• Do i have premature ejaculation

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    ace88 [sign in to see picture]
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    ello, I am 20 years old. I am still a virgin and unfortunately I have been a porn addicted my entire teenage year and masturbating for many times. I am beginning to have a relationship but I am afraid that I am suffering from PE. So many times that I get aroused when watching porn my fluids keeps coming out then I can't help it when I feel the urges to masturbate . It takes only a full minute or so after being completely aroused. I am terrified of this problem and I hope I don't have it. I am currently cutting back on all porn sites. But How can I be 100% sure that I suffer from PE and If I am, How can I treat this problem? please guide me and I hope.
    One thing to mention is that when long time passes without porn or masturbation I can feel my urges stronger and I erectile easily so is this an indication that I don't have PE or that It will take small time just to recover from this issue because I fear that I will ejaculate soon after entering my girlfriend. Or It will be normal to ejaculate easily the first few times only then I will adjust to the feeling?

    Sorry for all the trouble and thank to you in advance.

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    i really dont think you have PE, what you have is a penis that has had perfect stimuli all its life. when you mastubate, you apply strong pressure, fast, so you ejaculate fast. try stopping before you come, letting the feeling settle down, then going again, try using lighter pressure too. you probably will come very quicky after entering your girlfriend, most lads losing their virginity do, does she know you're a virgin? if so she should understand. have you ever tried mastubating right after ejaculating? it should take longer to ejaculate the second time, it could be worth mastubating before sex if you know when its going to happen unless you struggle to maintain an erection after mastubating as the stress could cause you to not get an erection at all for your first time.

    basically, no you probably dont have ED, yes you will probably ejaculate quickly on your first time. but its perfectly normal and it will settle down

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    RetroSpazzKat [sign in to see picture]
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    I wouldn't worry to much about it.
    It's normal to come quickly whilst masturbating, I know my man doesn't take long at all whilst masturbating but can also give me a long and lengthy love session as well.
    I wouldn't cut out masturbating as that can actually make you quicker to cum if you haven't experienced any stimulation in a while and go about having sex. I know in our experiences my hubby has come rather quickly if he is pent up.
    I agree with young and fun, if you can determine when you are going to have your first time (such as if she tells you to come over or you invite her over) I would suggest you masturbating beforehand. Often Cumming before actual intorcourse can off hold the next ejaculation for a while. So if you feel that your first time might be that night I would suggest you master bate before she comes over or going to her place. Then take your time with foreplay so that you are ready for your first go around.
    The key is to try and relax and just enjoy the moment. If she knows you are a virgin she will understand and if she is too then don't worry since I'm sure she will be just as nervous. You don't have to worry about making it her best sex session ever just make if fun for you both and you will eventually become better at it. Nobody is perfect especially on their first try. ( :

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    illtakethehighroad [sign in to see picture]
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    Really don't worry about it masturbating is total different sensation to sex. Us blokes can roll off a wank quickly, sex is different.

    Don't be too hard on yourself, yep wanking before hand will make the first time longer but really even if you are experienced, sex with a new person is fumbly, and akward until you know them and more importantly what they are like. If I haven't had sex for a long time it doesn't last long! Secret is I know that is the case and am older and wiser and am just tell my OH.

    I would almost go as far to say the first time is a relief to get it out of the way and then you can build on it and get experience with your partner. And I would say be honest. Really being a virgin now matter how old you are is nothing to be embarrsesed about. And bloke to bloke nerves can make getting it up as big a problem as not lasting long.

    Take the pressure off you by being honest and make her feel wanted by saying I will try oral if you show me how you like it. Lastly never forget porn is nothing like real sex, don't even try and copy it. I am an old and the stuff i watched when young on betamax had mad plotlines with lots of pubes and consentual sex. But now but a lot of modern porn seems heavily based around men dominating women with neck chokes and hard slapping and calling them bitches. Really thats pretty degrading for most women and nothing like good consensual sex with a willing partner

    All this is hard when you are starting out but we have all been there and had lots of embarrassing ttales to tell

    Good luck!

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