• So just watched porn.. Got some questions if anyone can help? (All welcome)

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    Kirsty92 [sign in to see picture]
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    So thought I'd watch some porn and it was just a guy masterbating but I've realised something and have a few questions now I know porn is usually full of trickery and isn't to be expected but...

    How long does it usually take a man to come? This guy took nearly 15 minutes, by then I was done three times over (am I too quick because I'm a virgin? Is there a way to slow myself down?)

    When he finished it wasn't particularly a lot or a fast explosion like people always make out it kinda happened suddenly but a slower flow than I expected.

    It was good and hot to watch but now I'm just worried I'm expecting more/less from a guy. I thought they didn't take as long, came a little bit more (not lots more) and came a bit harder and faster (it's why I've been worried about oral because I've been told it shoots down the back of the throat at like 20mph and is a heck load) was this more realistic for porn? I don't mind if it's "normal" it was hot just don't want to have high or low expectations on what happens

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    Philp23 [sign in to see picture]
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    It depends really but the guy was probably using a delay technique to stop himself.

    I wouldn't take to much from porn as it's as you pointed out full of trickery haha

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    mysteron [sign in to see picture]
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    Everyone is different .

    But don't take porn films seriously they always make people look better and sexier than they really are .I suppose that is the whole idea to impose an effect on the viewer.

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    Boogaloo [sign in to see picture]
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    I wouldn't take anything you see on porn at face value, because it's so far from the real world (one of the many reasons I don't watch it).

    Ultimately how long somebody takes to climax depends on the guy, and I guess what they're doing. One of my ex partners couldn't climax at all (very frustrating!), we'd try everything and do it until I was red raw but he'd never ejaculate, whereas other partners have been very quick.

    All of the partners I've had do come 'hard and fast' as you say, but that could just be a coincidence. I'm sure everyone is different :) it's best to not have any expectations at all, and certainly not expectations skewed by porn, as it really is down to individuality.

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    kc. [sign in to see picture]
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    How quick a man can achieve orgasm is going to depend on a whole host of things including their age, when they last ejaculated, alcohol, how aroused, what sex act is being performed. The list could be said to be endless and is going to vary from man to man. I could come in minutes but other times have gone for 15 minutes or much longer before cumming. There is no set rule. Sperm may shoot out but at what speed I have no idea, the amount can vary and usually there would be more if one had not cum for a few days. There are ways to control the ejaculation into the mouth, by applying pressure as the man cums, releasing and then apply pressure again. This can stop your mouth being flooded with cum. Not everyone likes to swallow either. Glad my wife does though.

    Don't forget this was porn you were watching, it will be segmented and cut, stop start filming. They don't want a scene over in two minutes.

    I'd suggest you research on the Internet for advice on techniques as well and don't forget that we all started out as virgins and learnt the hard way so to speak, personal experience which included both successes and failures. Can I just say don't do what you don't want to do either but if you didn't like something to start with doesn't mean you won't at some stage in the future.

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    Kimberleyking [sign in to see picture]
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    porn is ful of lies please dont compare yourself to what you see in porn its likedly he took a delay pill or used a delay lube or even just jused his mind to stop himself cumming. peopel who are virgins and inexperienced look to porn for answers and it isnt where you should be looking its full of lies and hardly anything is real yes they may be having sex but thats not what sex is like in real life pelase do not look for answers in porn.

    funny you should speak about oral usually its not going to shoot down your neck you usually have to swallow wilst it is happending as it can be a mouthful but that said it depend on the man.

    i once had a partner who i was riding for 2 hourse straight before he orgasmed 1 this is extremly frustrating and feels like i wasnt getting know where. My fiance coems hard and fast and usually only lasts between 5 -10 minuets and its always hard and fast with him appart from when i used a doxy wand on him and it came out lie a volcano

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    Kirsty92 [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks everyone I know it's only porn and not to take it at face value but I just wondered how true this can be? Hopefully I can last a little longer with "training" I managed to teach myself to go more than once one after the other so I'm sure I can delay things a little on my end.

    Just thought maybe 15 minutes was average or too long was surprised because I managed to go like three times and he was still going on by then I was like nah stuff this my arm will drop off lol

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    kc. [sign in to see picture]
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    I should add from my own experience too with my wife that I can make her have multiple orgasms whilst we are having sex to my one. Back in my much younger days I would recover that much quicker though. In my experience women have more orgasms to us blokes

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    the truth is... nothing is like it is in the movies!

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    I had so many ideas of what sex was going to be like before I'd done it due to porn but none of them were true, sex isn't sex if it's all so perfectly done and filled with flattering angles, sex is sweaty and messy and there's no time limit! They don't show that side in porn, at least not in a realistic way. I'd say to ignore what happens in porn, it's fantasy and staged.

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    Basically every man is different. Theres guys that cum after 2 seconds and guys that takes hours with every variation in between. It also varies with the same guy from day to day depending how horny we are or how long its been since we came last. Theres no hard (hah!) and fast rules for it. Its the same with cum, the amount and how you ejaculate varies greatly.

    A guy should really let know if hes going to cum when you are giving oral but it wouldn’t choke you or anything even if he did go off unexpectedly.

    Its good to be curious about the opposite sex, im sure people here are happy to answer any questions you have.

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    I agree with others and what they said, porn is not all it seems. Staged, choreographed and edited. Most porn stars generally have a higher sex drive so no doubt the guy wanks a lot, pretty useful for long porn movies for them to wank before because then it'll take them longer to climax and Orgasm. Generally the reason why he may not of cummed much or very far although as with the time it takes for a guy to cum and how much it's very relative to the individual guy and were all different. If I'm really horny I can Orgasm in minutes, if I want to play longer for half hour to an hour I could, pretty much a psychological thing, we can stop ourselves unless we have a medical condition that creates premature ejaculation. But yeah there's lots of things porn stars do which in reality were all different. X

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    Yeah I know it's not real just made me wonder what is. I don't mind when it comes to variation feels a little more settling that woman orgasm more than guys thought it might seem selfish if I'm there having 2-4 orgasms in one go and they're only managing one or twoish.

    With porn it's obvious it's fake and I know that just makes me wonder what is real and stuff.

    Also kinda relieved to be told I won't choke during oral I really like the idea of it but it's always been a little bit of a worry that I'll choke (or gag but I'll over come that currently giving a little practice on my vibrator just to start)

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    I dont think any guy would begrudge you a few extra orgasms! :) But do bear in mind that the sensations are very different during sex and just because you orgasm easily with your tried and tested methods this doesnt neccessiarly transfer to sex. I know that if I 'get off' in the same manner alot then I find it harder to get off in any other way.. I think body's get used to singing to a certain tune after a while. 

    Dont worry about oral, it wont shoot dowwn your throat unless you are deep throating which if you can do as a begginer.. I take my hat off to you. :)

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    Dali256 [sign in to see picture]
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    I think most men would be very happy for their partner to have lots of osgasms and them just have the one.

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    Haha I don't think I'll be trying deep throating just yet. And oh I hope not just thought it may come across as selfish if I do have several but I'd just tell them it's coz they're so good. I know I may not be able to orgasm as easily through just penetration but I'm hoping I can coz it'll feel really awkward if I'm getting no where and it won't be his fault it'll just be because I'm not used to it.

    Just so long as I can make a guy happy that's all that matters

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    Kirsty92 wrote:

    Haha I don't think I'll be trying deep throating just yet. And oh I hope not just thought it may come across as selfish if I do have several but I'd just tell them it's coz they're so good. I know I may not be able to orgasm as easily through just penetration but I'm hoping I can coz it'll feel really awkward if I'm getting no where and it won't be his fault it'll just be because I'm not used to it.

    Just so long as I can make a guy happy that's all that matters

    It matters that you are both happy!

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    Kirsty92 wrote:

    Haha I don't think I'll be trying deep throating just yet. And oh I hope not just thought it may come across as selfish if I do have several but I'd just tell them it's coz they're so good. I know I may not be able to orgasm as easily through just penetration but I'm hoping I can coz it'll feel really awkward if I'm getting no where and it won't be his fault it'll just be because I'm not used to it.

    Just so long as I can make a guy happy that's all that matters

    We all start somewhere, I didn't orgasm for the first few times I had sex but since then it's been fine if mixed with clitoral stimulation! its not awkward it's just your body getting used to new sensations :)

    sex is for both people so both of your needs and happiness is important!

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    Kirsty92 wrote:

    Haha I don't think I'll be trying deep throating just yet. And oh I hope not just thought it may come across as selfish if I do have several but I'd just tell them it's coz they're so good. I know I may not be able to orgasm as easily through just penetration but I'm hoping I can coz it'll feel really awkward if I'm getting no where and it won't be his fault it'll just be because I'm not used to it.

    Just so long as I can make a guy happy that's all that matters

    I wouldn't believe eveything you see in a porn movie! That's not reality.

    Well said too! it's all about making each other happy, not just him! I can't orgasm with penetration vaginally but will with anal and clitoral stimulation.

    That's what's so good...we're all unique when it comes to relationships and sex! xx

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    I'm not an expert as far as women are concerned hahaha but, I was lead to believe women take a lot longer and need more stimulation in order to Orgasm. So if you're managing pretty easily and quickly, surely a bit of an advantage haha. Don't feel you're under any pressure, takes a lot of trust between two people when having sex, I'm sure you won't be disappointing your other half, if at first you don't suceed then try again. There's no right or wrong, it's about how it feels and your happiness being intimate together, what's wrong for you may be right for others so just have fun and enjoy yourself. Xx

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