just get used to playing with your fingers for a couple of sessions and enjoy those sensations before you try again - you can try to build up to 2 fingers then 3 fingers.

    Also, have a read through this LH guide which may be useful :) xx

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex/better-anal-sex/buyers-guide/first-time-anal-sex-guide/

    +1 .....anal can be extremely pleasurable for you both...but never, never rush it xx

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    sugarboobies2232 [sign in to see picture]
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    Anal can be absolutley mind blowing. But remember you cannot just "walk through the gates of mordor". It can take a bit of time to become adjusted to the feeling of something in your ass so make sure she is comfortable and do not rush, if you rush into her with anything it can be crippling. I'd suggest to try first with a finger or two gently pushing against her, then insert them slowly when she is ready WITH LOTS AND LOTS OF LUBE. If you're using fingers before beads.. please trim nails!

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    Kinkybutcommited [sign in to see picture]
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    I think the best thing is lots and lots of lube. Start with just a finger or 2 for a few days then build up to the beads and then once she is comfortable having them in then take it to the next stop. Just go slow and use a good lube. I personally use maximus as I find some anal lubes that desensitise can smell a lot like toothpaste and ruin the whole pleasure/pain sensation. Also let her go on top so she can take you as deep as she wants and she is in control for her first time as doggy etc can be a little to deep for a first go. Don't be afraid to keep adding more lube.

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