• What is this urge?

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    Tr1cky D1cky [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks V, yes its a very difficult subject but think I need to experience the extreme end of the spectrum first I think and may put me off or msy turn me totally bi but think too long about it sometimes and maybe just get it out the way..... the wife would not look at it openly or objectively.....

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    Tr1cky - just because you fantasise about something doesn't mean it's necessarily something that you will want in reality or enjoy

    Are you attracted to men generally or is this something new that's happened?

    If you have any respect for your OH you won't pursue this whike you are with her, as that would be unfair on her and what happens if you don't enjoy it? You can't go back saying you changed your mind

    Why not introduce using toys on yourself into your sex with your OH, I for one love pegging my husband and using toys on him... Maybe once you are getting that stimulation you desire then that would be enough for you?

    Unless you are sure what you want it's not worth sacrificing your relationship and certainly not worth cheating over. If you're 100% that you want to enjoy fun with men then you need to explain that and ultimately if you want to pursue it then end the relationship

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    We are an open minded bunch, and we will support you in anyway we can.

    Do you feel able to talk to your wife about these thoughts? Have you had these thoughts before?

    Do you have anal sex with your wife? If you do you could ask her if she would consider role reversal. Some ceramic dildos will alow for warm play by filling them with hot water. It will not be the same as a real penis, but introducing another person into your sex life and marriage is a VERY big step.

    Personally I think an open conversation with your wife is key, it's going to be difficult and awkward, but crucial. You must consider that she may not be supportive of your desires to have sex with another man.

    On a practical note, buy yourself a but plug. A nice glass or metal one, suitable for temperature play, you may find this satisfies your needs for now.

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    Don't worry too much about it. I spent years denying I was Bisexual, now I'm comfortable with it and don't care what people think. If its just fantasy stuff you could check out cottaging.co.UK there's some good forums on there.

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    memarks wrote:

    Don't worry too much about it. I spent years denying I was Bisexual, now I'm comfortable with it and don't care what people think. If its just fantasy stuff you could check out cottaging.co.UK there's some good forums on there.

    Thanks memark I'll have a look and maybe get further understanding behind what is going on...
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    You're quite a guy getting that out there about the way you're feeling. Everyone here have only positive things to add to your predicament hun. It is a shame you can't talk more openly on here, I suspect that would help. Can you facebook or whatsapp someone so you can really open up freely?

    I can't offer anything except I think you need to express your feelings on the subject to your oh at some point. We're here for you buddy x

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    Thanks its not easy but I have a couple of gay mates that have as they put it 'We'd help if you want to turn to the darkside'.... they'll love this conversation but they'll be supportive...

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    That's brilliant huni..is it a dark side? haha I don't think so from what I hear. You've got the support at every turn, use it! x

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    he just messaged back with about 50 haha's....

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    Do you watch a lot of porn?

    If so, because of the regular release of dopamine, your 'tastes' start to vary to give you a new buzz. It's all about novelty. You start looking at more extreme material to get off. What you used to look at no longers does the trick. A lot of heavy porn users develop something called HOCD.

    I don't know the rules about posting links, but check out yourbrainonporn. It's quite fascinating and it might help.

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    I have just had this with oh , when we first started experimenting with anal play he had a time when he want sure if he wanted to sleep with another man , fortunately we have a very good relationship were we talk about everything openly , so we added strap ons and more anal play into our bedroom routine , he said he never felt an attraction to other men but couldn't understand why he felt like he did , ends up long story short that he doesn't want a man we had just unlocked a different kind of sexual pleasure for him and he loves it , needless to say our sex life is 100% better with plenty of experimentation

    I no I was happy that he could tell me how he felt and its made us stronger x

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    I have to say. I have had these thoughts and urges. Turning me on a little reading this. So your not the only one. I love my o/h to use a strap on. She has but is v reluctant. I love it.

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    Not sure what your friends were haha'ing at but I think a lot more people have these thoughts than you think, me being 1
    A lot of people probably wouldn't admit to it.

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    Yes. It's brave to admit it. Lately I've been fantasising about being taken by a post op Transexual. Stroking me as I am entered. Also taking a cock in my mouth and feel it throb as they cum in my mouth. Feeling quite horny after letting these thoughts out.

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    My friend was having a giggle, he and I had a conversation today which does mirror some of what people have been saying... Problem is he is a smart arse within phycology and a science degree... he's being very helpful and understanding.

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    At least he is there for you to talk to about it.
    And wind you up ha ha

    One of my OH's fantasy's is to watch me with another man.

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    Have been thinking about you since you posted your thoughts Tricky D1cky x

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    Yeah hope everything's okay not heard from you or email? X

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    This is really common thou most men will not admit it well done for being so open. Many years ago a guy sucked me off and it was the best blowjob ever had! Apart from that all my experiences been with women but most the time when wank think of either mutual oral or a bi MMF threesome

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    Hello people, yeah been very busy with general life things and not really thought about it too much, my friend had been telling a few stories... which have been enlightening... but still no further forward at home either...but I'm good in myself in general thanks guys

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