• Couples with very different sex drives - how do you overcome it?

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    We've only been the once to be honest and it was in a lockable room with glory holes, so we had no eye contact and didn't even know who was popping through, but she got her 6 or 7 during that time.

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    bharool wrote:

    We seem to peak at different times of the month. My OH is particularly rampant just before and during her period. I'm not so sure about me, depends on what I have been 'researching' online.

    Where we differ is how much my OH needs during a session. I am the stereotypical once a nighter so prolong it with lots of foreplay, oral and things that mean I don't get too much attention downstairs. Even then though she will want more 5/10 mins after and I am just unable to continue.

    We found the perfect solution at a sex club but I know that's not for everyone.

    This was an interesting post, nice to see a guy spending so much attention to his OH, specially down stairs.

    Why do you think you can't continue? is it because she's not attending to your needs down below and all around? That extra 5-10? does that mean it's like down periscope?lol

    Not sure I could go to a sex club!

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    I have always been the same I think, I just need a prolonged recovery time so I try to make the first session last as long as I possibly can by mixing it up with other things. I'm not exactly premature but at the same time I'll not be appearing in any porn films anytime soon.

    It's not just down periscope, tortoise and shell come to mind ha ha.

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    That said, in the 'blue pill' thread I mentioned I was able to have a 5 nighter after a viagra.

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    Ozz wrote:

    Not sure I could go to a sex club!

    I have always kind of wanted to explore the scene but about a year ago, for a bit of fun by text, we decided to make a list of 5 things each we wanted to do. Things like in the car, on the stairs, go out without underwear, in the park, sex club ha ha, stuff like that.

    It was quite exciting just coming up with the list but we gradually needed to tick them off and the sex club was the last one.

    We need to do a new list now

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    Haha! :) 5 NIGHTER!! jesus! Awesome stuff ...

    I needed a good giggle this morning! and I'm sure it's not!!!!!!!!! :)

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    No one was more shocked than me and this was even after loads of champagne and wine as it was valentine's night, which usually means even less action from me.

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    Oh drink kinda kills it for me! I'm still horny but jesus it takes me for ever and a day to explode or even cum! I get there in the end mind!

    Yeah I see what you're saying, we've never done a list, but we're more a on the spur of the moment people.

    But a sex club! having fibromyalgia makes you extremley self conscious and not too sociable, so I don't think I could put myself in that situ!

    Way to go you guys though ;-)

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    Oh it was definitely intended as just a bit of voyeurism as there is absolutely no pressure to do anything and we hardly spoke to anyone else the whole night lol. I think my most frequently used phrase was 'two glasses of red wine please'.

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    Haha you're hysterical!

    Bloody brave!!!

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    So what is a sex club ? Is it similar run to a swingers club but you keep to your partner and nobody else but you can socialise with others ?

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    I guess it is a swingers club really, but you are not required to do anything. Play by yourself, play with others or just watch. If you want to watch others and then play in private it's all good.

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    I still don't think I would have the balls to go to one!

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    Thanks in confirming my understanding . I have seen some documentaires on singers clubs so just confirms my lines of visualising the whole concept. You certainly can't be shy in these types of clubs but I suppose once you get to know everyone the shyness will dissapear.

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    It's hard to explain really but the way this particular one was laid out made it easy to detach yourself from the sex stuff if you were feeling a bit shy. There was a bar area with seating areas and people were mostly dressed there. There were about 5 different play areas that led off from the bar, some were couples only and one (the only one we used) was lockable.

    We literally sat on the sofa most of the night, mainly because we got there way too early, but after a while more people turned up. You could then tell when something was happening because you could see people heading off to the play areas. Most people stayed fully clothed, removing enough clothes to have sex if they were playing. There was just the one fully naked lady wandering around.

    We could have avoided it all if we had felt so inclined but this might have been our one and only visit so we went and watched for a bit and like I say, locked ourselves away in the private-ish room for about 1 1/2 hours.

    We were in shock for a couple of days after, probably thinking what we thought of each other ha ha but we have chatted since and would probably go back for similar fun. I don't think we want to do the whole swinging thing.

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    Whilst not my cup of tea or I should say not my Ohs It doesn't sound as extreme as those I have seen in the documentaries such as Sexetra( I worship Kira Reed ) or Sin Cites .Bot these series are now quite old so maybe things have moved on a bit . I think footsie at the bar is probably our limit but its good to see that no one is pressurising you into something that you may or may not like. .

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    Corinne, it's one of those things to experience with no risks to be honest as long as safe sex is practised. You are pretty anonymous so you could role play if you wanted. If you ever wanted to be watched this would be the place to go rather than dogging where there is no rules really.

    Just set the rules between you before you go. If you just want to watch then agree that but also agree what your limits are should watching turn into playing.

    Anyway, I think I have derailed this thread enough :-)

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    I will give it some serious thought!

    Sending naughty pics on social media is where I'm at right now...Thanks bharool x

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    Mysteron, I researched this place thoroughly for about 3 months before we went lol.

    I read reviews and scrutinised the rules and they were thoroughly upheld in the club. For example there is a white line around the beds in the play areas that no-one can cross without being invited by the people playing. There is absolutely no touching without permission, NO absolutely means NO.

    I'm glad we did it but can also appreciate it's not for everyone.

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    bharool wrote:

    Corinne, it's one of those things to experience with no risks to be honest as long as safe sex is practised. You are pretty anonymous so you could role play if you wanted. If you ever wanted to be watched this would be the place to go rather than dogging where there is no rules really.

    Just set the rules between you before you go. If you just want to watch then agree that but also agree what your limits are should watching turn into playing.

    Anyway, I think I have derailed this thread enough :-)

    I disagree I think its been quite relavent . I am sure others would also find your posts useful as well .

    Nice one

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